Wedding Forum - Our relationship is so complicated :(...

Here goes..

I will be 19 when we get married, h2b will be 36. People say stuff all the time and judge us, but we're getting so bored of it now and its doing our head in.. Also Michael has a 14 year old son, also weird and people wont keep quiet about that either. I have a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship.
Michael has been married before but his son isnt to her and he used to be such good friends with her, seeing her all the time and thought so highly of her even though she left him for someone else and took all his money so he had to remortgage his house. when i moved in he still had her wedding dress on the top of the wardrobe after 5 years of been seperated! and only just got a divorce after me nagging him for months.. thankfully they dont speak that much anymore but im constantly having awful dreams about em (i know i shouldnt but i dont ask for them!).
Michaels brother is 43 and his sister in law is 38 so cant get on with them like i should as they're both older than my parents and they never really talk to us that often, Mick had to ask him to step up as his role of best man cos he hasnt done anything for us yet! His parents never bring up the wedding, never ask about it, never offer to help and dont seem to care. My MOH is michaels neice who is 20 and she doesnt seem to give a damn about helping either.
And last but not least, we can't have children :( Michael has a condition where he struggles to have s.ex sometimes and is also diabetic and has been since he was 9 which reduces our chances even more (he would kill me if he found out i was saying all this on here!!) He is really put off doing it which puts a huge strain on our relationship :(

I love him so so so much and he means the whole world to me, i want to marry him and be with him the rest of my life, but our whole relationship is so complicated and im worried about our future.. I will do all it takes to make it last (otherwise we wouldnt be getting married)

Should i be worrying or do you think its just pre-wedding nerves getting the better of me and making me think all this!!?

i think if you love each other then age is not important
but you sound sad and lonely :(
nobody wanting to help with the wedding happens a lot and has nothing to do with you two or age.
why is your H2B neice you MOH and not your own friend ?
if your not worried about having children then that point shouldnt come in to it.
as for your dreams we all have them not always about exs but in some form I know i do but i think it might have to do with nerves im praying mine will stop after the wedding.

good luck hunni

i know what you mean about the age differnence. i am 23 and h2b is 37, people used to mention it and say it was wrong when we got together but no one even thinks about it, least of all us. only when someone says about age gaps do we realise, like now!!

as long as it doesnt bother you two which it doesnt, otherwise you wouldnt be together then just ignore everone else.

As for the s.ex part-me and h2b dont have it as much as i would like as he gets up early and is isnt too tired in the week. we are lucky to have it twice a week. it used to drive me mad but am getting used to it now! I think in most relations it does decrease in amount but as you say he has a medical condition. just make sure you enjoy it when it does happen!!

h2b has 2 children, age 11 and 13 so i am nearer their age then his but again it doesnt bother us. prob cos i am not allowed to see them anyway. but as long as you are happy in your relationship and love each other that is all that matters.

it might be wedding nerves, i have had them aswell already, it is only normal!!

xx

age is but an number! as my mum says i dont have a huge age gap between myself my h2b its 6 yrs but i wouldnt care when i was 20 my boyfriend was 32 and no one even battered a eyelid or they did and i didnt notice haha

if your happy then dont worry as for the s..ex i get that too my h2b has a spinal op last yr and its painful to do most positions but bless him he aims to please haha doesnt really worry me it worries me more when i see him in agony the following day!

as for the ex's they are ex's for a reason! so try not to worry too much he probs just never got round to throwing out the dress or thought she might want it etc..

just be happy and enjoy each and if a bundle of joy comes along then its a blessed event :0) xx