Well, i myself have 2 sisters and 1 brother. My finace, has 5 sisters and 3 brothers!! Not to mention both of us have divorced parents, with new partners. Fair enough i can invite them all, but as for the rest of the family, and a +1, how can i tell some people theyre not allowed, and some they can. Who do i chose to bring a parnter :( Help im so new to this!
CommentAuthorJenna
First sort out who you want there, then if you have enough spaces left fill in ppl that can bring +1, for example a friend who has no other friends there would need a +1 so decide like that, if ppl ask why they can bring a +1 but someone else cant then you say coz they have no one else talk to, and its my wedding if you dont like my choices tuff!
CommentAuthorJane
First of all a big welcome to the site and congrats on being a bride 2 b! As for guest lists, why not draw up a list first of all of everyone who you COULD invite then look at how many you can afford/can fit into venue. You could have a smaller number for the day time and invite more for the evening. As for partners, if people are married or have been together a long time it is polite to invite their partner otherwise some people can be a bit offended or just not come. I think first of all draw up a priority list of those you definitely want to come then a 'B' list of 'not quite so important people' and take it from there. A lot will depend on the venue you choose and their capacity and their price per head for food etc. Good luck!
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
really differcult one this we had the same problem i have a very large famiily in the end we decided that we where not inviting any my cousens. but we where inviting my aunts and uncals I told my cousens it I was fine with not being invited to their weddings since i know how much the whole thing costs
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CommentAuthorJane
It was quite easy for me as our registry office offered us a room to seat 5, or 40 or 100. Wasnt going to pay loads of money for the 100 room and 5 wasnt enough so went with the 40 (which actually turned out to be the prettiest room anyway and up a lovely sweeping staircase, oak beams, leaded windows - really lovely!) So we are limited to 40 for the actual day time. So only immediate family and friends.
We made a list of all my family, all is family, friend from our home town, friends from undergrad course, friends from postgrad course and friends from work. It came to over 200 and we decided 150 was going to be our max. So we then went through it deciding who we no longer see and talk too really. Then cutting some children out like cousin kids, or friends kids that could get a childminder. Then we removed friends partners we had never met. So now we are at 175. Still to many but hopefully not everyone will come. lol Hope this helps, tis seemed the fairest way for us to do it. People should be happy they are getting invited and understand that there is a certain number that can be invited.
CommentAuthorCowChop
We had the same problem, my parents are divorced and remarried and I have a brother that is married. h2b hates his dad so he is not invited, he has 1 brother who is single but his other brother died last year who had a girlfried nad 3year old so we have said they can all come and no other family, then just our bestmand and bridesmaids (plus their partners and kids). A few peple aren't happy but its not their wedding and you're never going to please everybody so just do what you are happy with. x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
its a hard one! i had the same problem and specially with the top table!!!! but i stuck to biological parents in the end! but sit down with ur h2b and make a plan of action on who can come and who not xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
I had this problem last night. what i have done is write down every one you know/ talk to get h2b to do the same. You are going to have 2 of a few people if you both see them/talk to them. hen take of the people you have not spoken to in 6 months. Then see what you have left,
Mine works out to be 120 people but only 22 - 25 of them are coming to the ceremony
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
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