Throughout my life this scenario has bothered me and now im gettin married im still torn over who to give me away. my parents divorced when I was a year old and my mum brought me up alone until she met my stepdad. I see my dad but were not particularly close and visits are few and far between. im much closer to my stepdad as he was the one who was there for me growing up. I always said I would have my mum walk me down the aisle however my real dad is now poorly and its made me feel guilty for not including him and I dont know if I want to live with the upset not having him would cause. siggghhh why is this so hard!
CommentAuthorJuly 2014 bride
cant u get your mum and dad to both walk u down the aisle hun.
After being together for 15 years i fiinally going to marry
the love of my life and my best friend.
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Could you have your mum walk you down the aisle and perhaps include your dad another way? xx
CommentAuthorFionaR41
i would stick with having your mum to give you away. You could ask your dad and step dad to give a reading during the ceremony to include them or to give a speech at the reception. My eldest asked her dad to give her away which really upset me. he had not particularly been on the scene either and didnt help in supporting us ( myself and 3 children ) .I had brought our 3 children up alone for 20 years and then all of a sudden he threw a guilt tripand my daughter ended up asking him to walk her down the aisle, It was also upsetting for her brother as she had already asked him who was so pleased to have been asked, then turned round and "unasked" him. on the day I ended up feeling like a spare part. My youngest who was 1 at the time when we split has said she will ask me to give her away when the time comes.
It's taken a while to find my Prince
13th May 2011 we met, 26th May 2012 we got engaged
30th August 2014 we say "I do".
CommentAuthorMrsHill15
yeah I could ask them both but then its a slap in the face to my stepdad who has provided for me etc. I think ill have my mum and perhaps ask him to do a reading..I guess whatever I choose ill be upsetting somebody :(
I have a similar problem. I discussed it with my half brother, and he has offered to give me away, but I'm not sure. I was planning to walk down the aisle alone, but think I would feel silly. My Mum is coming to the UK for our wedding, but she left my Dad (and me) when I was 7, and she hasn't really contributed in any way whatsoever to my life (emotionally or financially). I get on ok with my stepfather, but not enough for him to give me away. I get on with my Dad, but he is very selfish, and doesn't keep in touch with me, it is always me that gets in touch with him. I might just bite the bullet and walk down alone x
CommentAuthorMrsHill15
claire I think in your situation walking alone would be a very poignant thing to do :) gosh family politics suck!
CommentAuthorclairenina
Thanks MrsHill, I hadn't thought of it that way x
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
if i was in your situation i would make a grand entrance on my own. theres no hassle and you wont be favouring anyone over each other x
Exactly what I was thinking
