Wedding Forum - Reality Has Hit... I'm Going To Be A Big...

Only this morning I was saying how I feel amazing in my dress and that I'm only trying to diet to feel confident.. well, day 1 of the diet has gone bad. I've stuck to it but done no exercise and I just wanted to eat :-( I cant imagine myself loosing no where near how much I want to loose in 9 months. I feel like giving up at the moment. Stress! I dont want to look back at my wedding pictures and be upset with myself. Don't know what to do?

i started my diet last week and since i just had craving for everything i sudnt... so hard but i no i can do it and so can u u just need to get ur head in the right place

good luck hun x

I just wish I could stick a photo of me in my dress on the fridge.......that would stop me eating. But obviously I cant

i no what u mean i have 2 great reasons to lose weight but i just cant focus on them... i need someone to tell me no when i go to get something.

If I loose weight, not only will I feel and look better on my wedding day but it should help with me getting treatment for conceiving as I cant do it naturally and at the moment, GPs wont even look at me till I've lost weight. I havent even any rubbish today like I normally would but I havent exercised, I've sat on my bum from the time I woke up till now. Doesnt help that Im out of work! And I just cant see me getting to where I want to be in 9 months, I feel like its impossible!

Those tips are really handy, thank you! I've started the biggest loser diet, milkshake for breakfast and lunch and then a healthy meal for dinner but I was craving food all day :-( I don't even know if its going to work. I need to cut out all the crap, exercise and stop feeling sorry myself. Even if I dont get to my target weight, just changing my lifestyle will make me feel so much better. I'm hoping I can do it :-) thanks for your help xx

dont worry hun u have loads of time if ur finding it a struggle go 2 a herbal shop and try them slimming pills they do work and regular walks shud do the trick and snack regular on fruit and muiller lights they r very good 2 cure the craving

Do the slimming pills work then? I tried Adios once but didn't take them properly I don't think. I kept forgetting. Is it worth me getting some more?

I think you have answered it yourself - cut out the cra p, exercise more and start getting a positive mental attitude!!!!! Ok maybe easier said than done especially if you are stressing about trying for a baby.
Ive tried slimming clubs and altho they work for lots of wmen they dont work for me. Its not the end of the world tho as you can do lots on your own. Find an exercise you like - dont put up with an exercise because you feel you should - it has to be something you enjoy and stick with. Ive done the comfort/boredom eating thing - Is there a hobby you can take up while you are out of work?
I was over 24st in 2009 - now just under 17st and Im damned well going to make every effort to be as slim as possible for my wedding day. You have 9 months - that is enough time to make a big change to your life hun, you just have to believe it and do it!!!! xxx

I do slimming world and that helped me hun as i lost 1 stone 5 in 5 months slowly - My manager who is a bigger gal than me started only a month or two before me and she lost 4 1/2 stone in 7 or 8 months so it is possible - just know you can do it slowly but surely and that slimming world allows you to still enjoy your food without cutting out things you like. You learn how to moderate stuff and there are some yummy meals I have been making from scratch xxx

Instead of putting a picture of you in your dress Linzi, what about a photo of you in either your underwear or a bikini?

well slimming world isn't everyone's choice but i do hope you find something that works for you hun. As for photos my friend put a photo on her box of junk food in the cupboard of her wearing a swimming costume and she lost 2 stone just avoiding the junk box so people find different ways of doing it

Regardless of what happens you will be a beautiful bride and your man didn't ask you to marry him cuz he wanted you to turn into a stick on your big day so chin up and know you are a lovely lady and your h2b loves you for you :) xxx

Me and my man are both trying to lose weight, he's put on a bit but I have put on nearly 3 stone since meeting him. I used to be very fit, always on my bike or running or on the Wii. He has admitted that he's a bit lazy and he's made me a bit lazy too. I need to eat smaller portions and exercise more, not rocket science really.

Maybe we could be weight loss buddies.

Do you want some good news?

I can't exercise that well due to poor mobility but I managed to lose a stone in a month just by eating what I wanted.....as long as it didn't come to over 1400 cals per day. I used myfitnesspal (google it) which you can either do on line or there is an iphone app you can use while your out and about. I'm sure you could use the main site with normal phones too though. Its great because it makes you aware of what calories are in what so you are not telling yourself you can't have something. If I want chocolate then I have it.... I just make sure that the rest of the day I have been good so I don't go over my limit.

Admitidly I did have a lull over Christams of which I couldn't for the life of me get back into eating sensibly again. I've just started up again and alraedy lost 2lbs. What did it for me was I was moaning to some of the other ladies about how bad I had eaten over Christams and the weight I had put back on. I remembered why I was doing it in the first place. Not to be more confiendent but to help me get more mobile and make it easier because I want to be able to enjoy my wedding day with as little pain as possible.

Focus on the fact you want this baby. Chances are you might not need any help by the time the weight starts shifting. Put photos of a baby on the fridge and cupboards to remind you why you should be keeping out of them and going to the fruit bowl instead.

Also some things I use for treats that aren't too bad on the cals:
Chocolate options
Milkyway bar mini
Jaffa cakes
Frozen yoghurts in the pots (take ages to eat and like icecream)
cereal bars
ice pops
sugar free jelly

these are all things that make you feel like you are not missing out but are not as bad as some of the other choices you could make.

Oh also I think I've posted this before but can't find the thread.....

The way you look at weight loss is like a map of England. You want to get from Nottingham to London. Now you could make no wrong turns and go straight down the M1 and get where you want to be in no time or you could go the scenic route and around the houses. As long as you are moving towards your goal it doesn't matter if its going to take you that little bit longer because you will get there in your own time when you are good and ready. If you go down the wrong road what do you do? You can either keep going that way and loose sight of where you want to be or you can accept you made a mistake turn around and head off back in the right direction. Remember the hare and the tortoise. This is not a race. Just take it one step at a time day by day and you will soon be in London ;O)

hunni think positive! you are you and your man loves you the way you are if ur doing it to make ourself feel good then it shouldnt be a slog do what you feel like doing if u are having a bad day then take a day off as long as u havent (like me) bought your dress a size smaller for inspiration then u should be fine do somethin motivating and fun like me and my man are takin dance classes to practise for our first dance as we are both a lil bit bad at proper romantic dancing if u know what i mean :P Zumba is good aswell an hour of energetic dancing about which feels so satisfying once you get home :) or try dance dvds at home like i do to build up my self-esteem before i start to go to the gym

as for your diet ive been on and off diets all my life im a size 20 but need to get a 24 in my dress due to my bust but good underwear makes me feel like im a size 12 ^.^ change the little things your hardly notice like switch to green top milk instead of blue and diet juice instead of full fat and things like chocolate put a picture of ur wedding dress on the cup bored to remind yourself of how gorgeous your going to look on ur wedding day

never forget if you are happy you will look gorgeous no matter how much you weight coz happiness makes you gorgeous :) good luck xxxx<3xxxx

Yeah, I just need a good kick and a good group of people to keep me going. I have a man who loves me the way I am so if it doesnt work (but Im going to make it work) then atleast hes still going to marry me!! xxx

Yeahy thats the spirit!! xxxxx

Mrs Hall2b.. A few people have said that about a diet.. I would wait and start at the end of the month but I will just end up not doing it lol.. so Im starting here and now, tomorrow will be my shopping day.. heres to the rest of our lifes!! xx

Do it for yourself first and foremost. Dont see it as a diet but as opting for a healthier lifestyle. Seen your profile pic and you have a very pretty face. Im sure your h2b will see you as completely stunning on your big day! xxx

I'm in Cadbury Heath just by Asda really.

Reading this has helped me too, thanks girls. 5thnovember I understand exactly what ur going through 3 years trying to conceive, gonna start the checks post wedding. Doesn't help he's away 2 weeks of month and af generally in a third so generally not good chance!
Don't fret 1 bad day does not make a bad diet!
Chin up and start again tomorrow x

It CAN be done.... just be motivated by the thought of your wedding photos, that has made me lose 4 and a half stone since April. Its worth the effort! x

hey hon; sounds lik eyour on SlimFast? IT DOESNT WORK!!!! i did for three months GAINED 8lb [follwed it religiously too, AND did loads of exercise] AND was violently sick from one of the shakes. [brand new pack of powder, brand new just-bough-it milk . . . no reason that i can think of] please honey, DONT DO THIS DIET
if you want to loose weight, cut out the cr4p food, eat celery and carrots instead of chocloate and crisps, walk more, and drink LOTS of water [makes you feel full]
please, honey, dont do slimfast, its rubbish <3 x