Ok i've been up since 5 this morning, can't sleep coz this thing is bugging me so im letting off steam on here!!!
Right it's my M.I.L don't get me wrong i love her to bits and she's like a second mum to me. Always does everything for me and my girls and i really appreciate it BUT she's doing my head in now concerning MY wedding.
Thing is I feel bad because it's her and my D.I.L that are paying for practically all of the wedding. Without them my h2b and I would never be getting married as it's to much money and we would never be able to afford what we really want.
Anyway back to her.... me and h2b are not fans of fruit cake so what is she going to do, buy a fruit cake and get her friend to decorate it for the 'older people' as they 'like fruit cake'!! Then she's telling me not to order my dress till march next year as i may loose weight! Umm getting married in JUNE!!! She wants to order cupcakes for the kids, i said we don't need them as we already have bags of sweets for them and an ice cream van! She said don't bother with favors even though to me it's something that you keep from a wedding and i've NEVER been to one and NOT had a favor. Anyway i've already done them! And finally i showed her the guest list like 2 months ago, got her to check it and asked if there was anyone i'd forgotten or that she thought we should invite. She said no. Then yesterday my h2b came home and told me that she'd invited L&A to the reception. Umm HELLO i don't even know these people and neither does my h2b that much. She told him that she invited them because she felt sorry for them as they hadn't been invited to their daughter's wedding last month (their obviously not talking, haven't done for years aparently) anyway now im starting to get a little bit peed off! I mean what will she do next invite all the tramps from town coz 'she feels sorry for them'!!! My h2b feels the same and stands up to her but then comes to me and says 'let her have just this thing coz their paying for it'. It's bad enough we're already having the venue SHE wanted, what else in MY wedding will be HERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry but i just had to have a rant, either that or i'll cry :-(
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Sorry to hear this.
As for the cake, how about saying can we have a fruit cake and a sponge cake as then you are considering those who don't like fruit cake, or just go with her on the cupcakes but say they are not just for the kids but for those who don't like fruit cake.
As you said you have already done the favours so that's cool.
The dress you need to maybe go looking for one as if you need to order it you need to have plenty of time. I ordered mine in October and it was not in the shop until the end of May! If you go looking and asking at the shops then she will realise you need to order one sooner rather than later.
Hope you get it sorted. Have you spoken with your H2B about your issues? Maybe he could speak with her and make her realise.
just because they are paying doesnt give them the right to dictate ......my friend tols me last week that her daughter is getting married (yay) then she said oh i know what dress i want her to wear !!!!!
i agree with Lala the less you tell her the better! just ask her to pay for things that you want rather than what she wants, or ask H2B to have that conversation with her. my OH's parents have paid for the cake and car and have let us pick what we want they have just paid the bill
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
I've tried that one and she just said 'well i'd like to see what im paying for', i then said 'you'll see it on the day' which sent her into a major kids paddy for 2 days!!
CommentAuthornatalie2614
If its getting to you that much, then step back and decide if its really worth the hassle of having them pay for everything. You can either put up with it until the day (and stop telling her things - say its a suprise and only you and h2b will know), or cancel until you and h2b can afford to hold the wedding yourselves. Unfortunately while she holds the cash she also has a hold on your day and I think its just going to go from bad to worse if shes winding you up like this now.
My nans are paying for my cake, they know the design, they know how many tiers etc, and its a local shop so they can go and pay it off between them when ever they are ready. But they have never dictated what design i should have etc.
Married my best friend 05.04.2013
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
ZeeMee :( *hug* It must be really difficult for you as although it your wedding you will feel obligated to I-L's as they are paying.
Maybe you and h2b need to sit down with them and tell them how you're feeling about it all. They may just be getting carried away with it all and once you tell them the error of their ways, they might chill ou a bit.
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary <3
CommentAuthorocean
i feel your pain, i'm having a similar situation but with my own mum at the moment and my seating plan! it's annoying isn't. You want these close people to support you but instead they seem to get kicks out of hindering the wedding process!
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
OH and I threatened to cancel our wedding and bugger off abroad - soon stopped people moaning!
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary <3
CommentAuthorZeeMee83
I agree with you there Ocean. I might try that one NinaP. I don't mind the usual stuff coz we usually get our way or we end up compromising but inviting somebody me and my h2b don't know was taking the biscuit a tad x
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
Haha! Nina, that's amazing. Might have to try that one myself xx
