Need your advice on this one! About a year ago, my boss at work(can be a pain at times!) asked if I was inviting work people to the wedding. I said that we were probs keeping wedding separate from work and it was unlikely. However she asked me a few more times since then in kind of a jokey way but not... If you see what I mean? Eventually I caved and said yes, she can come to the eve. THEN other girls from work were like 'oh are work people coming?' and I felt completely backed into a corner.
So... I have got invites for all the work girls except for the new director who joined about 2months ago. If I'm honest I don't like her but she will be the only work person not invited. Shall I just bite the bullet and invite her as it looks so bad on me to only leave one person off the eve list, or should Ieave it so that she doesn't get one in a 'it's my wedding, I'll have who I want' kind of way?
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
ive left one person off but I am hoping she will think its becayse she will be off having her baby.
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
I would bite your tounge and invite her hun, you may look like a bit of a b***c if you leave one person out
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CommentAuthorMrs B
I agree, i dont think it would look too good if you didnt invite her, chances are she may not come but at least it will look good on you!
CommentAuthormillz090
Yeah i dont think you can invite the whole team bar one person as slightly unfair.... how would you feel if it was the other way round? Also if they are only going to the evening do then wont cost you too much and they will probably bring a pressie lol xx
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I think it's personally proper cheeky of them to ask in the first place! at our wedding only a very small handful of work people will be invited
CommentAuthorHa_x3
I completely agree Clive, I would never just expect to be invited to someones wedding.. Tbh if i was marrying in the uk i wouldnt invite any of my work colleagues, i dont see them as friends what so ever (i only work with them on weekends) But i would never leave one person out, i think its cruel xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
i wouldn't only leave one person out, will look bad. I'm a teacher in a fairly small primary school and didn't want to invite everyone to the evening reception. They wanted to be able to bring partners too, so that halved the people I could invite. I've only invited 6 ladies and their husbands because had I invited any more, it would have been very obvious who WASNT invited!!
CommentAuthorJill
I feel your pain hun, in my last job a new director started who was a complete cow. I wondered how I'd get round it, esp when it's a person who's in a position of authority at your work. She left thankfully but I think it would be very obvious if you dont invite her, maybe she wouldnt take you up on it anyway? x
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CommentAuthorMrs Wilson x
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Thanks for all your advice everyone. Have decided to cut back the work invites to a select few so she won't be the only one not invited.
H2B and I spoke about it and he said: Ok so it's your wedding day and you're on the dance floor, if you bump into them, are you pleased to see them?
I thought this was a good way to put it so I've cut back and hopefully won't offend! x
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Good way of putting it hun, well done H2B
Sounds like a much better idea than inviting someone you dont really like
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CommentAuthorClareS
It's a bit off for her to keep asking in the first place, i think Clive already said this above. Invite those who you want to be there. Don't be made to feel guilty about your choice. We've planned the wedding when my shift aren;t working but it doesn't mean they're all coming. There's a few close friends on my shift coming to the day do and then there will be a few more to the evening. Not everybody though x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i hate my OH's colleague and she also HATES her but he is having to invite her as he has invited everyone else. to be honest she will probably decline but i think you have to invite her to save face at work.
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CommentAuthor~feebee~
I've invited a few people from work, the ones I go out with outside of work and they are the younger set too, not that I don't like the older ladies. No bosses though!! ;-)
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CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I have invited all the girls from work and their partners, there are only 7 of them and we all get on so well. But I have not invited the manager, as he is very rarely there so didn't see the point! X
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
I only work on a small team so its just my team mates that will be invited, and manager cos they like a good party and I get on well with them! Im inviting a select few from my old job cos i still speak to them.
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CommentAuthorRedSez
I work in a team of 50 and strangely there is no one I dislike. The last two "work weddings" where done on an open invite for the evening do in the staff room (only have to make one invite. Hurrah!). I think 10 went to one and about 20 to the other (and they where both two members of staff marrying each other!). I'm hoping that not everyone will come but as I get on with everyone I feel bad not doing an open invite. There will be room for them but I'm not going to count everyone for the buffet, it's getting far to expensive as it is!
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I'm not inviting anyone from my work, mind you my works not a very friendly place. I am inviting my band though. I wouldnt feel bad about not inviting her, you shouldnt have to have people you dont like there on your wedding day.
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CommentAuthorbrilly
i think u should invite her hun ya never know it could be the ice breaker between u's aswell and u may see her in a different light to what shes already shown so far xx
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