Wedding Forum - Bridemaids (going to pull my hair out)...

I have 3 bridesmaids and every dress i have showen them the hate it starting to really annoy me as there sending me dresses at 100 quid and stuff which i have told i cant aford as i am pay for all three i need advice on what to do i was think of just picking a dress and telling them if ur not going to wear jog on. but dont want to be so harsh :s anuone else had this problem? xx

me!!!! lol i couldnt get one of them near my home to discuss things so i went out and bought monsoon dresses in their sizes my adult bm was gr8 and loves the dress i chose even wants to buy it off me after the wedding :) but the girl who is meant to be my MOH i havent seen sight nor sound of her since 23rd dec when i called to her with the xmas presents for her and the girls. last time b4 that was halloween which is a weekend away i organise each year for us!! seriously p!$$ed off and i am defo telling her she is no longer my MOH after my bust month ahead when i have time to tell her to her face!

i'm so sorry your having major issues over this but my advice is go with what you want and make them fit around your choices unless they want to pay xx

my MOH had a say in the dress - but The other two didnt! They will just be given what they are given!! They are 15 and 16 years old, and as far as Im conserned when you agree to be a bridesmaid you agree to serve your bride and make sure she is happy on the day.

I remember when I was a bridesmaid for my Brother i thought I dont care if the dress isnt nice because people will know i didnt pic it! so its not a big deal!
who gives a s hit!

I am afraid of what my sister who is MOH will say, she is very picky and nothing is good enough for her, she wants everything to be about herself, I chose her as MOH but tbh she isn't helping a bit (agreed that she's abroad) but is starting to fuss about dress when I was describing what I want, and starts saying that she'll only wear it during ceremony then change into something more convenient than a long dress, and refuses to wear a short one due to a massive scar on her leg due to accident, so if she keeps behaving like this I love her to bits she will be no longer in the party but just a guest.

I would find it an insult if they changed out of their dress after the service. People expect to see them in their outfits. The evening guests certainly would. Its not about her on your wedding day its about you. I can understand her not wanting to wear a short dress if she has a scar on her leg but it wouldn't hurt her to wear a long dress for one day.

I know that to a certain extent that they have to feel comfy on the day but there is a limit to it. Tell them what your budget is and if they go over it they have to all cough up for it and if your sister says she is only going to wear the dress for the service then tell her you are not even going to bother buying her dresses and flowers etc for her to just wear for an hour. She either wants the role or she doesn't.

thanks jo, I nearly cried when she told me that, and it was a bad time as well as that's when my dad told me no matter where the wedding is he will not come. In France, we don't have same customs than here, she's never been a bridesmaid and has only been to a couple of wedding in her all life, so she does not realize it is a duty and she should feel honoured I picked her above anybody else to be my MOH so whatever I choose and I always try to find something flattering, she should just accept it. If I chose a different dress for MOH in same colour theme than for the 3 other ones would that be OK? or is it better they all have the same dresses?

Thanks girls i am trying to take there size into acount as well as moh is a lot bigger than the other too. i think i will just take her with me now ask her to try on a couple of the dress i like and just get the other ones there and then as i no there sizes then i dont have the hasle anymore and it can get done and out of the way :) xx

You can have them different if you want but it is up to you not her.

Am so annoyed with one of my bridesmaids. when asked originally she said she would contribute towards her outfit-great i thought-but no,she says she can only afford to pay for her shoes(£20)! Being the kind soul that i am, i take into consideration her 3 kids and that her partner left her beginning of year so i have agreed to pay for her dress and bolero and shoes.This is after i already paid for her hotel room for the night. NOW-the best man is playing up and says that if we have paid for the bridesmaids then he should not have to pay for his outfit,WTF-aaargh!!

I have went online to look at drees on the high street i am going on friday with my moh to see what it looks like on if it looks fine i will just get them got to the point now i dont care i have told them all tonight they will all be provideing there own shoes hair make up and if they wish jewllery i am not even paying for my make up and hair its my god mother so there no chance i am getting pushed into that coner it was they were paying for there own dresses around a year and half ago and now i paying think that what has peed me off so much but going with ur advic girls i will get there dress if they dont like it they can lump it and just f'ing wear it :) felling more powerful again :) thanks girls :) xx

I agree with shellay, set a budget and if they want to pay the extra they can! :-)

I agree with kinkyemo - I bet they'd start sending you cheaper dress ideas! xx

honey different shades of a colour all same style is good
same shade same style is good
same shade different style is good
different shades different styles is also good

you need to heve a theme for the dresses colour is a good theme as not all shades or styles will suit everyones body.

tell them your budget and theme state they can choose what they want but it has to follow your rules ie must be a shade of red and no shorter than 2inches above the knee. also give them a time limit, they must have bought the dress and shown you so that you can reimburse them for it no later than 15th april 2011 or you will buy a dress for them if they dont like it well they know how not to be a bridesmaid.

I think we have 1 :) and under budjet hapy days :) xx

I've not had a problem yet. My moh offered to pay for her own dress we compromised and said we'd pay half - my mil is paying for my sil's dress and my other best mate is paying half the dress - mum is paying for junior bm's and we're paying for the flower girls and no one has complained once thankfully.