Ok..having a bit of a dilemma at the minute which I reckon needs addressing sooner rather than later as I getting married in 204 days time to be exact!!!!lol!!!! Im having three bm's for my wedding yet cannt decide on who to ask to be moh! Im getting married in a chapel so need to have one as they play a role in service and signing of the registrar, otherwise I wouldnt be too caring!
One of my bms is my sister...who has out rightly asked to have the role as moh, the other bm is my best friend who I was moh last year for at her wedding (even though her sis was also a bm)! Im just terrible at these sorta things, hate confrontation or any sort of awkwardness at all! The obvious answer is to pick who I really want to do the job...but the answer is not that simple given that I haven't a notion! Im stuck in a hard place given I know my mum would like my sister to do it and sister would likely fall out with me if I didnt pick her! I was thinking that I might delegate particular roles to each bm so that they all feel important and have a contribution to make eg- sister sign register, best friend pass the silver coin during ceremony, third bm hold my flowers. Help and suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thanks! Erin xx
CommentAuthorJessica
My bridesmaids are my Sister, My best friend and my sister in law to be. I always thought my best friend would be my MOH but to be honest i cant be doing with her at the moment, the ways she is acting she is hardly a friend at all. I have chosen my sister as she is the only person i can rely on. I do think splitting the roles is a good way of sharing it out but remember the MOH is meant to assist you in the loo aswell. You probably already have an idea of who you would prefer and you can bribe the others with being god parents to your first born, anyway i would just be please i had been chosen to be bridesmaid at all x
CommentAuthorLou lou
i would suggest having whos there for u regardless but its not always that easy i ended up asking my sister as she would of been upset if i hadnt whereas my freind was happy to just be a bm but ive decided that since my sis is maid of honour i'm going to get my friend to be matron of honour as shes married n my sis isnt, that way they both feel special xx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Why not split duties? So one can hold bouquet, one can sign register etc.
My mother elected my cousin as CBM- saved me the trouble of choosing between two best friends
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
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CommentAuthorcymrugal
my bridesmaids are my two girls, my sister and her two girls, and my partners two grandchildren, along with my nephew....to be honest i feel like the waltons..lol but youve got to go with your heart, they say blood is thicker than water, talk to each one seperatly and ask if the would mind if you made the decision and that they would respect your wishes. x x
I'm splitting roles between my bridesmaids, that way stops any arguments are hard feelings!! xx
CommentAuthorKizzy81
I had a similar issue as I don't get on with my sister that well, and in fact she didn't have me as MOH at her wedding a couple of years ago. I didn't even really want her as bridesmaid, but just really felt obliged to. MISTAKE. She's done eff all and probably won't on the day. Luckily my best friend who is a bridesmaid too is likely to be far more help on the day, it just means I need to organise my own hen.
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Why dont u make ur sister moh and ur best mate chief bridesmaid - and seperate the roles out between them. What I had to do with my 2 best friends x
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthoremster
I'm having my sister as my MOD. My other bridesmaids are my daughter and my niece (I'll give them some jobs to do :-)) I dint choose my closest friends to be bridesmaids to avoid this and extra cost. I will just have a photo with all my girly friends to keep xx
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
please dont take this the wrong way,but your sister has no right to assume that its her place,,its your choice not hers,,if you chose your friend for the position then your sister should still be happy with her role as bridesmaid and if she kicks up a fuss then just make it clear who calls the shots
CommentAuthormrsquinn2b
I understand the dilema you are going through, I have 4 bridesmaid one is my sister in law to be and the other 3 are my best friends. I have split duties between them all so they don't feel left out but have given the chief bridesmaid role to one of my best friends who i have know longer and has been my rock through all my stresses!! but all my girls are equally important on the day!
I agree with Tiggs saying that your sister should not assume that she automatically gets the role. It is your day and your choice! My sister isn't even being my bridesmais, but thats because she has 2 children of her own to look after throughout the day and she doesn't feel that she could be my bridesmaid as well as a mum.
It's your decision at the end of the day. Good luck hun x x
CommentAuthorCarlyroo
i hadnt even thought of giving them titles, they just both have jobs to do.as far as im aware you dont actually need to have a moh, of a cbm, just call hem all bridesmaids!!!!!!
