We decided that we wanted to get married in the Catholic Church as my h2b is catholic. I am divorced so at present are going through the motions of getting the marriage anulled in the eyes of the Church, this could take a year to do, then i may have to become catholic, which can take another two years. we had planned to get married september 2011, as we did not know how long it could take, it may not take long for the marriage to be anulled, but we do not know, it may not even get anulled at all. Do we just go ahead and book a civil ceremony now and start planning, or do we wait, just in case we book the civil ceremony and then find that we can get married in church, we really do not know what to do, but we feel in limbo as we cannot actually book a proper date yet, or start planning properly. what do you think girls x

I'm with Dove on this one, I think you both need to decide just how much you want to get married in Church. I'm not Catholic but I understand it can be really difficult for a divorced non-Catholic to get married in their Church.
If you're lucky and your divorce is anulled and you don't need to convert then there's no reason why you can't get married in 2011 but if you start the conversion process now then long term scenario it will be 2012 - do you want to wait that extra year? Is the date you've chosen something important to you, like an anniversary? Important questions!
Talk to your priest, he may be able to give you a better idea of what you need to do and he's more likely to know what your chances of anullment are.
Do you practice a religion? The Church of England and the Methodist Church are usually more than happy to marry anyone as long as the Reverend think you're getting married for the right reasons - this way you could still get married in Church if a registry office isn't for you.
As for civil ceremonies, you can have them pretty much anywhere these days - depending on where you live there are some beautiful hotels that host them.

But I think that you and your h2b need to talk this through and then go talk to your Priest. On the doom and gloom bit (sorry!!) Catholicism does tend to frown on divorce so be prepared for them making it as difficult as humanly possible (I don't think they realise to err is human lol) but if they don't then you can call it a wonderful bonus!
Got everything crossed for you xxx

I feel your impatience!! If we could then Ross and I would have done it way before now!!
You need to speak to him then - there's definitely a compromise here, even if it's a civil next year then a blessing at a later date or like I said, you can get married in Church but doesn't have to be a Catholic one ;)

awww, that's great shellay :)

congratulations hun x

yes we are going to try for a blessing afterwards, but possibly not on the same day x

shellay I'm SO pleased it's worked out for you, and a month earlier than hoped for - lucky duck :) xxx

Just deal with the blessing as and when. I totally understand the finalised in the eyes of God thing, whereas I no longer practice Methodism (long story) I do feel it's important that it's recognised by the God I grew up with.
You could always do it on your wedding anniversary one year, think that makes it just that little bit more special :) xxx

So I'm told you come back to Earth with a right bump after your wedding day is over - you however get to stay all floaty for a bit longer :)
If you need any help with anything just give me a shout xxx

YOU COULD ALWAYS HAVE A REWNEWAL OF VOWS DONE IN THE CHURCH WHEN YOU HAVE GONE THROUGHT THE PROCESS