some of you may remember me saying that my wedding was going to be a slagging match for my mum and dad (spilt up a long time ago and basically mum hates dad and dad still lovs mum even though he has remarried, so has mum) so up until now all i have had to worry about is keeping them seperate and not letting my dad drink too much!
now I have an even bigger problem, my nan's sister has always had a problem with me from the word go!! my id of the family have away been consider the black sheep, even though we are the only ones that have jobs and homes of our own, and we have never been in rouble with the police, never stolen fromanyone let alone famiy, which all of her kids and grandkids have!! they are basically screw ups!! Any way things with me and my aunt went from bad to worse when my grandad died, I moved in with my nan to care for her as she had had a stroke not long before and my grandads death really affected her, stil does to this day. Then i met matt and he moved in too, so we both care for nan!!
My aunts problem is that she wanted nans money when she die, but nan changed her will so it came to me and my mum!! ever since, she has taken every opportunity no matter how smal to slag me off to my nan!! like a litte devil on her her shoulder!! she ha even moaned about me answering the house phone, wich is in my name!! saying that i dont let her speak to nan!! the ony time thi has ever happend is when she calls when my nan is eating! and then nan calls her back when she is done!! I have to be careful with answering the phone as some one called a while ago and nan gave over al of her card and bank details, and they still keep trying to speak to her!!
So i decided that Ididnt want to invite her, as I know she will propbaly do the same and start slaggin me off to my family in law!, this realy upset nan and then she offered to give us £2k for the wedding (much needed) and asked that aunt should be invited!!! I told her she was wrong for trying to backmail me, but she says that she is not!! I obviuosly feel bad about it and spoke to h2b but he wont back down!! he has basicaly said that if i invite her, there will be no wedding!!
Please help ladies!! Going crazy!
Lx
CommentAuthormillz090
I defintily wouldnt invite her.... remember its your wedding so your choice. She sounds rude to you and doesnt like you anyway so why would she want to come to your wedding?
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I wouldn't invite her either. Can you try to explain to your Nan that you would rather not take the money as it has made you feel as though you have to invite your Aunt and you're just not happy with that?
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
I wouldnt invite her to be honest! Yes the money is needed but it can be done without it and if you take it it sounds like your day will be ruined because of your aunt.............is 2k worth that?
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CommentAuthorkirstyless
I agree with everyone else, I would not invite her. She seems really nasty and the last thing you need on your wedding day is to be worrying about her
Yeah i agree with Hails. I would rather go without something on my wedding day but know it was because i had everyone i wanted there who loved me and i wasnt bribed to have certain people there.
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CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
I would not invite her, you would be giving her centre stage to slag you off....and its YOUR day not hers. if your nan truely means it about the money, she will give it regardless, but if she doesnt then find a way of making do without it. As for your parents, they should find it in their heart to behave for your sake. your wedding is neither the time or the place to aire their differences.
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CommentAuthorlolli88
I have tried to explain why I dont want her there to my nan, but she just keeps saying that 2 wrongs dont make a right and that she cares about me!! I know she doesn't but at the same time I dont want to cause a probem between my aunt and my nan! for some stupd reason she seems to think the sun shines out of her!! Thats really what is making life so hard, is that my nan is upset that I have said no! I mean my aunt wasn't invited to my mums wedding 10 years ago, and I dont remember ther ever being an issuse and they are a little closer, my aunt knows that my mum wi put her in her pace if she says anything out of line to her!!
