In 25 days im due to be mrs lavery. Everything is payed for (bar the church and limo which happen on the day) hair and make up trials sorted and everything is in order, apart from the guests. Sorry to be a kill joy but with all the stuff thats gone on in the past few days its really making me regret the wedding. Ross is refusing to speak to the guys about the stag do. Which means im playing piggie in the middle. i just text the best man to ask whats happening and if hes still going to be the best man and hes text saying he doesnt know anymore and hes really disappointed in ross. <- his suit is hired to his size and payed for. even with all thats happened and the fact we normally hate each other i know if hes not the best man itll break ross's heart. Ive got guys from the stag do asking when im going to get the money for the stag do he didnt go to. Im now down 9 guests and if my numbers under 80 i need to pay an additional £500 for room hire. My table plans f*cked because i dont know whos actually coming. Noones giving me an answer. Ive crossed off a few definates but some of them im good friends with their girlfriends and was looking forward to them being there so im slightly disappointed. Ross's cousin who just had to have his girlfriend there has now after everything decided they cant make it so thats another 2. My last 3 RSVPs aren't coming. If the best man pulls out ill be down another 1 and ive just spoke to ross's sis and shes thinking of breaking up with her bf who i really like so that's another down. The bridesmaids havent got their dresses altered which in the end was their only job. I feel so down its unreal, and i know this probably reads like woe is me but this is the only place i can have this rant. It just seems like everything was going to well and now its gone t!ts up, Isnt wedding planning meant to be fun. Am i not meant to be this super excited bride that all i want to speak about is the wedding and wedding related things? Plus if the best man pulls out so will his mum and shes meant to be getting our flowers. Which when i find out his answer will no doubt leave me 3 weeks to find a florist. I feel very down, fed up and defeated. If anyone would like our wedding its free to a good home im not sure if i can handle the stress x
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Take a couple of days out for everyone to calm down. You're all angry at each other right now. Your wedding will be lovely and will happen. Big hugs.
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CommentAuthorprissy
Give them another 2 days. and tell them, no reply- don't come. Its really frustrating isn't it? Just be blunt- you cant cater for people on a whim. It's bad manners on their part.
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Now I'd raise my hand here and claim a free wedding in my home town but I know you dont mean that. As dove says take a few days out and if things are still títs up remember that it doesnt matter who is/isnt there at the end of the day as long as Ross is there who else do you need? *big hugs*
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
Jay, just tell me when and where and I'll take up one of their places :)
we can have a UKB 4 weddings hehe xx
I cant say anything cos I've not been there (yet) so just big hugs and you'll have a fab day xx
You have 9 free spaces and I bet no-one on here would throw away the chance of a free meal ;)
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CommentAuthorJay
lol itd be a 13 weddings x
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
hey, as long as there's a disco and some free food I'll be there :P
hehe Im simple. Seriously, worst comes to worst, I bet we could rustle up some guests!
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CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
bigs hugs just take a couple of days out like Dove says its still early days and your all still very angry and thats to be expected mayb you need some you time to relax and de stress then everything might start looking up for you xx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
OK 13 weddings it is.... lets go ladies!
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CommentAuthordebs x
Dont let a bunch of losers spoil your day, like its already been said the most important people are you too, you still love eachother so thats all that matters, go ahead with your day and make it one to remember x
CommentAuthorbabycham79
agree with what the girls have said give it a few days xx
CommentAuthorJay
thing is though i just dont have the time left to not do anything, the wedding planner at the hotel needs numbers, names and table plan by monday and i now have to redo the whole thing! Then ill need to phone the kilt makers and say we may need to get someone fitted for another one, ill need to find a last minute florist and all the other pish. God i wish i was back to 12 months
CommentAuthorspooney24
Well you know if I could I would be in the car now rushing down the A90/M90 to see you and give you the most biggest ever (((hug))) possible then get this all sorted for you. Unfortunately this bl**dy illness has scuppered me from doing that right this minute but I will be down when I can even if its just for a day lass. Also as I said in a previous post Paul n I have wedding outfits ready just in case....and I knew the odd few down your way too if you need reserves!!
But in all honesty I will help even if its just someone to hear you and try and give you some advice over the phone, and then when Im able to I will be down. Im not letting this bl**dy cancer beat me so NO WAY am I letting some silly boys ruin your wedding day. xx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
Jay hun if there's anything I can help you out with just give me a shout :)
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
tut everytime i reply to this post it sends me back to the forum index so here we go again...
Awwww loony spooney juney I'll hop along to her house and give her a hug from everyone... although one hug containing the strength of like 100 people may well crush her :S
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CommentAuthorGoff
Count me in too... if theres ANYTHING i can do just holler honey x x
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CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
yeah Jay, you have am army of brides behind ya!
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CommentAuthorJay
I have just spoken to spooney over the phone and because shes been so amazing over the past few months and wed love to have her there her invites in the post, i think she utterly deserves a night off and a nice meal. Thank you ladies for all your help and support over the past few months youve kept me sane! no doubt more invites will be coming out lol x
CommentAuthorMrsd2b
Big hugs hun. it will all come good ul see. xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Spooney is a brilliant lady and deserves every night off she can get!!!
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
Awww bless hun. And spooney would be a much more exciting guest than an immature twat :)
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CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
Big hugs hun, everything will work out like Mrsd2b said :0) also spooney's right there is no way on earth any of us brides are gonna let those Numpty's ruin your big day hun!!! xxxxx
CommentAuthorNHR115
I'm just over the water in Fife hun if you need any help, I'm sure I can lend a hand in some way if you need it :) xxx
CommentAuthorvintage lass
Jay, really feel for you hun! Do what some of the girls suggested take a few days to just chill and not worry about everything else!!! U are right....planning should be fun and you deserve to have a good day dont let selfish, self centered idiots ruin that for u, your worth more hun!!!!! x
CommentAuthorcatch
this is A VERY stressful time for everyone hunni and it looks like you are doing far too much!! can your moh act as arbitrator in all of this too save you the stress, as you need to move back from it and take a breather!!
can mum help you??? can she speak to bestman mother to ensure flowers on track??? you definately need a helping hand, and a huge hug, boy will be boys and they normally go through this then act as if nothing has happened, so hopefully they will all turn up!! xxx good luck babe's hope it all gets sorted xxx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Ohhh actually flowers wise... I'll stick a message on your wall there's 2 lovely florists near you ... just in case you need to get your own I highly recommend the first link as I've had loads of lovely bouquets for mother day etc and they done a beautiful arrangement for my Granny's funeral. They're so lovely and friendly there.
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CommentAuthorKesha
I really hope it all works out for you. I think its shocking that this many people can let you down at once. Dont give up though, youve come this far....you can do it xxx
CommentAuthoryvonne
oh janine, thats a horrible situation to be in, but maybe things will be sorted when it calms down. hey i'm only 50 miles away if you need a spot taken up, i would gladly be there for you!
your a lovely person, and i really hope, with all my heart things work out for you. xxx
CommentAuthorSuzi
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Oh hun I feel for you so much right now, I think the girls are right take a day or two away from it, don't contact any of them wan*ers and if you haven't heard in a couple of days then send them all an email/text saying if I do not have a reply within 24 hours I will assume none of you are coming and leave it at that! The venue will just have to wait for their table plan, it wont hurt, the only thing they really need to know is a rough idea on numbers and table sizes! As for the best man's mum I would contact her and explain everything from your side of things and say "I fully understand if you no longer wish to do our flowers, if you could just let me know asap please I would really appreciate it" put the ball back in her court! Is it worth trying to contact the girlfriends of Ross's so called mates and see what their intentions are? They may all still want to come along, even if their TW*T boyfriends don't!! I know if my OH had behaved in the way they did, I would be firstly telling them to go do one then I would be attending your wedding with bells on and then posting photos of me enjoying myself all over FB for them to see so they could see what a great time they missed out on lol..!!!
You keep smiling hun, I am so happy June is gonna be at the wedding, she needs some "me" time, I wish I lived nearer cos I would be gatecrashing, although if Nic is going then im gonna grab a lift off her lol x x
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I have to say right up to the night before I wasn't looking forward to my wedding. I was worried about what seemed big to me my alcoholic sister, my parents who hadn't spoken to each other for 20 years, the weather (50% of the venue was outside), would everyone get to the Isle of Man, would they hate the Isle of Man? Then little things like the flowers, my dress, the tiara even the flipping balloons.
I absolutely loved the day - I know we didn't have your problems such as the stag night but the difference between what I was expecting and what happened was massive. I will never have all my friends and family all in room together again.
CommentAuthoryvonne
HERE HERE suzi!!!!!!!!!!!! xx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Ok so how many of us are gatecrashing then? lol
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CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
oh hun just try to remember why u are getting married, i know its easy to forget when everything seams to be against u, but keep your chin up like some of the other girls said if u need anything just let me know will do everything i can to help xxxx
cant wait to renew my vows, love my hubby sssssooooo much xx
CommentAuthorMrs Rebecca Hossfeld
Oh Jay hun, I am so sorry to read this, I really hope the dipsticks get their ar ses in gear & stop being utter pratts.
It will work out hun, as others have said, just give it a few days..you know what men can be like, grumpy bu ggers that don't speak much.
The ladies will probably still come & I really doubt unless he is an utter to sser that the best man will not be there either.
I wish I could cone down for it too, hell maybe I'll catch a lift from June & gate crash too, but otherwise, keep strong, look on the positives, you're marrying the one you love & that above all is all that matters!
PS...there are some amazing wooden rose & silk rose wedding packages via eBay..
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
im still utterly bemused as to why the idiots expect u to pay for ross's stag do that he didnt get too..how fooking cheeky can u get...hello maybe if you had giving him notice and actually informed him of ur plans it would have worked out better..just used him gettin marreid as a excuse to go get drunk grr u shouldnt and i hope u wont be giving them the cash hun xx
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CommentAuthorbabycham79
i dont get that either becca x
CommentAuthorAshlie-Louise
As Dori (Finding Nemo) says, "Just keep swimming". I agree with the above comments, take a step back, let everything cool down, and try to get someone to act as an arbitrator, so they can spare you some of the stress. As for seating plans, y not lump them all together at the back of the room (in case they grow up and show up), then they can sit b*tching to each other far FAR away from you. Have faith, it will all work out one way or another, and I'm sure there are loads of other people you can invite instead of these idiots ... the lump them all together plan works for if u invite loads of ur ukbride mates also xxx
CommentAuthorJay
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (figured id hijack my own post for a rant!) Right h2b's sis my BM has broken up with her boyfriend who i really liked! he went ape and smashed a few photo frames and put his hand through a mirror. (To be fair though if ross went away for a week staying at some girls house i didnt know and then came home and dumped me for NO good reason when i thought we were going to be together forever id go psychitzo!so i see his point of view) their mum phoned ross last night to say if he comes back will you come up and make sure your sis is ok and ross said fine but he doesnt really want to get involved, Today i spoke to mil2b and asked how things were going as h2b's sis is staying with mil2b. She said that sil2b's ex is still in hosp and needs to have surgery and i said i really felt for him, to which we had an arguement because i told her i had no sympathy for sil2b its all for her ex as he was a nice guy and really doesnt deserve this. Which he doesnt and she really has brought this on herself. SO now ive got a text off her saying she cant make the hen do as she cant affort it (ive made it super cheap all you need to do is buy drinks while your out) She knows this and i know shes just being like this coz shes in a huff because i wont give her any sympathy.So i text back saying shes meant to be a BM and ive taken alot off them but i need her at my hen do FFS! and if shes not coming then i want my BM dress back as im fed up of bridesmaids not doing their job! Did i go too far?
CommentAuthorNHR115
No you didn't go too far hun. You're under enough stress at the minute without getting grief from someone who is meant to support you. xxx
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
Awww babe you're really getting a raw deal aint ya :( No you didn;t overreact, not in the slightest .... if anything ... I think you truly do have the patience of a saint to be putting up with it all
((( HUUUGE hugs ))) xoxoxoxoxoxox
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
so we now are about 1o guests down and 1 BM.
I'm up for gatecrashing, also I can be a BM :) hehe
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CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
I'm in North Lanarkshire .... can gatecrash too also lol xxx
CommentAuthorRelfy
NOt to far no!! your BM has to be at your hen do... she is a BM afterall!!! JayJay, try not to get to stressed out babe... i know how you feel!!! the last 3 weeks before my wedding was hell!!! the rings were lost, someone engraving in them when they found them, got sent the wrong address... BM dresses were a distaster... completly wring size had to rush around and get news ones (not what i wanted but had to do)... people dropped out left right and centre and kept dropping out until the day before the wedding... seating plan a nightmare.... was still doing it the night before.... died my hair and there was a giner tint in it which i couldnt do anything about!! and on the day the wrong dj turned up and didnt have our play list..... i almost fell over walking down the asle......... do you think any of my BMs helped to sort it out.... no..... they just turned up got free shoes and dresses and smiled in the pictures.....
The point is babe, none of it really mattered in the grand sheme of things, i married Tom and and that was the best thing....
I know its hard as you have your day all planned in your head, spent loads of time planning it and want it to be perfect..... it will be i promise!! x x
CommentAuthorMrs Turps (Nicpep)
If it makes you feel better, my Bm announced in February that she wasnt going to be attending my hen night. her mates is on the same day and her mates wedding is on the same day. Cos we were rude enough to book it like that she is going to her hen do instead of mine and apparently wont be made to feel guilty about it.
Yes, I did sack her, but her mother convinced me otherwise :( I'm still stewing about it now
