Hi, I was just wondering whos outfits we should be paying for. Obviously bridesmaids and best man is a given, but what our patents, and do we have to buy outfits for all the groomsmen/ushers to? Also how many should we be having? A little stressedas we are paying for the wedding ourselves and we are both on a low income. Please can anyone help?
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
You don't actually have to pay for it all, you could ask everyone to pay for their own, that way they get to keep it as well. For the men, are they all wearing the same? Are you buying or hiring?
I asked all adult members if they owuld be kind enough to pay for their own suits/dresses. They were more than happy to.
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CommentAuthorMrsEmmaP
We have bought the bridesmaids dresses but that is all, they are buying their own shoes and the best man is buying his own suit. This is due to budget and they are all happy to do to pay x
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CommentAuthorMrs D2B
I personally wouldn't pay for the parents unless you want them to wear something specific. It more common now for brides to ask the bridesmaids to pay for some aspects of their attire, whether that is their dress their shoes or their makeup and accessories so if your on a small budget this is something you could consider, as for the groomsmen etc you could rent suits that way you can have them all dressed the same but save yourself a bit of money, saying that you can get 3 piece suits for next to nothing these days so maybe shop around and see what you can find. I would suggest work out what you can afford for all the outfits which you want to have a say in so you know how much you have for each outfit then if you feel that you haven't quite got enough there is no harm in asking those people to contribute in someway towards them.
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CommentAuthorSarah D
I will be buying my bridesmaids dresses but I have a limit if we find something above it I will be asking them to contribute, I think ill ask them to buy their own shoes as there dresses are going to floor length so don't need to match also pay for hair and make up. Will hire a kilts for the best man and groomsmen. but think that's it x
We paid for bridesmaids dresses and all the suits (best man my dad and 2 groomsmen)
We got all the lads shoes free bt they were going to pay 20 each. As this was the case i did ask my bm to pay for their shoes capped at 20 (i had asked them before we knew of the mens free shoes but either way they were happy to pay even after this)
found 1 pair for 10 as she cnt wesr heels and another pair for 15 so worked out well and under budget :-)
CommentAuthorMidgetGem89
My mam has paid for her own outfit obv my dads is included
His mam n her hubby really have only been invited cos he felt he had to so they to us r just any normal guest (long story) x
CommentAuthorFlossie
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I would expect the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride to pay for their own outfits. I have paid for all the bridesmaids dresses but might ask them to contribute to hair and make up further down the line depending on what's left in the budget at that stage. We are intending to pay for the hire of all 3 groomsmen suits (my dad and 2 best men - one of whom is the father of the groom), but we know they might offer to pay for their own or contribute.
OH's mum has offered to pay for his suit xx
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CommentAuthorMrsRobson2Be
We are paying for everything for the bridesmaids (hair, dress, shoes, jewellery, hair & makeup), we have purchased suits, shoes, shirts, waistcoats, ties, pocket square's & cufflink's for the groomsmen & both of our dads. H2B tripled our suit budget, I wanted to hire he wanted to buy!! Men!!
I personally don't think your wedding party should have to pay for there outfits if you are specifying exactly what they are wearing, but each to their own. If you do go down the route of asking them to pay, I think it's best to ask them at the same time you ask them to be in your wedding party, that way if they feel they can't afford it they can decline straight away.
One thing I also didn't think about at the time of asking the girls to be bridesmaid's & flower girl's was cars & hotel rooms (if needed) I now need 2 cars as we won't fit in 1, same with the hotel rooms
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
We are paying for OH. DS (Page boy/Ring bearer), Bridesmaid, Best Man, Usher and my dad. If we had a flower girl we would pay for that too. Id love to give my mum something towards her outfit but she is quite proud that she saved up for it by herself (Parents are useless with money and dont have very much)
I think it depends on everyones circumstances I wouldnt ask people to be part of my bridal party and expect them to pay for thier outfit.
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CommentAuthorKayleighS46
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Were paying for the hire of the suits (5 of them) the 4 adult bridesmaid dresses and hair, 2 flower girl complete outfits and the shoes but this is our choice. I'm not paying for make up for them and the men are getting their own shoes.
I'm BM for my MOH August this year and I'm not paying for anything just applying my own make up - which is fine for me! xx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Bridesmaids and the groomsmen including best man is paying for their own and are all happy to, and asked them when I asked them.
If your paying for bridesmaids you should also wear for groomsmen, unless they have something suitable they can wear unless you want a particular style/all the same.
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CommentAuthorMrsNicholls2B
we are buying the page boy and flower girl outfits, but bridesmaids and groomsmen are paying for their own/hiring them, they are more than happy to do this and it helps us with our budget x
CommentAuthorJennK
I wouldn't expect to pay for MOB or MOG outfits, to be honest both my mum and MIL have been very excited about going out and finding outfits and proudly doing a little fashion show for me. So cute.
