my oh is sayin he dunt want a best man ,he has got friends just lost touch sort of over the years as us havin kids n them not,iv told him 2 ask 1 of his cousins as they wa close wen they wa younger but he just changes the subject n says hes not bothered as any1 else got oh like this x
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
my cousin asked my brother as they were close when they were younger but not so much in his older life, now they are thick as theives! at the end of the day if he doesn't want a best man he doesn't have to have one but its nice to have one to sign the register
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Maybe he will ask someone closer to the time, he's got 17 months yet. He might simply not want to ask anyone yet thinking perhaps its too early to ask? Or maybe he's afraid if asking someone and them saying no. If you have got a son maybe you could have your son be bestman even if he's quite young he may be mature enough to stand with his daddy.
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
yeah maby ,n yeah we hav a son but he will only b 4 so dunt know if that would work lolx
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CommentAuthorMrsC
My H2B isnt currently having one. Our situation is strange though, we're legally getting married in the registry office in the morning, either both our mums or dads will sign that (seeing as they are the only four people invited) then we're having the wedding blessed in church in the pm (we're classing that as our wedding) where whom ever didn't sign it in the morning gets to sign the church blessing certificate. Complicated but hopefully it will work.
I guess the only think you miss out on my be a speech if your doing them, but theres no reason why your little one cant say something cute in the best mans place xx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I think it's a long way off and so he''s got plenty of time to make a decission. Perhaps as other people start to ask him about it he'll get a push in the right direction. I'd just be supportive and let him come to a decission on his own if he clams up his clearly not ready to talk about it yet so I wouldn't push him. xxx
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Don't push him hun, it is his wedding day too so if he really doesn't want a best man then he doesn't have to have one. My friends got married august just gone and they had thier 2 year old little boy with him at the front of the aisle and called him their junior best man. He was wearing a matching suit and it was so cute! My cousin also had her 6 year old little boy do a speech at her wedding (unfortunately I couldn't go so dont know what it was like) but the brides mum helped him to write it. Maybe that's an option with your son? xx
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CommentAuthorRosyF77
yes he may well choose someone closer to the time. My b2b has a best man in mind but i find it weird as they neever talk...we now have kids and he doesn't. Bit strange really as we don't have a huge amount of friends either x
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
well we have that problem now as him and his best mate have fallen out yet again!! and he was supposedto be best man!! lets hope they get it back together soon!! or we will have more problems!! it men though for you they dont do things till last minute usually although some men out there are organised!! x
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CommentAuthorpink*wink
i wldnt push him either hun... nearer the time when he realises how much a best man does re stg do, speech etc, he might change his mind! some traditions are jst not for some people, dus he hav any brothers or is there any1 in ur family he is close 2 that cld act as a best man although not have the official title? xx
CommentAuthorbeanies girl
Yeah i agree. Men always leave things to the last minute. If he doesnt feel a friend is up to the job how about your dad? Are they close? Xxx
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
yeah im not realy pushing him or owt i know we hav ages really ,its just he says hes not having 1 dint know if any1 elses oh wa like this ,he has got people he cud ask he has chose not 2 hav any1 .will just hav 2 see wat happens : ) x
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CommentAuthorShazk
Ill be surprised if my H2B will have a best man when ever I say so who u having as best man he just shrugs.
But suppose it saves on teh cost of anotehr suit and if he doesnt then it down to him x
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
The brides dad can't be the best man, that's just too different. The bestman should be someone from the grooms side, a friend of his or your son or failing that, no one. He could always have his own dad as best man because the grooms dad doesn't have much to do.
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
I went to a wedding once where the groom had his own two brothers and his wife's brother as groomsmen because he didnt want to choose just one and let the other 2 feel left out. That's another reason as to why your h2b might not want to choose someone. Men are weird, my oh asked his workmates just a few days after proposing to me and I never even said anything to him. I suppose they are all different and have their own way of doing things. It's weird because us girls generally know before he pops the question as to who we want as bms but sometimes the grooms don't want anything or don't know what they want.
By the way a four year old should be able to at least stand beside his daddy and hold the rings.
CommentAuthorOWB
My OH has picked 4 groomsmen, but no best man. He has a lot of friends and although they're all different he doesn't favour one over the others. We're doing the speeches ourselves, and each of the men have a different role in the wedding. I don't hink he has to have a best man if he's picking one for the sake of it.
