Wedding Forum - May have to wait another year :(...

That is an awful dilemma! Could you cut back anywhere so you can keep the same date? There is no point taking on extra work if it is affecting you and your family. It is even worse when family members are not well. My favourite and much loved Aunty is 99 in 2 weeks time and rings me all the time to see if we have set the date bless her!

or cut cost? dont do sit down meal do buffet etc

thanks all. im already only having a buffet, and having the reception in a social club as its cheaper, photography and bms dresses are what im havin trouble with. 2 of my bms are paying for their dresses but the other 4 i have to pay for. 2 are my children, my sis n best friend r both single mums. not sure ehere else i can cut corners. ive got artificial bouquets.... um anyone think of anything else?? x

id feel bad asking them tho, i wanted them 2 be my bms its not fair to say theyve gotta pay for the dress, they r buying their shoes tho

mrs clarke i wudnt feel guilty! why dont u say its ure weddin present from them?

Sorry I meant *looking not laking :) also everyone knows how skint we are so I'm thinking of asking my bm's to pay for their dress although I'm going to choose them something that they think they can still wear afterwards while still following my theme. That way it's like they're buying a dress as per usual but wearing it first on my wedding day...

Life sucks at times! Why does a wedding have to be so expensive? If its any consolation I went to a friends wedding where she had no money and she made it small and got everyone to participate (friends to make dresses, do make up hair etc). You would be surprised how many friends can sew, make a cake and when you get them all together the outcome is amazing as to how many are willing to help.Have to admit it was the best wedding I have ever been to.

can you not explain to your bm the problem and say although you would love them to be involved you cant afford the dresses anymore and they can either pay for them theirselves or not be a bm. i am sure they would understand and as trish said so many people have digital cameras i am sure you can make do without the photographer. just remember the reason you are getting married in the first place and everything else is just extra
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Have-you-thought-about-checking-out-local-Colleges/Unis-for-budding-photographers-most-will-have-the-equipment-and-it-gives-them-great-experience-at-a-fraction-of-the-cost-to-you!!xx

im in the same situation now im on sick and when i go back to work will actually be earning a lot less (nearly 200) and oh has just started up a business kluckily we havent booked anything yet so am looking into cutting back loads!! Not quite sure how yet but there you go!!

one of my bms has a dress already that she willing to wear and the other will buy hers but the other 2 i havent heard from since xmas and i have a feeling they wouldnt be too happy me asking them to buy their own! Though i could be mistaken! what would you do about groomsmen and best man though? we have one of each.

sorry to thread steal!!

i suggested that to ry and he said that they would all turn up in different suits i forgot too we have 3 dads to get suits for aswell as gm, bm and ry. will have a look at the sales etc and say right i need you to get this suit lol it will be our prezzie from you haha even though you get to wear it lots again!! Might ask if they have a nice black suit they dont have to all match specifically just be black.

how about Avon, kleeneze, theses are things you can do during the day when you have the kids, will give them some fresh air and you make money. Or become an Ann Summers party rep. HTH :)

The most important thing about the day is the 2 of you. Having several BMs, photgraphers, matching suits/dresses, 3 tier wedding cakes, etc etc etc are just extras. I've been speaking with family and friends who got married as little as a year ago to over 40 years ago and what they all remember from their wedding days were things like; the looks on each others faces when they said their vows, other lil moments between them (things like them smiling/winking at each other every so often from across the room when they were doing the rounds), and having their closest-n-dearest there - not 1 of them mentioned anything about room/table decorations or flowers or dresses!!

And if you've got as bad a memory as me ask everyone to send you all the pics they take so you have something to look at when you sat together in your twilight years :-D

get a set of blank cds and put them on your tables... each of your guests can take them home and put their pictures of the day on them and send them back to you, my friend done that and got some absolutely stunning shots :) Also ebay for bridesmaids dresses is really good, even for adult ones... my friend bought her bridesmaid dresses long aline style for £30.00 each from china.... they are gorgeous!!

Good luck hun, id hate to have to think i had my heart set on our date and then have to think about changing it... good luck xxx