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    • Mel D
      CommentAuthorMel D
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    Hi everyone,
    Both my h2b and I want to go to our venue in the morning of our wedding to make sure everything is set up and looks ok. However, he ssems to think that we shouldn't see each other at all on the day. What are your opinions on this? I think it is ok, as long as we are in "normal" clothes, and not our wedding gear.

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    • luvlifejen (mrs berr
      CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
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    i am sticking with tradition not seeing him before the ceremony xx

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    • shelby
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    Im sticking with tradition as well. You could both go at differant times just to check things are how yous want them, xx

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    • luvlifejen (mrs berr
      CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
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    and if you have questions maybe text rather than talk? i dont think that breaks tradition? haha xx

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    • skitty666
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    we are not seeing each other but its up to you hun!! many are still having the night before together as it will be last night of not being married!! but its up to you hun xxx
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    • Trish Goddard
      CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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    Even tho im getting married in Reg Office.. i have told H2B that he CANT stay at home.. (im leaving from my home) and i wont be seeing him until i see him at the alter x
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    • Unknown
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    we wont be seeing each other and spending the night before apart which i am dreading already xx




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    • ljeh92
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    Were sticking to tradition which will be a nightmare cos we have never spent a night apart! But it's up to you, if your both happy to do that then it shouldn't be a problem :) xx

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    • Mrs-West-2B
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    We are keeping with tradition aswel, we will have dinner together the night before and then hes off, but hes staying at our reception venue so he can keep an eye on everything for me and im geting one of my BMs to go and check everything for me aswel, if i decide i do really want to check t myself im going to get someone to make sure hes in his room so he doesnt see me. I dont even want to talk to him lol x

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    • boo
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    we're sticking to tradition too, but, if you do what Shelby says, you go 2nd then you can rearrange what he sorted lol xx

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    • Mrsd
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    I will be seeing h2b, we will wake up together as normal, then he be dropping me round to my mums to get ready. xx
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    • ~*~ Becca ~*~
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    i stuck to tradition ...we had a quick last kiss on the night before (we were all stayin at the venue) as he didnt get there til late after finishing work late...then didnt see him til i walked into the ceremony room..had my bridesmaid nip to his room in the morning as he needed to go get our wee lad's kilt shoes changed size!!! and he just asked how i was feeling lol

    think it makes it more WOW and more romantic if the first time u see ur groom is the altar but just my opinion

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    • Mrs (Dove) Pidgeon
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    I wouldn't have had time to see him on the day. Although he did have to drop some stuff off at my hotel- bridesmaid met him in reception.

    Don't underestimate how busy you will be in the morning of the wedding- there is a lot to do and you may not have time to see the reception set up- our venue didn't start doing that until a couple of hours before, as there was another wedding the day before, so they had to check out first.

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    • janetx71
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    we were going to stay together as normal then h2b was going to drop me at my sisters xx
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    • GregorysGirl
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    We aren't seeing each other either on the day until I walk down aisle! We will do some of the venue stuff the day before and then we have a company doing the rest on the day. Have to wait a while to see him on the day though as we aren't getting married til 3pm, so hopefully he will go easy on the beers with the best man and his dad! But I will be so busy getting ready and having a giggle with my girls that it will fly by! :) x

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    • Julie Walker x
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    Not sure on this one, I wouldn't have time to check out the venue before hand anyway, but I don't know where he is going to stay the night before. Im thinking he stays at our home and leaves before hairdresser/make up ppl come along but then where do I put the dress??? I don't go along with superstition as a rule. I don't want him to see me ready until we are ready to do the do's but thats only because it's such a novelty for him to see me in a dress I want to suprise him at the venue lol x

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    • RedBee12
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    We are sticking with tradition, and I hate the idea...we haven't spent a night apart in what will be nearly 8 years when we get married so I am not looking forward to it :( I think it depends on whether or not you are superstitious or not - I am!
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    • Rhiannonollie
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    Im not doing it for superstition, i just want him to miss me just enough, and then the next time he sees me I look like a princess!

    Thats why Im not going to see him on the day!! :)

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    • GregorysGirl
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    Me too Rhiannonollie, he is doing it for the superstitious side of him, but I just want him to miss me, and he will terribly as he hates being away from me, and then he will see me all prettiful, lol. I will have to stop myself running down the aisle though, I will have missed him just as much! :)

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    • alimarie05
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    At first we were suposed to be leaving from our house together in the wedding car. now htb has changed is mind and he's gonna look after the kids till i've had my hair done then he's gonna leave me and the girlies too it and meet me outside the register office to avoid seeing me in my dress. with the kids its a little harder as they wont sit still for 2 minutes!!!
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    • x ashlil x
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    im going to my mums the night before and h2b is staying at home, were not getting married til 3.30 and i dont want to see him until the church. Just need to rely on best man to get him there on time and preferably sober lol x
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    • Rhiannonollie
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    haha!!! yes, I think if we had our wedding any later than we are (12:00) there is a worry I would have had a glass to many of champagne to calm nerves!! lol!

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    • Unknown
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    i am getting married at 12.30 and i know h2b will have had a pint. i have told him that if he turns up drunk i wont marry him!! xx




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    • Angelaeris
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    We're sticking with tradition too I'm staying at the venue the night before and H2B is staying at his home as a lot of family from newcastle are staying the night before the wedding. I wont see him the morning of as I want the first time he sees me I'll be in all my finery lol We've booked two rooms for the night before so that he'll have somewhere to get ready too as the photographer is going to be getting shots of each of us as we get ready.

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    • Suzie Bear
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    I'm stopping at my mum and dad's house. Will be staying in my old single bed. I'm looking forward to a night with my parents looking at old photographs :0)
    H2b is goin to his parents too although he needn't but he is their youngest too.
    Looking forward then to seeing him at church :0)

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    • Dellie
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    We are staying in the same hotel he night before but the 2 separate rooms are at different ends of hotel lol..we will not see each other the morning of wedding as we are sticking to the tradition x
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    • Madam Butterfly
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    We are going the traditional route too. Couldn't you go at separate times to check the venue?

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    • becky -mrs firth
      CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
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    i kno its all doen differnly now but i think that shud b done............ will be even better seein each other down the aisle x

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    • Jane
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    H2B is spending night before at his parents... with a crate of beer apparently! I would have liked to check on the venue in the morning to make sure it was how I want it but to be honest I'm not going to have the time and I'm just going to have to trust them!

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    • Croc
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    im a sucker for tradition... seperate the night before and not seeing me until im walking down the ailse to meet him, ijust think it has a sense of romance about it ... plus im not seeing the room until we get there as i want it be a surprise and i want to be vowed too and the way i see it is if i see the room on the day of the wedding before the ceremony i will stress out just incase its not exactly how i pictured it etc etc but at the end of the day who cares once am married i will have more things on my mind than other than the tea lights arent all equal etc etc but thats just me... i dont need any more wedding stress

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    • suzky123
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    we are sticking with tradition and i will check out the venue before 9, he will check any time after that until 12 noon ceremony. Its personal choice though so if you want to see each other then im sure its fine.

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    • bride22feb2012
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    yes i agree with the other ladies - all that tension and anticipation should show through when he sees you for the first time walking up the aisle in your dress...

    you don't want to loose that emotion in the video/photos/guests reactions.

    then your wedding will feel more emotional, i think... get the bridesmaids and best men/ushers to check on everything. that can be part of their responsibilities for the day.

    no reason why you can't go earlier and put all the centre pieces out in the morning - thats what i'm doing.

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    • tilomilo
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    we are sticking with tradition, we are both staying at the venue the night before, and are either going to decide times on who is going for breakfast, or have it delivered to each room. Its going kill me not seeing him, and will probably make me more emotional when i do lol

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    • XLittleMissMe!X
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    I also sticking with tradition but I'm not sure what time we should leave each other the day before. Is it OK for him to drop me off at my hotel the afternoon before?




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    • Katkin
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    Although we aren't having a 'traditional' wedding, we are being traditional in not seeing each other on the day till I walk down the isle :-)
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    • Hunny Bunny
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    I'm going with tradition, besides I'm looking forward to spending the night before with my girlies and relaxing and having fun - am hoping I'll even be able to turn my phone off! I'll be at the venue the night before so I'll be checking the rooms and everything is in place in the morning....
    At the end of the day the choice is yours really (well and your h2b) x

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    • Katkin
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    I'm sure we will talk to each other on the phone the morning of our wedding, I think I will find it impossible not to lol :-)
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    • Stevie_Dee
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    We will both be waking up in the same bed at the venue. We will be having a champagne breakfast together (not that he knows about that part yet) and then after a few hugs hes going to one wing of the building to meet his best men, and I will be staying in our apartment area and the flowergirl and mums will be coming to me. I think the idea of tradition is nice but not practical or wanted for us. xxx

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