I don't think I can take 16 months of my mother trying to tell me what to do, we never had the best relationship since I left home and had my own family. I got issues with my CB atm too, only seem to see her when she needs to vent about her ex/boyfriend. People in H2Bs family are moaning about coming down so far or the date clashes with holidays that they havent even booked yet or having to buy a new outfit. Sheesh they complained when the date was so close to xmas. H2B turned round this morning and said to just invite people that NEED to be there (about 20 people) and have another close friend as mine as CB. I said if we were doing that I wanted to bring the date forward to this summer and have a small registry office do and just go for a meal afterwards. But H2B said no to bringing it forward as people won't be able to get the time off work to come down from up north plus I would regret not having my big day. Right now I just feel like booking the first available date at the registry office and grabbing 2 randoms and just doing it
Can't wait to be Mrs Foster 21/06/2012 :D
<<< LOOK! ITS A DICTIONARY!!!!
I'll be 9 when I get married....
CommentAuthorFaeth
Poor you! I definitely don't envy you having to cope with all that. I almost have the opposite problem, hardly anyone talks about the wedding with me at all (thank god for this place!).
I think at the end of the day you and your h2b need to have the day the way you want. If people moan about the date etc. just ignore them, they'll either be there or they won't. The ones who really care will make the effort to be there if they can.
As to your Mum, would nodding, smiling and then just do things your way work? Let it wash over you. It's probably hard, but like you say, you gotta survive 16 more months, so there is no point in letting her wind you up each time she starts off, and not good for your stress levels either :-)
Hang in there!! xxx
"Of course I'm not wedding obsessed!!"
CommentAuthorgreyarea
With the wedding being so far away people may come round but try not to get stressed out about it hugs
CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
My auntie and uncle did that just had the next available date at registry office had his mum and her mum as witnesses then went for a pub lunch, followed by going away for their honeymoon :D often thought this would be brill for me! they said it was the best day of their lives and they wouldn't change a thing :D. The girls are right though don't get stressed hun it'll all eventually fall into place, and if they can't change the date they go away or whatever are they really worth worrying about? it's only one day it wouldn't hurt them x
CommentAuthorboo
I do need to let things wash over me, when I get super stressy my execma breaks out and its already starting. Roll on next June when I can sit back and enjoy being married lol. Thanks for listening ladies xx
Can't wait to be Mrs Foster 21/06/2012 :D
<<< LOOK! ITS A DICTIONARY!!!!
I'll be 9 when I get married....
Hey boo, I'm sorry you are feeling the strain. Like you, I don't have the best relationship with my mum and I'm finding it really hard too. Before I open my mouth, I take a deep breath as I find it helps me not to launch straight into 'why are you being such a cow?!' etc. Her just being in the same room as me makes my blood boil! She always makes everything about her and has a way of manipulating stuff to turn it around so you're the bad person in any situation. I thought I'd get away with her not being at the wedding as it's in Vegas, but she booked her tickets 2 weeks ago! She asked me who was going to walk me down the isle and I said MoH as I remember years ago Mum saying that she would hate to do that as she'd feel to embarressed. She's turned on that now and started crying that I didn't want her to do it, blah blah blah...So, she's walking me down the isle. Not really what I want, but this is the only thing she's getting her way with, so I can let her have that. At some point I need to have a chat with her about her not getting ready with me. The only person I want there is my MoH. I just have to time it right and pick my words.
Vegas baby!
Moderator
CommentAuthorboo
Oh god heather, sounds like we have the same mother lol. I'm only inviting mine after my dad told me to at least think about it etc etc (they've been divorced 20+ years). I'm not so good at the deep breath thing, I tend to say whats on my mind lol
Can't wait to be Mrs Foster 21/06/2012 :D
<<< LOOK! ITS A DICTIONARY!!!!
I'll be 9 when I get married....
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Yeah, I'm very much like that too, but I've been trying to be more patient with her. It's so dificult as everyone I talk to is like, but she's your mum. But I'm sorry (i'm not really sorry at all), everyone's relationships are different. They don't know what has happened in the past or what she's really like.
Vegas baby!
Moderator
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i have the same problem as faeth. i keep tryin 2 talk 2 my mum bout wedding plans n she jus changes the subject. i want her 2 come with me to look at some dresses n asked when she was off work n all i get in reply is dont know yet. i thought this was supposed 2 be a time a mum n daughter got even closer(were really close anyway) n i cant understand why she is bein like this, she was happy when were told her we were getting married so what changed??? anyway rant over lol im sure it will work out 4 all of us in the end xx
CommentAuthorekielty(now Trow)
Bless ya hun! Sounds like a pretty stressful situation.
Things will get easier by the time the wedding comes round and they will start to look forward to it! xxx
Very very happy as Mrs Erica Trow
I feel like the luckiest girl in the world! xx
