myself and partner were asked to be bridesmaid and bestman for an upcoming wedding. At the time we were not told we would have to contribute to any costs, but over time we have been asked to pay for bestman suit hire, bridesmaid dress, hotel, stag do, hen do. We would also need new shoes.
When told the stag do would be over £300 I added everything up and it was over £700 so put my foot down and told my oh to phone groom and explain the costs involved and that it was best if he didn't go to stag do. This was taking into account that I was on maternity leave.
Well to cut a long story short the groom has taken offence at being "let down" and has sacked us from our duties and told us we are not welcome at the wedding.
CommentAuthorZoe Kay
WTF !! that's not fair .... hmm .. really they shouldve let you know you'd be paying for all this stuff - but it's not fair they've dumped you ... I'm sure there are girls on here who have been in your situation or your mates who are getting married who will be able to give you advice xx keep your chin up hun xxxx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
That is ridiculous. Everyone knows that people are finding it hard to live and pays bills let alone fork out £700! I would say that if that is their attitude then you are better off being out of their wedding full stop. I know I have asked my BM's to help by paying for their shoes which they are happy to do but if we couldn't afford to buy the dresses and I had asked them I would have made sure the dresses are at a price they could afford. Why the hell should you have to pay £300 for a stag night? That is silly and they should understand that people have not got that kind of money to splash about.
CommentAuthorloubie100
oh my god thats abit harsh, you would have thought they would have been abit more understanding with you being on maternity leave. None of our wedding party are paying for anything excepts costs for the hen/stag nights. xx
CommentAuthorGoff
Thats bang out of order.
Surely they must have an ounce of common sense to see the situaton your in and know you cant afford it??
UKB Mad Scientist
Ride it like ya stole it.....
I'm a flippin ORTHOTIST
700 pounds that is a lot to ay when you have a baby and your own wedding to pay for too. Tell them your sorry but cant afford it
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorslybacon
what the hell?? That's ridiculous!!! You shouldn't be expected to pay that much for a start & I think it's a bit much of them to just sack you from your duties just because you refuse to pay £300 for the stag do!! they should be far more understanding! x x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
whoa!! thats well out of order!!! tell them u werent being unreasonable you just dont see why its costing you!? are they paying for anything??? doesnt sound like it xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorbarker32
edited
I guessed the writing was on the wall when the response to explaining our position was that we should have budgeted for it. My oh is gutted as the guy has been his best friend for many years. I only know her through him but am still stunned at the outcome.
Our only crime is to agree to these things and go along with it, however being pregnant and having first child meant that my thoughts were not consumed by their wedding. Even our proposed resolution of oh dropping out of main stag do and arranging a cheaper one was not good enough.
CommentAuthorchezza82
Geeze, am surprised they dont want ya to pay for their wedding too as you might as well with everything else they want ya to pay for, what a cheek ay, do they not realize you have ur own wedding to pay for. If they need help with money then fine just ask right but dont say oh we would like you to be bridesmaid and best man so you can pay for everything for us lol, i dunno, what happened to good ol saving ay lol
CommentAuthorcandy
thats rediculous the only thing ive asked people to pay for is their own meal (£15pp for 3 courses) and im going to give bms the choice of buying their own dress or not getting the VIP favour as their dress will be it as the one ive chosen could easily be worn again and its only £22
thats rediculous hun hopefully theyll calm down have your tried talking to the b2b she may be a little more understanding than he has been
CommentAuthorbarker32
Not decided our wedding day yet just had to put a date in to register
