I am so fed up with my MIL2B! I had bought 2 dresses for my young bridesmaids both aged 6 but unfortunatly they just don't fit and the way they are made we can't adjust them on the shoulder so my MIL2B said she would buy 2 new dresses from a bridal shop and we would give my daughter the choice as she was very disappointed not to be wearing the other one, Anyway we found a dress it was £139 and we agreeded we needed to add a bit of sparkle to it as the flowergirls dresses have sparkles so that was an extra £15 per dress, MIL asked how much I paid for flowergirl dresses and I said £130 each. (i've paid £180 for adult BM's)
We had to order the dresses straight away as there is a back log and they won't come in until mid june, so I take MIL to shop and she pays the deposit but then said that I was pushing my bounderies and that I have to pay the excess, she made me feel awful so much so I am now trying to find a way of paying her the money back, I've decided to pay the balance outstanding myself,what really gets to me is MIL2B and FIL2B have ALOT of money and I haven't asked for a penny in the past, she even told me that if she gave me £2000 i'd only go and waste it on things I don't need rather than pay what I owe, i've spent the last 2 days feeling really down about the whole wedding!
Sorry for rant but I don't even feel like getting married now

Poor you :(

Family are the biggest stress in planning a wedding, what has your OH said about it?

lol Lala Thanks guys
OH hasn't said alot just that maybe his Mum misheard me over the flowergirl dresses and thought I'd paid £130 total, he also told me not to take it to heart.
I normally get on so well with MIL but this just threw me!

my nan did a similar thing to me. she said she would pay for the little dresses as i didn't even really want little bridesmaids so i agreed under that condition. when it gets to november she comes out and says that she never said that and that i'm just trying to milk her for what little money she has (She's loaded i might add) so i say fine and don't speak to her for ages cos i was so upset with her. my mum agreed to go halves with me to try and help me (She is broke but said she would put £5 a week away to help) then 2 weeks ago my nan rings me up and asks me when we were going to take them to dress shopping cos she wanted to see them in them and decide what they were like if she was paying for them (Which is fine) but hang on she said she wasn't paying for them.

i just gave up and told her i was paying because i wanted to pick them.

i know how you feel huni and i do sympathise. i would just sort it yourself and make a point of telling everyone that you paid for all the dresses when people comment on them on the big day, she'll certainly regret it then

oh hun, just ignore her and pay her back after the wedding if it is making you feel bad. I hope she doesnt spoil your big day x

I think i'm gonna have to wait til after the wedding as I can't really afford to pay it out now, what really gets to me is i've paid for everything so far, I gave OH a few things to do i.e wedding rings over night hotel after wedding and the honeymoon. He's booked the over night hotel and low and behold his Dad is paying for it (which annoyed his Mum and Me!)
I'm happier now i've had a rant and i'm gonna have a word with MIL when she gets back from her holiday just to clarify how much she thought the dresses were gonna be and i'll give her the difference back.

ohhh hun thats so horrible!! i dont understand why people do that ... hugs for you!!

dont worry MIL2B AND FIL2B have a lot of money and they have not offered a penny!! not that it bothers me .. but my mum who is a pensioner has paid 1,000 towards mine and my hubby to be's wedding and she has next to no money!!

whats the deal with finding the man of your dream and they have the parents from hell ? lol xx

What JulieW said, the more money some people have the tighter they are. I don't know why your MIL said what she did, maybe she did get the wrong end of the stick but still.. :/ Things like that upset me too but don't let it spoil your wedding hun x x