Sorry having a really emotional day so hope peeps don't mind
Because rob hasn't proposed yet we haven't told many people we are getting married. In fact rob hasn't told anyone and I have only told my Bms and my mum n bro. My stress is who to invite to my big day cuz i don't want my dad to find out about my wedding. It sounds awful but i really don't have a relationship with him, not seen or spoke to him in 3 years and it works like this. Some of my family still talk to my dad and I am frightened to put anything on facebook in case word gets back to him. He has this way of ruining things
Any advice? I have a wedding website so people we do invite can leave comments and ask me things there but keeping it a secret is hard n it makes me upset I can't ask people I love to be there because they won't take my wishes seriously about my dad n will more than likely tell him. Grrrr rant over n i just hope this gets easier to work out n deal with
I married the love of my life 23/06/2012
Our little boys are so cute!
CommentAuthortwirler
I haven't spoke to my dad in nearly 2 years we never had a great relationship and on several occasions tried and failed so gave up lol i have put it on face book and have most of his family on it but they all know the history just be careful what u write hun don't put venues etc if your worried he will turn up and spoil it or put fake ones on lol i am lucky as unless he flys to Florida i am safe but it must be really hard containing your excitement so let little bits out lol and why aint he proposed??????????????
Officially Mrs Joseph
back on the diet re set my target
CommentAuthorkrisw86
i sympathise with ya hun. we dont want certain people knowing, mainly most of my family cos they all trouble makers and attention seekers. i wouldnt know what to suggest tho hun cos it seems liek a really difficult problem xx
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
Our story is hilarious - i was being over excited about looking for a venue and at a wedding fair rob suggested we went to just for ideas we heard loads of good things about Eastwood Park where we booked. So i enquired and when I found out the last date available in June was the 23rd i put a provisional hold on it and said to rob we had to view it. He fell in love with it and so we booked it but still waiting for my ring. Booked venue Christmas eve so i ain't been waiting to long for him to pop the question he may as well have already asked me lol! xxx
I married the love of my life 23/06/2012
Our little boys are so cute!
CommentAuthortwirler
lol i bet he is saving it for when u least expect it xx
Officially Mrs Joseph
back on the diet re set my target
yh if not leave little hints lying around about ur ring lol xx
CommentAuthorprincessnat1977
lovelylainee, we have also booked our wedding, the church, booked flowers, ordered cake and put a deposit on our wedding rings and I too am waiting for him to actually ask lol My mum & dad know (Chris asked my dad at christmas if he could marry me - wedding was already booked lol) and a few close friends know, its so hard as I wanna shout it from the roof tops but also dont want people to find out 2nd hand hence FB is also a no no for me for chatting about it. With regards to your "dad" I would tell people they need to respect your wishes about him not knowing, its your day hun and I would hope they would do that for you xxxx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I haven't spoken to my biological parents since I was 15. They know I'm getting married because word always gets back through various people. The way I look at it is they know they are not invited so why should I stop doing what I would normally do in fear of them? Go put it on facebook etc as they will find out sooner or later and if they ask questions be honest with them and tell them why you feel the way you do about it. Don't live in fear of what they might do as you will never live your life otherwise.
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
Trouble is my dad is like Grant Mitchell - has no brain and wouldn't care if he turned up uninvited to make a scene and ruin my whole day
I know my other family and friends once they get invites will probably be ok about not putting stuff on facebook, is just difficult cuz some of my cousins on my dads side would be so cool to have at my wedding but they haven't learned how to be quiet and not everyone on my dads side of the family has the same issue with him as i do. Some do n some still think the sun shines out of his a**e! Would love to just have a whinge and say what he has done but prob not best place for it here - usually have a rant with rob and an 'i love you and the chocolates i have to make me feel better' session :P x
I married the love of my life 23/06/2012
Our little boys are so cute!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Hmmm tough one. In one hand I would say that no one can ruin your day and even if he did turn up, the police could easily get rid of him and you can forget about it but then on the other hand would you want that in the first place? How likely is is to turn up if he knows you want nothing to do with him? Does he try to be a part of your life now? If he isn't bothered now then chances look better that he won't even be bothered about it but you could always go fishing for information on this before you announce anything?
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
Lets just say he has never really had an interest in anything about me but he likes to make a show of himself regardless so he is very likely to turn up despite knowing how i feel and that we don't speak or see each other. He is a ridiculous man!
I married the love of my life 23/06/2012
Our little boys are so cute!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I feel for you. You can't pick your family but you can pick your friends and he is nothing like you so hold you head up high. x
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
Yeah I am really pleased that my h2b's family are lovely and my mum's brothers and stuff have been there for me or it would have been really difficult. I love my brother for the fact that he is really happy to be giving me away
As for my dad I am sure I will be able to work around it. Have managed for 24 years doing it so guess when it comes to telling everyone I want to come I am sure I can sort something out. :) Thanks for all the support and comments girls and thanks jo - needed a good chat xxx
I married the love of my life 23/06/2012
Our little boys are so cute!
