Hello ladies, hope you are doing ok today? I was wondering if anyone else had changed their minds about venues over and over again as I seem to be doing?! I thought I had made my mind up last night about having wedding in Oakham, Rutland, was quite excited about it all, but then this morning I got an e-mail from a company that organise weddings in France. Me and h2b would love to get married over in Paris and it is a similar price to getting married here but keeping it intimate and having reception meal up the Eiffel Tower! But then the problem arises of your guests getting there, should we be paying for them, I mean like for our parents? Those of you getting married abroad, are you paying for travel and accommodation? Just wish I could make my mind up. If it wasn't for having children already we would just bugger off and get married on our own, but with children come more family, lol. So torn as to what to do! Ranting at and end, thank you! :) x

I had the same problem hun picked a venue then fell in love with getting wed in disney florida but after talking to people a one in particular calling me selfish we decided it wasnt really viable if we wanted our family to join us so we are now on plan c.

What venue in oakham, rutland were you looking at??? Our venue is there

It is difficult, will have to have a chat with Greg when he gets home. It isn't as grand as your venue in Oakham, lol, it is just the registry office and The Victoria Hall. Still waiting to hear back about how much it is to hire, and then I can decorate it how I want. We can't afford to spend more than a few grand to get married but that is what happens when you have 3 children, lol. It will still look amazing once I am done with it though, and the photos on the internet are actually really nice. x

We don't have that kind of money, h2b just is soo set with how he wants to do things, he wants to invite everyone he's ever met and wants a sit down meal.... the idea of spending as much as we're likely to be spending on 1 day makes me feel soo sick!! And we're not even getting everything we want.... ridiculous!!
And yeh, getting married abroad sounds lovely, I'd love to elope but h2b has said no, as his nan couldn't come, which I completely understand x

I hope it works out for you Kaya, it seems to get everything you want you need to spend at least £20,000 and that is just plain madness! It is a special day but it doesn't have to have gold dripping from everything to make it nice, lol. I really love the Paris idea but don't think my mum and dad could afford to pay for the travel and accommodation, unless I can find a large self catering villa for all the parents and siblings it might not every be my dream come true. Thanks Hails, I keep forgetting it is womans prerogative to change her mind, lol. x

We're spending £16k atm. *gulp* I'm working hard to try and convince h2b otherwise though!
Went to a wedding in the summer where the couple didn't spend much atall..... but the service and reception were soo personal... best wedding I've ever been to. I'd love my wedding to be like that!

I keep changing my mind about the reception and its driving my H2B nuts to the point of we fall out with each other lol

If we change venues we're gonna lose £1000 deposit.... but might still save us money! :-|

If you really like France why don't you talk to your parents now about it being a possibility? I see your wedding is still a way away so could give them enough time to save.
Personally I think it could be that the venue here just isn't the one for you - keep looking and also look further afield - there are huge differences in price across the country for a very similar service/venue.

You are so not alone there. I have swapped gone back and then back again. I have only been planing sense september last year so you wouldnt think i would have much to change but so far i have changed my mind on dress4 times (glad it was only just looking online and not buying) i have changed reception, colour and flowers dont worry. I think the only thing i havent changed is the cake