Right, I need some honest opinions on this because im many shades of grey with this one,
Ok, so ive booked my wedding venue, paid my deposit, the girls at work ask me all about it, how much, what its like etc.
Then one of the girls who I told about my venue, then books the same venue for the Christmas do! In my opinion, I didn't particularly want to attend my wedding venue prior to my wedding for a Christmas party? I also think this is a dig at me, as we don't all get along and I didn't find it strange they were paying a lot of attention to my wedding. My H2B and I were both on the same team at one point except now so they both know us.
My Mum and Dad said build a bridge, get over it, go to it, see how the venue is first hand.
My hairdresser said it was out of order, they are just being mean. (I agree). Now im losing face over it. I cant believe they done this. Everything I told her she sold it to everyone else. Im so upset and quite frankly I think her actions are b**chy
Ok I went all bridezilla but I need some perspective to make sure im not going mental lol
Opinions please!!
CommentAuthorRennie1989
I agree with your parents. Many wedding venues are used for many other functions, I've seen the room I'm due to be married in used as a business conference room. You maybe thinking too much into this, the colleague may not have chosen your venue strictly on purpose, but as an idea for a Christmas do. You're not a bridezilla, I can see why you would be annoyed, but I wouldn't worry about it.
CommentAuthorPoPoem
Mine too.
I just cant help but think its a dig at me...
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
I'd say take it as a compliment! They obviously like the venue!
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
I can understand why you're upset, however it will probably look completely different for a Christmas party. It's amazing what different colours and decorations can do to a venue!!
Try not to let it get you down hun. It won't make your day any less special xxx
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P.S - it will give you chance to try food etc, experience the service before your big day! xxx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
I understand you're upset but it'd be a great chance to experience the venue's service and food etc :) plus, a Christmas do is so different to a wedding, it won't look the same
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CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
I'd take it as an opportunity to sniff out the bad bits! I met someone who went to a wedding at our venue a couple of weeks back and she has given me loads of hints and tips!
You'll get to see where you'll want to be photographed, even get to know the staff.
Use it to your advantage!
I do agree that it's a bot out of order but your parents are right, hold your head up high! You have nothing to be worried about xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
In a way you should be flattered ....you got such a good place they wanted it to but you can use this to your advantage .... See the things you want to change etc ....
How long after Christmas is you wedding ( we can't be mosey as your profile is restricted )
Remember your wedding will be different to how it will be at Christmas. When are you getting married?
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CommentAuthorangel830609
I can see your point I would be more than a bit annoyed if this was me and i'd ask (nicely to annoy her) what made her choose your venue, on the other hand I would be intrigued to see what it looked like before my wedding xx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I can see ur point more than ur parents... If it were me arranging the Xmas do I would have given ur wedding venue a complete wide berth and not even had it on the maybe list..... I think she is being a lot out of order here x
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CommentAuthorPoPoem
The Xmas do is this Christmas and we are getting married 02.01.15, but they have a habit of using a venue for two years running so it will be around a couple weeks if they intend to use it next year.
I know it seems selfish I think I may need a few neck rubs to get over this one.
CommentAuthorPoPoem
I do think its mean! Theres a mean part in me that goes....wait until its your wedding! lol
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Are there any people from work coming to the wedding?
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CommentAuthorPoPoem
some of them will be, can't afford to everyone and to be quite frank, I don't wish to spend the money on them.
CommentAuthorsarah
I can see why you're annoyed, I would be annoyed to. I don't understand why you think it's a dig. Obviously it's a compliment to your good taste. After all, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I would suggest going to the venue to find out more information about the differences between Christmas Dos and Weddings. You may find that they'll be held in different rooms or different parts of the venue. you may find that they'll have suggestions to make your event stand out even more.
CommentAuthorPoPoem
I think its a dig because we don't get on seemingly well at work. they often make plans outside of work and don't include myself or a few of the others....so im quite sore
CommentAuthorsarah
I know it'd be hard but I think it'd be best to just let it go. I think most people would think she's copying you (if they have an opinion at all).
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
Maybe it was a dog; maybe it wasn't but either way; I'd suggest just going to the Christmas doo and not thinking into it to much; at least some of your guests (if you have work mates coming) will know where to go in the venue and can help people telling them where to go instead of just you and your h2b :P
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CommentAuthorPoPoem
I know, thank you for your opinions.
Makes me feel a bit better
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Have I read that right and the Christmas do is THIS year and your wedding is a year later ? I cud understand your upset more if you were getting married there a few weeks or even a couple of months later but a year ....!!!
I had a colleague get married 5mths before me at the same venue ... Neither of us were upset and in fact spent more time talking about how lovely it was
I honestly can't see the problem. A few of the venues on our list to look at were because we'd been to parties there so knew they were good.
I don't get the whole my venue has been booked for something else before my wedding/someone else I know is getting married at my venue/so and so is getting married before me kind of questions?? Baffled.
I guess that probably wasn't what you wanted to hear but a venue is obviously going to be used for other events and there are usually a limited number of venues within a certain radius
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CommentAuthorSuzyb
If I were you I would act all excited that you are having the Christmas do there, that way if it is their attempt at trying to get at you it will back fire!
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CommentAuthorDanni13
I think as your wedding is more than a year later it wont matter...you chose it coz you like it, so hopefully the christmas do wont put you of!!
Id say don't worry, the last thing youll be thinking about on your wedding day is 'oooh it feels like my christmas doo' !! xx
CommentAuthorChristinaB38
i would think of it as a trial run of your day - you'll be able to taste their cuisine plus you'll be able to see how they handle catering for large numbers - whether the food is still hot when served/time waiting etc etc you'll be able to forsee any potential problems and sort them out before your big day xx
