Why do some people have unprotected s3x when they're not willing to give up things if they end up with a baby on the way!?
Me and hubby are desperate for a child, we are saving as much a month as we can and leaving ourselves with pennies spare every month to save as quick as we can.
My irresponcible sister on the other hand is now pregnant and found out the day after my wedding. That is going to haunt me for life. I knew she would, I just knew.
So fair enough they're on the council list for a house etc.. and we had a massive fallout over everything because I don't agree with people like her doing what she is, but then we just about got speaking again.
so i went to mums for tea tonight and she comes through the door in a foul mood. apparently her boyfriends pissed her off but 'it doesnt matter'.
then she says that mama's and papa's are having a sale and theres this 'really good deal' of a pram, car seat, this that and the other (basically a travel system but she was trying to make it out to be more than what it was) for 'only' £500. so my mum says, well you won't be getting that since you can't afford it and jess is like 'oh well i have this money blah blah' which she doesn't.
then right in front of me she says to mum 'oh robs found these wheels that he likes for his car' and i said 'wheels for his car?! so much for him growing up...' and then she walks out and my mum has a go at me and tells me im not welcome etc so i just came home...
my other little sister (12 year old) was telling me not to leave but i told her the reason and she thinks its stupid that hes willing to spend however much on some wheels for his car when he has a baby on the way!
why the hell do people have unprotected sex when they're not willing to sacrifice things for a baby if they end up with one!?!?!?
CommentAuthorMrsShaw
oh and now hubbys not speaking to me because i had a go at him on the way home for sticking up for her!
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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o dear! i personally would just stay away and get on with ur own life hunny....my cousins niece (no relo to me) is 20 and pretty much one the same and yes im with u on that sitch coz its f**** me off too!!! hugs xxx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
firstly... BREATHE! you need to calm down and try to breathe it out before doing anything else. I can exactly see where you are coming from and that it really has wound you up... and yeh your husband stuck up for her but whatever ignore it! Just need to keep away, get on with your happily married life and if she gets into trouble its her fault for getting into the situation...she will learn in time that she and her fella both need a hell of a wake up call and a lot of growing up...and that will come around alot quicker than she realises... and im sure in time she will come to you as a sister for advice...and you need to be the bigger person, and be there when and if she needs you... not for hand outs, money, or anything like that..just sisterly advice and arms open. Until that time comes, if it does, you just stay away and get on with your own life... it got very heated there and you have defo done the right thing and come home... but now you've had your rant maybe try and make up with hubby and have a nice sunday night in... Big hugs xx
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I agree, focus on yourself for now and leave your sister to it.x
I agree with the other ladies. Leave your sister to get on with her own life and if she messes it up, then its her own fault. You just focus on yours and h2b's life together and just think how much better you will have it and how much happier you will all be when you start your own little family. It's not worth losing touch with the rest of your family over her xxx
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
she most certainly isnt getting any money from me! i work damn hard for my money, and she'll end up with most of it through benefits anyway!
it just pisses me off because i know fully well that she knows neither sets of parents will let their grandchild go without.. so they don't need to sacrifice things cause they know that my parents or his will buy it stuff if they need it!
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
I hate to say this and sound harsh but your jealousy is really controlling your emotions and you need to chill out, your time will come and you can feel great about the life you're providing for your child and feel safe in the knowledge your kid will grow up to be a good person with good ethics. But until then just leave your sister to it, it's her life and she can screw it up any way she likes. You're just letting it bother you because you feel you deserve it more than her.
But you're the one in a committed relationship, who actually bothered to get married before starting a family. You'll be the one having a child you wanted and planned for. I know it must suck the first grandchild coming from someone who is in a position worlds apart from your own- that's not really wanted, that's not going to be in a stable family unit, with irresponsible people that aren't planning for it seriously but nothing can be done about it now and you really do need to be the bigger person and just accept it for what it is.
Really sorry if that's not what you want to hear and it sounds horrible!
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
no, i know all that legobride. it doesnt sound harsh and horrible, i know all that, but no matter what, i know she wont screw up because shes gonna get everything she wants no matter what. i know i would if i was in the situation too, but the point is im trying so hard to not be a burden to anyone else.
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
im confused...y would u feel a burden hun? x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I can see why your irritated, but look on the bright side...you will have a lovely little niece or nephew at the end of it.
She is young and silly from the sound of it and will no doubt regret not waiting til she was financially and emotionally ready to have a baby. Bringing one up on your own is hard, even with support from family and I'm sure she will find it a struggle.
Your time will come, and as you are saving and preparing for the prospect, you will be able to enjoy your time with your child more than if you were stressing, on your own and struggling to cope. Try not to let this drive a wedge between you and your sister, just acknowledge that she is silly and immature and leave her to it xx
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CommentAuthorMrsShaw
if i was in her situation, i'd hate being a burden to other people. thing is, we don't have debt with banks etc.. we owe family, so its not like we'd have people banging the doors down for money, but we want all the money paid back before we try as we're being responcible
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
ahh get u xx
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CommentAuthormrs clarke to be
i totally agree with you my BIL to be is exactly the same they have a baby and take it as a money spinner all there interested is in benefits and money and not working . it annoys me when people like your self wants a child . i would keep out of it hunni and bite ur tongue cos i no from experiences it gets u no were to have an opinion on these matters . xx
CommentAuthorFernP61
I can understand your anger i myself also cant stick people who cant be bothered to take contraceptive or their boyfriends cant be bothered to put something on it! after all condoms and contraception are "free" however this is still your sister and as immature as she seems right now she will soon realise that she and her bfriend needs to grow up as there will be a little person that will be relying on them, ok so no ones a perfect parent to me theres no such thing but as long as your sister does all she can for the child thats enough, on the other hand how old are they her bfriend may be young and too immature right now, i really think in a few months your sister will need you for advice, help etc if you dont want to do it for her please do it for the baby, good luck with starting your own little family it will happen one day and prob when your least expecting it too xx
CommentAuthorMrsRusty2B
The thing is though that you can use contraception correctly and still end up pregnant.
