We had our wedding prep day yesterday with the church.
It was really good actually. I was alittle bit nervous that it would be abit OTT. But it was a good day with H2B. We also met around about 10 other couples who also getting married this year at our church. So really nice to talk and share ideas.
I got alot out of it and found the day enjoyable.x
CommentAuthorjodie b
what do you talk about in a wedding prep day? i've not heard of them before
and yay to it being good! xx
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Hi Luce. I had my date through for the wedding prep day and I was really nervous, thought it would be pointless, we're marrying because we want to spend our life's together, we don't need to prepare for it other than actually plan the wedding lol but now you've posted this I'm quite looking forward to it! xx
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CommentAuthorLuce21
Basically it was a day of getting to know your H2B and how you both feel about marriage/situations/scerionos/emotions.
So topics covered where:- Communication- so we had little exercises on how well did you know eachother, what qualities we have as communicator, how we can help eachother communicate better. It was good little excerises. Expectations and Love- What do we expect from eachother in a relationship, give and take, shared duties. Supporting one another in mental/emotional situations. The love part of it was the different types of love, and how we can express it to eachother. Handling Conflict & disagreement:-Looked at scernios in life which can be challenging. Talked about how we can handle them and how our other halves know us best. Talked about being open and sharing info. Marriage legalities, practicalities and service content:- well that says it all really.Banns,Hymns,Readings,Flowers,Timings, order of service...etc etc.. Then we had closing reflections:-which was actually very insightful. They showed us a clip about a man talking about marriage and the components that make up a long lasting relationship. He talked about it each individual important factor being a small flame. But add all the components together and you had a massive bonfire. Was very well put & i cant do it justisy trying to explain on here.
Yes it was arranged by the church but its was bible bashing or in your face. It was more like marriage counselling and making you think about issues you might not have thought about as a couple before. I am the more relgious out of the two of us and I was worried H2B would be bored and abit erm figity during the day but we both loved it!
It felt very much like the church saying, please we want you to enter into marriage feeling you know eachother and your not going to get any suprises when your married. Yes you wouldnt be getting married if you didnt but they where basically giving a helping hand. Opposed to getting married in a hotel, where in essence, you get hitched there but if you have problems a year down the line, the hotel isnt going to sit and listen to your problems. Where as if you need a shoulder or you feel you need support, you can turn to the church. Whether you would or not-neither here nor there. But the offer is there!
Hope that helps explain what its like.xx
CommentAuthorYourFirstDanceBride
Thats very similar to our marriage prep course, except ours is spread over 5 weeks in the evening
Yes i have heard it being spread over evening, day or weekends. I personally think it was good. I know some people cant be bothered with it.But it wont and didnt do us any harm.lol.x
CommentAuthorjodie b
it sounds like quite a good thing to do, i dont think we'll be able cause are marrying abroad :( xx
CommentAuthorSoonMrsHingley
Our wedding is ages away so I had no idea that you had a prep day. Thanks for posting this, really good to have an idea of whats to come. And of course congratulations glad it went well xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
We have had our date through but I have uni that day so I have emailed back to ask if we can do it on another day. I'm glad you enjoyed going.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
we have got to do this next year as well. im a bit worried about what h2b will say lol
CommentAuthorLuce21
MrsClarke2b- I didnt tell H2B until a couple of months before-hahaha-then said, i told you about that, right, lol. Its just something they have to do if you want to get married in a church.
If your not getting married in a church, not many other places will offer such a thing. Although I am sure you can go to one independlity. Try typing wedding prep into a search engine.
Good luck everyone who is going to one. From the look of the other couples who attended and how everyone stayed after for a cupa tea and a chat- I dont think anyone thought it was a waste of time. All the H2B that where there seemed interested. Not one didnt pay attention. I think you will see the sensitive side of your H2B. I know mine said things to me and wrote things down that i thought-awwwww, i couldnt love you anymore than I do right now!!!!! Seriously, lovely day xx
