Need a bit of a rant. Originally I only had my daughter and a friend's little girl as my FGs but then because another friend had been so wonderfully kind to me while I was pregnant and her girls play with Honey I decided to ask her girls to be FGs as well - a decision I'm starting to regret with one of them :(
She came over on Saturday to try on the FG dress (therein lies that awful nightmare!) and within minutes she was screaming in my face "I want a tiara, I don't want my hair up, I want to wear high heels" (she's only 6, heels are a no-no!) Then I get "I want to wear make-up, I want to wear white not pink" I snapped big time and told her she wore what I told her to wear, she has her hair how I tell her to have it, the other girls are in headbands so no, she's not having a tiara and if she wasn't going to do as she was told then she won't be my flowergirl anymore. Fortunately her mum backed me up and told her to be grateful she'd been asked and that if she didn't stop whining she wouldn't be allowed to the wedding at all. Anyway, saw her in the playground this morning before school and was greeted with "I don't want my hair up and you can't make me" Soooooooo annoyed *grrrrrr*
Her sister is lovely but I can't have one without the other. What the chuff am I going to do with this stroppy little demon? xxx
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CommentAuthorsbride
what a little madam. She needs to be brought down a peg or 2.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Don't have her! Who says you cant have one without the other?????????????
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CommentAuthorUnknown
at least her mum stood up for you!! can you not speak to your friend and ask her to have a word and explain that she has to match the other fg?
the last thing you want is to worry about whether she is going to play up on your wedding day xx
CommentAuthorFaeth
If her Mum supports you then stick with your original threat. Behave and do as your told, or you're out. She may well behave if she sees that she might be out but her sister gets to take part. But yeah, make sure you have her Mum backing you up at every stage!
Tell her in front of all the other flower girls what they are having and if they feel they cant do what you want then you wont have them as flower girls. You know what you want and how you want your wedding. If she still kicks off after you have had your chat with them tell her she is not a flower girl and then tell her mother what has happened and tell her why you have told her why she cant be flower girl
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CommentAuthorMrsE
I'd have the other one just to prove a point.. spolit little madam!! x
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CommentAuthorprincessnat1977
As the others have said you have the backing of the mum which is important, I would talk to the mum about not having her as you dont need that stress, and then talk to them all xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Yup I would agree with the other girls and keep up with your original threat or she will learn that she can get her own way if you give in to her. Her mother if obviously very good as she has backed you up so work together and hopefully she will learn before the day that she can't continue like this or she will be left at home. Once she knows you are both serious her attitude will change as she won't want to be left at home while the others have fun.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i agree tell her she cant b a fg then but still let her sister, that will def change her attitude. i know i have 2 girls lol x
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Would it be cruel to say to her she can have her hair up, a tiara and a white dress but she will be sat at home alone in them!?
CommentAuthorKerrylou
My friend is ace bless her, she knows the little un is a strompy beast and she knows how much I've already had to cope with and she knows how important it is to me to have the girls all matching which is why she's backing me up. She has been told that her sister will still be my FG because she's behaved herself and it's not fair to make her suffer, her response? "I don't care" I'm having these nightmare visions that it will all end in chaos on the big day because she's likely to kick off unless her attitude changes. Deep down she's a good girl and her mum DOES dicipline her but her dad lets her get away with murder so she's constantly trying to see how far she can push other grown ups.
I'm going to have to talk to my friend again and see if she can talk sense into the little 'cherub' and if not I AM going to have to carry through and tell her she's out :( xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorKerrylou
lmao Jo - cruel, very cruel but so very tempting :D xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I'm sure things will work out in the end they usually do. She still has another 5 months of growing up to do and in that time she might have an attitude change once she sees the others having fun trying on the dresses and she is left out. That's when it tends to kick in for them and they are more greatful if you offer out the olive branch.
CommentAuthorKerrylou
You're right Jo, she may just calm down a bit once she sees the others having a great time with it. I don't want to leave her out because really she is a good kid, I'm only this wound up because it's one more seemingly ungrateful person to deal with. Fingers crossed it works out xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Kids are like that though. Its all part of growing up and learning how to behave. She will get there in the end so don't give up on her just let her think you have and when you can see she is regretting it ask her if she has changed her mind about what she wants and if she wants to be a part of your day she can be but it is on your terms and not hers. It could be the best thing that happens to her to make her realise that she can't always have things her own way.
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I guess I'm so used to Honey being so gracious with everything, always says please and thank you, rarely openly complains and basically just gets on with it, that this is just a complete WTF?? to me. She'll get there, especially when she twigs that all Aunty Kerry wanted to do was to give her the chance to be a princess for a while. Think I need to have a bit more patience as well. Thanks Jo xxx
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"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
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CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
be honest and be true to yourself. at least Mother is backing you up, and not siding with the kid. At the end of it, its your day, and if she cant conform to a few little things then she needs to learn that that ISN'T how the world works and she'll have to get over it KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON <3 x
CommentAuthorMrs Hinch2B
hahaha @ jo very cruel but oh so funny!!
Keep smiling hun as the others have said if you have her mum's backing then thats half the battle, I'd say you can definalty have her sister if she is behaving as it wouldn't be fair for her not to be FG just because of her spoilt little brat of a sister. xx
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
I sat tie her up gag her and shove her in a cupboard and enjoy your day - or simply tell her if she's going to be like it she's no longer a flower girl and her sister still is - until she can behave like a polite kind girl she's getting no rewards
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CommentAuthorMaggielou
Tell her she'll look ugly with a tiara and then everyone will tease her for years in the wedding pics as the odd one out ugly flower girl ha ha ha!! only joking
Tell her mum that you'd love her to be a flower girl, but with all the other stresses you're facing, if she doesn't want to dress as the other girls, you have no choice. Sure the mum will be embarrassed
CommentAuthorBrissy_Bride
Wow- that sounds awful! I'm sure the mother has ways to deal with her tantrums so she might be ok on the actual day...
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CommentAuthorljeh92
Aw she sounds so wonderful... Poor you, def speak to her mum, she seems to understand so thats good. Hope it gets sorted hun xx
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CommentAuthor'ca'ca'ca
question; if you follow through and say no, will she still be attending the wedding? what if she kicks off mid ceremony? just a thought. not a nice one, but what if? <3 x
CommentAuthorchezrudda
i really hope u sort it out hun, nowt worse than spoilt little kids!!!xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsB
Eek You handle it better than I could of done I wouldn't of known what to do I really hope my daughters not like that at that age there usually just excited about being a princess for the day arn't they? =/ I'd stick to your guns on what you thinks best I mean she hasn't really got long to change has she, maybe her mum could have a word or even tell her shes not going to be one and fuss over the other girls and see what she does then maybe she'll say I want to wear one? Children are so unpredictable =/
CommentAuthormitch2509
what a little madam!! i would tell her to like to or lump it and on the day she will have to sit with everyone else and her sister will be the pincess and not her so... ha!
CommentAuthorKerrylou
I'm going to see how it pans out now, my friend knows that I'll carry out my threat if needs be but I'll still have her sister as FG and she's fine with that. I think the little un will belt up if she knows she'll get left out, she can't stand her sister getting when she doesn't. Plus she loves her Uncle Mick's cakes so if she doesn't behave she won't get any (he's making our cake) :P She does have to learn that we're not all like her dad and she won't always get her own way but ingrained behaviour like that takes a while to undo. We'll just have to coax it out of her I suppose.
ca ca ca - Her mum said if she didn't behave she wouldn't be coming to the wedding at all and she'd have to go to her grandad's so I wouldn't even have that issue xxx
It's right what they say
"The course of true love never runs smoothly"
But if it had been easy then we wouldn't love each other as
much as we do right now - 1 week to go :D
