Hi guys, I have a lot of people coming to my wedding (120) yet we are still struggling with numbers, we both have big families and large groups of friends.
H2B thinks that anyone who has not got a partner by now should not be given a plus one on their invite. I've just worked this out and it would solve our problem, we would get everyone we wanted in with 5 spaces to spare.
I am not sure tho, isn't it proper etiquette to give people an option of bringing a guest to an all day wedding? H2B argues that he'd would resent having a friend or member of his family miss out for someone we don't know and may have never met, but I'm not sure if this would be rude of us. what are your thoughts? thanks x
02.07.11
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CommentAuthormrs handforth
im trying to cut out plus one as itll cut down on budget but not sure how afew people will react so am like you cant decide x
CommentAuthorKaya
I don't think you should feel you have to have plus 1's at all.... infact I agree with you h2b!! I don't want to be paying loads of money to have someone at my wedding who I've never met!!
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CommentAuthorPennylane
yeah I know it does make sense, I just think a few people will probably b*tch and moan about it! but I guess that'll probably happen anyway no matter what we do cos you can't please everyone as my mum keeps telling me! It would save us a lot of hassle trying to decide who to demote to evening only invites!!
02.07.11
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CommentAuthorMrsC2B
I know it might sound mean ... but we're not having plus 1s. I want to walk down the aisle with the people who are important to me there. I've told some of our friends this and they totally understand. xx
I have been a bit harsh on the plus 1s also. People who at the moment are in long term relationships or who are married will be invited with their partners, but no anyone who at the moment does not have a partner is not getting a plus 1. We are also in a large group of friends so i am not worried about people coming and being lonely / bored with no one to talk to as there are lots of mutual friends in our group, but i am not going to pay for random people to turn up and also given that its a small town the risk of someone coming who we dont want there is quite big if we gave everyone a plus 1 lol
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
My h2b has invited alot of work collegues as have i but we havent included plus ones because of numbers, we have told them they are more then welcome to join us for the reception tho!
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CommentAuthorlisaw
I have only done plus ones for 1. people who have partners already and 2. we know or have met them before. we have friends coming that we havent met their gf etc and have only been together a few months and only inviting them and not their partners. It may sound harsh but I rather have people I know and have grew up with than people I havent met before. I hope that helps.
CommentAuthorPennylane
thanks guys that's good advice, I'm glad I'm not the only one in this situation. I'm sure people must understand my reasoning, it would cost a fortune and be never ending if they all got to bring someone. Thanks for the help x
02.07.11
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CommentAuthorsam73
we only have invited partners, no partner then we have invited them only, some people have moaned to me about it but then i have said we couldnt afford for everyone to bring someone and the venue will only hold a certain number, they then seem to understand
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
I'll put it this way. If I don't know your name, you're not coming to my wedding. ;0)
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CommentAuthorCroc
ive had to invite plus ones on a few people as they wont know anyone at the wedding apart from me or h2b just because if i was invited to a wedding where i didnt know anyone i wouldnt go... but that just my opinion ....
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CommentAuthorVicky
H2B and I agreed no plus one if we had never meet them, although are now having a few little discussion with the people that we didnt invite. Some people are just so rude we have been kind enought to invite them and it costs us £154 per person and they are grumbing that their partner of 3 weeks hasnt been invited (Well okay one person is).. It really annoyed me. Plus properly not even together by september x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
we are only doing plus one if we see the plus one more than once in a blue moon. Otherwise its tough as we need to keep the numbers down too
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CommentAuthorJane
I think its fair enough to not invite plus 1s if they are single, or you dont know the partner. We are openly inviting +1s for our evening reception as we are having quite a small wedding so dont mind how many come in the evening, the more the merrier!
Vicky - £154 per person????? OMG. You are too generous! x
CommentAuthormillwalljayne
I'm the same as Crocadillo.. plus-ones are only going to people who dont know anyone else invited
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CommentAuthorlinzi
the only people that are getting an "and Partner" on their invites are people that are travelling at least 4 hours to get to the wedding and they either dont have a partner and wont know anybody else at the wedding, or have a partner that we have never met.
everyone else is getting told NO! even some friends who might have new partners by time wedding comes round, will be told no. They are very welcome at night
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