im sick now, im working 3 jobs to pay for wedding (1 full time 2 part time) and after doing night shift last night, driving home i crashed my car, its going to cost a minimum of £450 to fix ! and this is going to have to come out of the wedding fund to pay for it- i only earned a quarter of that for the shift last night. I cant tell my family as they already griefing me over how many hours im working. It just feels as though its one step forward and a step n half back paying for this wedding! i'm sick as a chip
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
huni i know the feeling my other half did the same thing last week chin up huni things will get better once you get closer to the wedding
can you not take a bit of time off from one of them hun just for a week to relax? i know its hard now you have something else to fork out for but i really think a break could do you a world of good xxx
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CommentAuthorXbox widow
Awww I really feel for you, can you not take a couple of days off. Nothings worth making yourself ill over. Luckily your not seriously injured and cars are just lumps of metal that can be fixed. This wedding lark is a mine field of ups and downs, cant you cut back on a few things to ease the pressure?
CommentAuthorfiona
Sorry about your car but as said atleast you are not hurt! It really sounds to me also that you need to take a break otherwise you will be too exhausted to enjoy your wedding, I understand you need the money but your health is far far more important!
CommentAuthorfiona
Sorry just reread what I wrote I hope I don't seam too bossy! x
I agree with fiona, theres no point having a wedding that you cant enjoy as you are past breaking point You really need to look after yourself, thats the most important thing x
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CommentAuthorJoci "The Currypot"
Oh no Lou Lou, Hope ur ok. I'm also stressed out with trying to find the funds and as you the clock is ticking. My Mum has kindly offered us a top up nearer the time if were too short to pay the venue etc then we will pay her back each month rather than work each other into the ground. Could your parents or H2b's parents not help otherwise your going to be drained and not well enough to make your own wedding. You need to look after yourself
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CommentAuthorLou lou
Fiona- u didnt come across as bossy at all hun xx Nic Squared- u are right as are the others xx Mrs Mann- hope ur h2b is ok xx Xbox widow -Ive cut back twice and cant do anymore, i made the mistake of booking everything 2-3 yrs ago as jobs appeared secure to get thing at that yrs price, then i was made redundant last yr n put a huge backlog on the costs i do need to take a break but panicking and stressed as to pay it all off in next 3 month, h2b is getting made redundant in about 6-8 weeks adding to the stress. Joci- ur on same time constraints and my dad has offered to lend us £1000 but it comes with conditions i would rather try and do it on own if possible- hopefully recognising when i need to catch up on sleep a little better, twice ive done a 31 hr shift between the 3 jobs before getting home just so some more of wedding is paid. My h2b does overtime when he can
Thank u all for advice I think I will do that and probs put some hols in from full time job and get a little break that way, bonus being I get to spend time with my kids n h2b
CommentAuthorluda0510
Oh you poor thing :-( hope you can get some time off for yourself. I know its your wedding and you want everything perfect, but nothing is worth getting ill for. How about putting the wedding back a bit if that could be an option?? Your H2B wont love you any less by getting married on another day, im sure all he wants is for you to feel your best and healthy.
Really hope things work out for you. Lots of love xxx
CommentAuthorLou lou
luda, the idea of re-arranging eveyrthing seems more nightmareish than trying to get the last 3000 to pay it off . some days i just want to cancel the whole thing ! i am going to put hols in, going to ring boss in morning n put them in for this week, i was having a catch up on paperwork week with only a meeting n couple of visits planned which can be cancelled, the way i see it now after looking back at the comments is that next time i might hurt someone else or myself.
CommentAuthorluda0510
Bless ya. Im glad your going to have some you time. Get some nice smelly candles on and a lovely bubble bath ..... and relax! Things will get better for you, sometimes you just need to take a break just to breath! Good luck and hope you feel better soon xx
CommentAuthorhigginszajac
Oh dear a car is just a car, im glad your not hurt, a break from work will do you good and after the wedding can you cut down your hours x
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
im sorry to hear this hun but your health is more important than a wedding! at the end of the day a wedding is one day and yes we all want it perfect etc etc but it sounds like u need to figure out whats more important like.....the bride making it there in one piece! sorry t b blunt xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
