isnt it a MASSIVE relief when you FINALLY fire someone that was messing you about, taking the micheal, not getting involved etc?
I "sacked" a BM yesterday, she wasnt getting involved, was always working or too busy or not bothering. Hard to even get a reply, one of those that wanted to be able to say how nice SHE looked and was a BM without putting any of the effort in to it!
Anyway this and the fact that she told my GF a lie, was the last straw. so i sent her a message (she never answers her moble to me anymore) saying enough is enough youre no longer wanted as BM in fact youre not even invited now, we dont take well to liars and have had enough
HUGE relief! now if only i can find the guts to sack the other one i dont want....but my OH wants her and if i sack her i'll have the wrath of Amie to deal with lmao (amie is my partner)
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CommentAuthorJanie
actually thinking about it thats the second one sacked in a way....my family dont talk to me since i "came out" other than one brother and his gf who spoke to us when it suited them or when they wanted something, since we moved house ive not spoken to them and not even told them where we moved to lmao
so two not worthy BM's gone! things were fine with NO1 BM at first, but like i say they stopped bothering so i figured why should i bother.
still got 3 flower girls, a page boy, 2 junior best men (they picked thier titles lol) a best man and 5 bridesmaids though
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Well done...!! Think there's a few on here that should do the same thing, instead of feeling stressed and not sure over what the psycho bridesmaid is gonna do next to upset the bride x
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I've had 1 bridesmaid drop out (but not tell me) and another one drop out because she doesn't like my mother lol then the same one fell out with me over my decision to not handle soiled cat litter as I'm pregnant. So now she's back on the scene texting me but I've not replied because I really don't want anyone so touchy at my wedding let alone be a bm.
Anyway I've got 2 bridesmaids and one of them lives in Australia. Because my wedding is split in two parts (ceremony one week and party the next) I only have one bridesmaid with me at my ceremony but 2 at my party. So its well complicated lol but I'm happy enough now and whateva lol the way I see it is the less bridesmaids the better lmao and yes getting rid of two that have no interest in the wedding is a good thing :-)
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Well done! Bet it's a huge relief & weight off your shoulders now. You don't need anyone like that spoiling your planning & your big day! xx
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Oh my gosh doesnt everyone know you dont handle soiled cat litter when pregnant??? shocking!
but yes ladies, i did it and boy has it been a weight off my shoulders i can say. Honestly, i say if youre feeling the same about one or more of yours then just tell them. It really does take a lot of the stress off you!
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CommentAuthorLittleMissWorry
Maybe the second one could be your other half's bridesmaid instead of yours if its her that wants her as one!!
CommentAuthorJanie
well she is HEr bridesmaid techincally....but i jsut think if youre going to be a BM then you should take an interest and least answer when we sent a message asking about a size or style or colour etc...we just get ignored...
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CommentAuthorJanie
but my OH isnt wearing a dress, she is wearing a suit.
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
Well done for having the guts to do that! xx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
Aw well done for having the guts to do that!! xx
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Ha ha Janie it was a very silly argument, I was gardening and I thought ok ill finish the garden next weekend. So the following weekend I was supposed to finish off doing the gardening but i had been warned about cat litter so i decided not to do it anymore.
So the second weekend came around and as I had discovered this I got my h2bs bro to do it instead as I was afraid I would come into contact with cat dirt. Anyway I text my friend saying I was chilling out and that I had got h2bs bro to garden cos of the cat dirt issue and well she went through me like a crazy woman and it actually seemed like I had somehow offended her. I apologised and she ignored me for about a week or so. Then she texted me saying "why are you not talking to me" well basically I haven't talked to her since that and it was a good few months ago.
Over Christmas my mother fell out with me and I had a bad health scare like I said in a previous thread half the skin on my face has turned yellow and I had to have all sorts of tests including liver and kidney tests, my head was a mess I was in a really bad way and cat police starts texting me but I didn't reply for a number of reasons and I was stressed out with everything going on and anyway yeah so I had enough problems without inviting another one in to my life. Sorry OP for thread jacking but I agree if they don't give a toss why should you. Life is too short to have to put up with folk who do nothing but wind us up.
CommentAuthorPenguinJ
Im sorry to hear the issues you were having but its good that you have had the guts to sort it out :) as long as your happy thats all that matters xxx
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CommentAuthorSiobhanW34
Your someone that a lot of people, including myself, can take courage from in order to deal with people not respecting our decisions for our wedding days! The main word being "ours" not theirs :)
CommentAuthorJanie
It took a lot of courage for me to do this, but i finally had enough and thought hang on it is OUr day not yours...we had even got to the point of planning to sit one of the bridesmaids as far away from an usher as we could as we knew if we didnt they wold both start messing about and get loud. Also we knew one of these fired BM's would have got very drunk and shown herself up in the evning. one less thing to worry about
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CommentAuthorJessicaE26
Well done!! wish i did the same i didnt even get a hen night my BM's was that shocking! xxx
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CommentAuthorJanie
Oh no thats not right Jessica! Last time round i didnt get a hens night bt hubby then got 3 stag nights. One at work, one with family in a different county and one with old work friends in that county.
Having said that my OH and I did Only get TWO engagment cards and had one cosin and one friend turn up to the party!!! Thats another reason we arent going to bother doing much.
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CommentAuthorRosyF77
well done........sounds like she deserved it. youve got guts xx
CommentAuthorJanie
Oh it took a lot for me to build up to this, but enough was enogh lol
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CommentAuthorNicoleee_x
this is exactly the reason I can't be arsed doing a big do. I just feel like everybody only cares about 'them' instead of 'us' and we'd end up spending a fortune and most of our time ensuring everyone else was happy!! Plus, both me and OH have quite complicated/extended families and we knew we'd have to invite about 30 odd members of families that neither of us knew/spoke to because 'grandma would be annoyed if we didn't invite all her family' and 'aunt susan invited me to her wedding when I was 4 so have to invite her even thought I haven't seen her since' etc etc. all too much hassle for my liking! Good on ya Janie. Sometimes it's just not on aye, and your wedding will be better without these sourpusses! xx
