Wedding Forum - So mad at him!?!?!(sorry its long)...

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the H2B really annoyed me this morning i have a friend who came over to take me out jogging today and we were talking about my new dress and the convo turned to my sisters ex boyfriend who my H2B hates with a passion and he started screaming at me infront of her about lots of private matters to do with me helping the Ex to pick up stuff he left here after thay broke up. i was sooo embarrassed my friend ended up really awkward and left saying she will be up later to go jogging now hes left to go shopping with out apologising to me or my friend

it wouldn't bother me but he always acts like this taking his moods out on me which upsets me so much its making my friends all hate him even though i know he's the sweetest guy ill ever meet he's never like that round my friends. and if i acted like this in-front of his friend or family i would be in soo much trouble as they are all toff's and im not i've been brought up in a working class back ground and he's totally not use to that life style since we've been together he's had to learn what its like to live with limits and he's finding it hard which in turn is making his moods worse

for example there are ppl who live down stairs who drink far to much and make a lot of noise he hates them and treats them like there second class citizens even thou i was friends with them for years he makes really harsh judgements and i know one day its going to get him into trouble

am i over reacting?? sorry about the rant im just so upset with him the now >.<

i suggested that to him n he went mental he dosent think there is anything wrong

when ever it gets to much he usually gose to aberdeen to stay with his parents and usually that calms him down but hes a big boy now he needs to stop running to mummy n daddy

money if the big thing i think with him but he refuses to accept help from anyone took him 6 month after loosing his job before he signed on even at that he wont ask 4 housing benifit which would hell both of us out

his parents have even offered to help but he said no

im still at uni studying n he said when i graduate i could get my old job back workin in a heath and beauty store which i hated im going to have a degree and he thinks that the only thing i could do is become a teacher or go bk to a job i had when i was 16!!

it just feels like hes looing down on me and my friends now its makin me want to come off my diet n eat lots of chocolate n feel sorry 4 myself >.<

Why are you with someone who makes you feel so bad?

I know you probably love him, but this isnt what love is about is it??

Everyone has problems, but it seems like he's not treating you very well, and if you start off like this, then god knows what he's gonna be treating you like in a few years once you are married.

put your foot down now before its too late. Tell him if he doesnt start respecting you and the relationship .... well.

Sorry that was probably a very downer message - but sometimes love makes us blind to whats really going on. We've all been there Im sure.

Chin up, if he's worth it, then keep trying, but dont forget that youre worth something too you know!

I agree with Rhiannon.
Do you know they way he is treating you is domestic abuse?

Only you know if hes worth it, but the fact you've felt the need to talk about it shows its really getting to you :( no wonder your friends hate him. They care about you and obviously they can see its affecting you! And getting married will only make things worse. Babes screaming at you isn't him taking his moods out on you....when Jamie is in a mood, I class him taking it out on me when he sits in a huff, or wont make me tea when I ask, or doing something petty refusing to turn off the bl00dy football highlights when hes already watched the game lol.

You have to have a serious talk with him, maybe even go as far as sending him back to Aberdeen on your terms and not letting him back until he sorts him self out xx

my only advise is give a bit of his own treatment and then ask how it made him feel

aww, i can't really add to what the others have said.. i could never ever imagine my h2b screaming at me, especially in front of my friends, just like i wouldnt to him..

you def need to have a chat with him
sending lots of luck!!.. AND HUGS!!!
xxx

aww hun i hope you get this sorted but its right he cant be allowed to take it out on you in any way shape or form!! it isnt what loving people do!! I would sit him down n tell him how you feel or give him a taste of his own medicine or like the others have said if it dont work pack him off to his parents until he calms down and then it on your terms!! xx hugs!!!