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    • AnikaM60
      CommentAuthorAnikaM60
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 10th 2016
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    I thought it was up to me to pay for bridesmaids/groomsmen clothing and shoes but my mom thinks its upto the individual to pay. Whats the 'right way'?

    Who usually foots the bill?

    Ive picked multiway dresses so that each bridesmaid can tailer it to her own style and have found a very reasonable price on etsy so cost wouldnt be an issue for anyone. Im more after what the normal thing to do.
    Forum Poll

    Bridesmaids/groomsmen

    Who foots the bill

    Poll Results

    Total Votes:
    20
    The individual - clothes and accessories
    0% 
    The individual -just clothes
    5% 
    The bride/groom pays for all
    50% 
    The bride/groom pays for clothes only
    45% 
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    • StephH96
      CommentAuthorStephH96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I've not voted just because I can see from both sides of things.

    As a bride I would expect to pay for bridesmaids/groomsmen clothes as a minimum. I would like to be able to pay for ladies hair + make up too but it would depend on the cost and the budget.

    As it is we are going abroad and we don't have any bridesmaids/groomsmen so I don't have to worry about it.

    I think if you are determining what some one is wearing you should pay for it, especially if they wouldn't get the use of it again/its not their style etc.
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    • StephanieM158
      CommentAuthorStephanieM158
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I havent voted...sorry.
    I feel theres no "right way". Ive paid for her dress and accessories and her hair done on the day through choice.

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    • TheNewMrsBarrett
      CommentAuthorTheNewMrsBarrett
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I think it can differ for everyone. I chose what I wanted my bridesmaids to wear, so I paid for their outfits and their hair and make up on the day. However, hubby's best man and groomsmen paid for their own outfits as he was happy for them to wear what they wanted.
    I'm not sure there is a "normal" way anymore, some couples would rather pay for everything, others may not be in a position to. I think it can be different for everyone, so maybe don't worry about what's normal and just go with what works best for you and your OH? Xx
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    • LeanneF96
      CommentAuthorLeanneF96
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    My two sisters are my bridesmaids they have both kindly offered to pay their dresses even though id budgeted to pay for them. I picked my colour scheme and they picked the dresses. I will be paying for hair / make up and accessories.




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    • ElizabethF49
      CommentAuthorElizabethF49
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I paid for everything except shoes for my Bridesmaid and when I was BM for my sister she paid for everything except shoes I only had my sister and my sister had me and one of her friends as BMs

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    • DanielleG93
      CommentAuthorDanielleG93
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I'm paying for all of my bridesmaids outfits

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    • Wundatigga
      CommentAuthorWundatigga
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 11th 2016
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    I'm letting my older bridesmaids choose their own dresses with just my input for colours. I have said I have budgeted up to £70 for their dresses so if what they choose is over that then they will make up the difference and they will sort out their own shoes - this seemed the fairest way to do things as I will obviously be paying for my two daughters dresses. I am also paying for the girls hair and make up on the day.

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    • NicoleW665
      CommentAuthorNicoleW665
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 13th 2016
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    i am paying for bridesmaids dresses, hair and make-up, they are getting their own shoes and accessories by choice :) x

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    • MichelleC961
      CommentAuthorMichelleC961
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 13th 2016
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    I would say if you are choosing the dress then you should pay- if you want specific shoes and hair I would say you pay.

    I think you need to be up front with bridesmaid first tho x

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 13th 2016
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    We paid for everything. We were of the view that we asked the bridal party to be involved so didn't expect them to pay for any of their outfits, however we asked them to just wear smart black work shoes for the guys and my bridesmaids I said to wear what was comfortable for them from their extensive shoe collection.

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
      Got married 8 years ago
      Posted: Jun 13th 2016
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    Also we were deciding on the colour and style so couldn't expect them to pay for something they'll never wear again.

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    • FutureMrsW
      CommentAuthorFutureMrsW
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    I think traditionally the bride and groom pay for the wedding party outfits but as you can see many people do it different ways.

    I am making the BM dresses so will be paying for the costs myself, though we are hoping the best man will help out with the groomsmen suits, as he wanted to contribute something to the wedding financially, which is lovely of him <3




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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    I will be buying my sisters outfit and hair and makeup on the day. She will sort her shoes out herself so that she is comfortable.
    She has offered to pay for the dress but I don't think that's right as it isn't something she will wear because of the colour. She picked the design but I did have my say and said no to a couple that she liked.

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    • AnikaM60
      CommentAuthorAnikaM60
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 14th 2016
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    I think i will just go with my original thought then and pay for my bms outfits. I wanted to pay for their hair and make up as well but im not sure i can squeeze that into the budget
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    • KimberleyR93
      CommentAuthorKimberleyR93
      Posted: Jun 23rd 2016
     
    We are paying for all bridesmaid and page boy outfits. Including shoes. We are also paying for the hire of the ushers and if they ruin it in anyway then that's where we say you can foot the bill. But we want everything matching n the same. I guess it depends on the budget and how much you want them to be apart of your wedding as they may not be In a position to buy it themselves. I was asked to be a bridesmaid and told to pay for my own. So I saved up. Hope this helps x

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    • MrsBU2B
      CommentAuthorMrsBU2B
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Jun 23rd 2016
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    Yeah, I'm think that I'll pay for the dresses and the jewellery will be a gift. Hair/make-up/shoes will be for them to sort and pay for if they want. I mean I'm going to have a hair dresser and MUA there for me and W2B but if they want to use them or do it themselves or whatever.
 
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