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Family/Attendants Stress: MIL 2 B is doing my head in will this ever end

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- CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
Ok so my MIL2B has been funny with me since xmas. I found out few days ago it was over a text i sent her
A JOKE ( i got my MIL some crouchless knicker for xmas nothing sexual just for a better grip on her broomstick )
well she went mental at me telling me she was going to wear all black to the wedding and bring a broom stick.

Anyways to make amens and show her i was sorry for hurting her feelings (still think the joke was funny but we wont tell her that) i offered to buy her outfit for the wedding if she could spare an afternoon so we can have a look about. To this she informed me she has booked that week off work and might be going on holiday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! well if she does she will be going alone seeing as her husband is best man at the wedding. well after her comment she got up and went home and hasnt spoken to me since. I dont need this added stress right now and she knows it. If this is her way of getting back at me over a silly joke then i fail to see the funny side and neather does anyone else to me she is being spiteful.

am i wrong or is this justifide (sp) payback?

im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right
- CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
its not justified at all she needs to get a grip!! xx

soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
- CommentAuthorUnknown
i think she is being stupid!! if she wants to wear black at your wedding tell her its fine she can wear anything she likes as long as she is there. i bet she wont expect you to say that!!

i am sure she wont go on holiday, she wont want to miss her sons wedding will she.

Just ignore her and let her be. xx
- CommentAuthorFaeth
Hmmm okay I'll admit the joke to me (without knowing the background) was a little tasteless and rude and if it were me I'd be offended, *but* that being said, I think her current reaction, especially to your effort to make amends, is a totally overboard reaction, and I would *never* attempt to ruin someone's wedding by being that petty!!!

But if no-one else is on her side on this, she'll probably come around, or spend the day alone as you say. You've extended the olive branch - there isn't much more you can do.... I think this may be best approached by your h2b or his father when she's calmed down....

"Of course I'm not wedding obsessed!!"
- CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
mrsbarkertobe
I did tell her that when she first said it. I dont think it was what she was expecting and thats why she has done this now.
Faeth I never sent it to be nasty if i had thought for a second it would offened her i would never of sent it. I mean my birthday card from them was about me wanting a big C*** which is more offencive if we was that sort of person.

im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right

- CommentAuthorFaeth
fair enough - I did say I didn't know the background. If you got that sort of birthday card, then that would imply that that kind of humour is acceptable :-)

"Of course I'm not wedding obsessed!!"
- CommentAuthorUnknown
seems to me like this woman should grow up then!! she is acting like a child! xmas was ages ago, so should be all forgotten about.

try to ignore her, i know its easier said than done but as you said you dont need the stress
xx
- CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i will be ignoring her and i wont be going out of my way to sort things out with her. If SHE chooses to miss her sons wedding thats down to her she know when and where it is so as far as im concerned I have enough on my plate with out her acting like a child. Why is it everytime one of the mothers acts normal the other one starts to play up

im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right
- CommentAuthorUnknown
i only have mine to cope with and thats hard enough sometimes xx
- CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would have a word with your h2b and explain how you never meant to offend her and that you have done everything you can to try and build bridges but nothing is going to get resolved if she carries on the way she is. You understand that she was offended by the text but even after explaining that you didn't mean anything by it she is still holding a grudge and that she is telling you she won't turn up to the wedding. Leave it up to him to then talk to her about it and see if he can make her see sense.

I'm not saying that either of you are in the right or wrong just that what is done is done and you both need to move on from it. I know you are making the effort and she isn't but if you stop now it will just make things harder for the h2b in the future so it is worth biting your tongue a bit and showing her you are an adult. Hopefully she will start acting like one too and you can both rebuild a relationship again or at least be civil for the h2b's sake.
- CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
jo he knows he was sitting there when it all took place. He has said if she dont show at the wedding he will never forgive her. H2B has never and would never side with anyone over me not even his mother.
We both feel the same way over this and if he had his way he would go round and tell her he dont want her there. Its only me stopping him as i feel he would regret that as well

im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right
- CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Yeah your right I think he would regret it if he told her not to come so leave the ball in her court and hope that she grows up and sees sense. It amazes me just how petty some people can be. At least you have a good supporting h2b and he can see that you have tried your best to make amends so neither of you have to feel guilty about it.

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