I need some help on what to get for thanks you gifts for the mums. My mum has been really helpful (written the invitations, sorted out the flowers and chair cover people) and she's contributing towards the costs. My MIL2B seems really uninterested, barely asks about the wedding and hasn't offered any help (not wanting money, but ANY kind of help?) in any way. She hasn't even bothered to RSVP.
My dilema is, if I get a nice thank you present for my mum do I have to get one for the MIL2B also? I don't want to as she's not interested and I don't feel that I should thank her for doing nothing.
Would it be better to get a present for my mum and give it to in the morning on the day? and not get anything for MIL2B?
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CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I would get your mum a present and give it to her when MIL not around. I would be worried hat I upset anyone but thats just me... a big softy
Kirsty xxx
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CommentAuthorMel D
Yeah, I'm worried that I will upset h2b by not getting a thank you gift for his mum, but I REALLY don't want to get her something just becsue I'm suposed to.
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CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I see what you mean, my MIL2B hasnt helped with the wedding as such but she helps me out ALOT with free childcare and house work while Im working. I will be geting her a present even if she doesnt get involved wih the wedding because without her I wouldnt be training to be a nurse right now. She has tried to get involved, I invited her to wedding dress shopping but she was really poorly on the day so she didnt come.
Have you asked H2B what he thinks???
Kirsty xxx
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CommentAuthorljeh92
were getting them both big gorgeous bouquets of flowers and we're giving them after the speeches x
My MIL2B doesn't really have much involvement in our day-to-day lives. She is very self-involved and if there are any family issues she always manages to make it about her. Her sister died a the end of last year, and she wanted h2b to go the funeral in Brighton even though it was a Tuesday and he works in Swansea - we worked it out, it's a five hour drive each way. When he told her he couldn't make it she was really unfair on him and said "but how will it look if none of my kids are there?" NOTHING about the fact she wanted him to drive five hours each way, and she couldn't even put him up for the night!
I haven't asked h2b what he thinks, I'll mention this weekend when he's home.
So you think it's ok if I don't get MIL2B anything?
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CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
If it was me I'd give your mum something special on the morning of the wedding, maybe some jewelley. Then give them both the same when giving out thank you gifts, maybe a special flower boquet or something?
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CommentAuthorMel D
That's a good idea. Although (and I know this sounds really mean) I don't want to get MIL2B anything at all, not even a simple bouquet as she's done less than nothing. I have work colleagues who aren't invited to day or evening who are more interested than she is.
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Im doing my mum a momento bag, with a poem in which is very appropriate will post it in a min when I find it. Also a little photo book of pics of me and her when I was a child and also pics of my mum with my kids. A few other bits and funny bits. Main present though is a lovely swarovski crystal brooch. They are on bay of e and you can choose the colour of the crystals. I have chosen a deep red crystal sorrounded by clear crystals to match our wedding colours. xxx
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Mum Through the years you've been there for all my ups and downs, from friendships, boys and homework to finding wedding gowns.
I want so much to thank you, for all you've given me. Your care and love and wisdom and the lasting memories.
For even though I'm now grown up dressed in silk and pearls remember this my wedding day I'm still your little girl.
With Love .............
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Maybe a good way to solve it would be to you do whatever you want for your mum and leave h2b to sort out his present for his mum...that way if he forgets and she has nothing then its not down to you and he ca't be upset with you for not bothering. xxx
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CommentAuthorHunny Bunny
Oh dee that is beautiful x
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Pinched it from something on bay of e...unfortunately I cant take credit for it. It is very appropriate tho xx
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CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
i'm arranging for a bunch of flowers delivered when all the flowers get delivered in morning for her, she is also going to get my bouquet as i'm not throwing it
CommentAuthorMel D
awwww that poem is so lovely. She'd know I hadn't written it as I haven't a creative cell in my body :-)
Stevie, your idea is perfect - I'll get h2b to get the gift for his mum, and I'll sort mine out.
Thanks girls!
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Yayyy I helped someone! (-: xxx
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
Thats what we are doing....mainly because h2b wont spend more than he has to! He will set a tight limit on his mums, whereas I can get my mum what I want...and he doesnt need to know how much it cost! (-; xx
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CommentAuthoralanafx
Im getting my mum jewellery for her to wear on the day and flowers and also a poem similar to Stevie's on a plaque as she has been an amazing help, mil2b hasnt really helped much but she did come with me and my mum to pick my dress and she helps look after my son whenever i need so shes getting some flowers
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CommentAuthorloubylou
my MIL2B doesnt seem interested in our wedding either, she hasnt even acknowledged we are getting married and im i feel the same about gifts. my mum hasnt really helped with planning but at least she shows interest and she is watching the kids all day and night for me so im definately going to get her a gift. everyone says we still have to thank MIL2B and get her something and worded it as, she brought your H2B up etc etc.... i think i will give my mum her gift in the morning and just get them both a bouquet of flowers to give after speeches, although i really dont want that, looks like thats what will happen. its just added stress i could do without! lol x
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CommentAuthorUnknown
my mum is contrubuting big time to our wedding so think i will get her jewellery and some flowers to give out during the speeches. h2b parents are no longer with usx x
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
we have got compact mirrors saying mother of bride or mother of groom on, plus coz our centre pieces are silk we are giving them as bouquets, and i am making a wedding photo album for my mum as a thank u, coz is is paying half of the wedding xx
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CommentAuthorDellie
I am getting the mums pewter celtic photo frames as we are getting married in Wales x
CommentAuthorLuce21
Hiya,
I have just bought my mum a gorgeous little gift set off ebay. I can put the link on your wall if you want to take alook.xx
CommentAuthorMel D
ooh yes please! I'm really stuck for ideas of what to get her xx
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