In a bit of pickle. I have four best friends who i will be asking to be my Bm's but don't know who i should ask to be my cheif/maid. One i have known for 10 years and is most outspoken and a fabulous organiser who already expects me to be asking her, i was bridesmaid to her wedding but her best best friend was chief and she was to hers. Number 2 i have known for 9 years but wasnt very close for number of years but since being pregnant and having our third babies together we are closer and i see her the most plus we are godparents to each others little ones ( her daughter will be my flower girl and so will number ones daughter), she is quite outspoken too and would maybe be disappointed if she wasn't either. Number 3 i have known for 6 years but we only see each other now and then coz she likes to keep herself to herself. And number 4 have known for 5 years and she is my sweetest cute friend who has just moved back from spain after 2 years, she doesn't have a partner or children and think she would fit in best at my top table plus she never ever lets me down and always makes an effort for me even though she has her own life working hard and being single lol, my mum likes her the best and wants her to be..... Advice please as i wouldn't know how to tell my more vocal friends if i never chose them x
CommentAuthorKirstyW49
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P.S Does the chief have to organise the hen night?? I could maybe ask number one to do the hen night without being chief
CommentAuthorsarah
How long do you have until your wedding? If it's more than 12 months out I would recommend just taking your time to choose. As you get further into your planning I think your choice will become a lot easier for you. In time you'll be able to see how interested they are and how involved they have been and will be in throughout the process.
CommentAuthorAmyP7
Think you have already made tour mind up, you just need to be honest with them and tell them sooner rather than later. Can you not give them other jobs like has been said, organising the hen night, or readings etc x x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think u should choose number 4 .... Give her a bit of responsibility... Number 1 and 2 u have known the longest but u can put their children (the flowergirls) at their tables then to be responsible for their own children .... I agree with Kirsty, if u think 1 or 2 may get upset at not being asked,then give them another responsibility...perhaps one could do the hen night and one could be your witness and sign the register?x
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Why don't you say your not having a chief as you can't decide as they're all too good friends and ask them all to split the role I.e one to organise hen night, one to organise something else and try give them jobs that they're best suited to. But I agree with KelBel and choose one as a witness
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Number 4 sounds like the best option, although you don't HAVE to have a maid of honour/chief bridesmaid xx
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
You could split the role, and not give any of them the title of chief bridesmaid.
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CommentAuthorKirstyW49
Hmmmm never thought of that, could be a good option to split the role!! and also i will give it some more time and see how friendships progress or don't as i have not asked any to be bm's yet lol
CommentAuthorTori
I think you know which one you want but are scared of upsetting the two outspoken ones. You need to go with the one you want xx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
If you are unsure, just say you are not having a chief BM as they are all equal!
