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    • FionaW773
      CommentAuthorFionaW773
      Posted: 4 days ago
     
    Hi all. My partner and I have been engaged since Feb 2016 I proposed lol. I've brought up setting a date before and he keeps saying we'll see which is a bit disheartening as can't wait to get married. It's only been in the last couple of weeks that I've started looking into venues and dates by myself. The issue is I know I need to say to him but I'm worried he's going to put it off again. I just don't know where to start with planning and how to go about keeping the cost down as on a tight budget.

    Thank you all
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    • VerityC21
      CommentAuthorVerityC21
      Getting married in 12 months
      Posted: 3 days ago
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    I hate to be the first to reply with what I'm about to say... but if I were in your position, I'd be wondering whether he actually wants to get married? You say that he's "put if off" before - are there any really good reasons to put it off?
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    • FionaW773
      CommentAuthorFionaW773
      Posted: 3 days ago
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    I do love him very much but sometimes I think that too does he want to marry me. In 2016 and 2017 we had our two children so I understand that we couldn't do it. But now it's like we don't have the money or mainly we'll see. Sorry for the long post and rant just feel like a bit sad by it all when it should be a magical time. Thank you so much
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    • VerityC21
      CommentAuthorVerityC21
      Getting married in 12 months
      Posted: 3 days ago
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    I really feel for you! As much as it's going to be a difficult conversation, it is one you need to have with him - does he want to get married to you? You might find that he does want to marry you but he's worried that you'll want a huge wedding that: a) you haven't got the money to spend on; and b) he really doesn't want a big wedding.

    I think you need to find time to have this discussion somewhere that he can't just ignore or run away from it. Once it's had, then you will have more of an idea of how to move forward.

    I wish you luck x
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    • FionaW773
      CommentAuthorFionaW773
      Posted: 2 days ago
     
    Thank you so much. Had a conversation with him about it all and he does want to get married yayy. He is a bit concerned about the cost but we'll try and keep the cost down as much as we can. He's leaving a lot of the planning down to me which I dont overly mind. He says pick a date and he'll be there. From earlier messages was thinking of Feb 2022 but going to change it to July 2022 to give us those extra couple of months xx
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    • VerityC21
      CommentAuthorVerityC21
      Getting married in 12 months
      Posted: 2 days ago
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    That's great news - have fun planning!!
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    • FionaW773
      CommentAuthorFionaW773
      Posted: 1 day ago
     
    Thank you so much. Sorry can I ask your advice again. Am I being unreasonable or stubborn. Sat down last night with partner and talked wedding ideas managed to get a budget for the whole thing for roughly 6000. The issue is that all of a sudden he doesn't want to do a whole big day he just wants to get married in registrar and go for family meal and come home at the end of the night. He's so worried about money and I understand it all adds up I'd even suggested doing 2023. My heart is broke cause he says we either do it his way or not at all. Am I being unreasonable. Thank you so much sorry for the long post
 
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