The idea was to have a spa, meal and then a few drinks! I loved this idea as I am not a big drinker and would hate a big night out drinking!!!
Having said that, most people dropped out the party because they dont want a spa but would like to go for the meal instead and drinks. Now I seemed to have been pushed (by H2B blooming family) into meeting in manchester at 2pm for a all day session of drinking!!!!!
I really really dont want to go! I am not a big drinker and get drunk off 1 glass of wine!! This is not going to be fun for me at all. I will be watching them get drunk while im sipping diet coke!
I have bought my outfit for the night and im trying to be optimistic, I just dont think I want to go!!! WIll I be missed???
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
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haha of course you will! manchester is so big and lots of things to do you dont have to get slaughtered. we went for my hen do n it was that busy we werent at all drunk coz we couldnt even get to the bar! You could always leave early? xxx
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CommentAuthorJill
Just tell them you've been thinking about it and it's not your idea of fun, you want to enjoy YOUR hen do and as much as you appreciate them organising a big day out, you'd rather go for a spa day then meal. If that was to then turn into a few drinks after (possibly 8:30ish) that wouldnt be so bad, at least then you're limiting the amount of time you need to brave it x
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CommentAuthorPB
When is it? Is there any chance that you can rescue your day in time? xxx
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Tell them you definitely want to meet later, go for a meal and a few drinks afterwards...that's a compromise. I'm like you, don't want to do the whole stupidly drunk on my hen night type of thing xx
Your best bet is probably to sit with your h2b and let him know how you feel about drinking all day because it doesn't agree with you and that you'd like to spend time with his family and your friends etc. in Manchester but would prefer to start a bit later and go for a meal first so you can relax and enjoy it more.
If it's not what you want there's no point going. Plus if you really want to go to a spa you could maybe go with a friend who was interested one afternoon to calm before the big day xxx
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CommentAuthorShazk
Yes you would be missed but understand not wanting to go, its YOUR hen night and u should be able to do what u want and enjoy it!! I think Lovelylainne is right maybe speak to OH and explain and he maybe able to talk to his family x
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CommentAuthorKarenB9
Of course you would be missed. I had the same problem i'm not much of a drinker and only 2 of my friends wanted to do the spa and quite a few others wanted to go and have a meal and party. we decided in the end that we would book a local spa day (which happend to be my spa venue top choice)then have everyone who didnt want to come to the spa over for a meal there at 7.30pm and then left it open as what would happen later on . hopefully everyone would be full after the meal and will be happy to stay at the spa venue but if not we can then go into town. catering for everyone with out loosing what i want in a hen do.
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I told H2B and he was really cross, he knows Im not a big drinker and he said he would have a ord with his family. He said they were very selfish because its what they want to do and not me!
I have decided to pay for me and my MOH to go for a spa the day before the wedding! My MOH has been brilliant. She is very cross that our idea has gone belly up! She knows I am not going to enjoy it and she is trying to come up with thing that we can do which dont involve alcohol. Like afternoon tea at cloud 23 (hiton). We are meeting up next week to re organise things!!!!
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
well at least your husband to be and your maid of honour are supportive of what you want so it should all work out well for you - just make sure you do what you want on the day of the hen do and if other people don't like it don't worry about it. It's your wedding so you shouldn't have to feel guilty for wanting to do what you want. It's why i planned my own in the end and that was just fine :) xxx
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CommentAuthorVickie
I agree its not my idea of fun either, I would be mortified if dressed up and making a scene. ]
Glad OH and MOH is with you. Let them do it and you enjoy yourself.
xxx
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Of course you will be missed, its a party in your name! I think that your H2b side are being Extremely selfish. I don't think it is fair for them to dictate YOUR henparty with what they want. If i was you i would have a wrd with them and hopefully come to some kind of compromise ( in your favour) and if not then have a party with the ones from your side who are willing to do what you would like.. Could you even have two? x
