Hi well as the discussion topic says 'when should i send them'? im getting married 20th September next year and were thinking about sending january as we need to know their food orders as it needs to pre ordered with the venue and give details of rooms that can be booked and we need numbers for the buses we need to hire. Do you think this is too soon? we are not sending save-the-dates, thanks x
CommentAuthorsarah
For me personally I think anything more than 3 months is too soon. However a lot of people send them earlier than that. I really don't think there's a hard and fast rule on invites anymore.
CommentAuthorgonzo
I'm getting married august and sending my invites out in march only because I'm have personalised favors made so need to know who to do it for, plus hotel rooms and travel x
CommentAuthorJoanna
You could send them out in January but people may not RSVP for a while. Maybe include an RSVP deadline?
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
We get married May 2014 and sent our day invites at the start of this month. This was for a number of reasons;
- Guests food choices - I work in a school and this is the start of a half term - It's a bank holiday weekend - Our venue want final day guest numbers 8 weeks in advance.
We plan to send our evening invites at the start of January.
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
All weddings I've been to send them out approx 12 weeks before the big day, your guests will know the date as you will have sent out save the dates.
Again, from experience from ours and other's weddings, venues don't need final numbers for catering until 4 weeks before the big day.
Sending out sooner than 3 months before can lead to people either forgetting to rsvp or they confirm they're coming but drop out closer to the day as things crop up xx
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CommentAuthorgonzo
I didn't send save the dates out lol then again i've not exactly been quiet about it, so no one has got an excuse to forget :/ lol i have put on the invites i need a rsvp by 1st of may though x
CommentAuthorMelissaLarner2b
We're getting married in July but didn't send out save the dates so was thinking sending invites in January just so everyone has plenty of time to decide! I never thought about having a deadline for rsvp's so I think I'll add that in too! I think it's personal choice when you feel is best to send but I can see where InDreamland is coming from!
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
we wanted to send ours out nice and early. i sent them out just under 5 months before wedding date as our wedding is on friday and people need to book time off work. our venue also dont need menu choices until 2 weeks before wedding so you have plenty of time. i dont think you can really send them out any sooner than 6 months before - people will change their mind and not turn up. they may also think you are a little crazy sending them 10 months before wedding.
have you sent save the dates? you can send them out now so that people know to keep date free. also i left 2 months for RSVP which i really wish i hadnt. no-one has RSVP'd apart from the really close family that i have handed invites too. wish i had just left 4 weeks for RSVP as i would have them all back soon x
also if people need to book day off work for your wedding, have you considered that most people get their new set of holiday entitlement on 1st April? i wouldnt bother sending them out until then as people wont know whether they can get time off work yet or not xx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
We're sending ours in January and marrying August 30th. I don't think you need to wait until three months before unless you've done save the dates. We haven't, although we've notified the key people of the date, so we want to get invites out before people book holidays.
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
I think I'll send them out maybe March/April time.
Some of my friends are notoriously bad at RSVPing so I want to allow plenty of time to chase!! Xxx
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CommentAuthorRoxanneV
Im not sending save the dates as trying to save money, but after reading what everyones had to say iv re thought it lol send the out end of march and ask for rsvp for start of august? X
CommentAuthorbarbie86
We're aiming to send our day-time ones beginning of February, however, given how tardy we were with our save the dates it'll likely be late February. We'll be sending the evening ones about a month later. Our wedding is 2nd August.
Although we've sent save the dates I still want to give guests plenty of notice; plus I think some of our older guests don't see save the dates as 'official' IYKWIM.
Our RSVP deadline for the evening will be 8 weeks before, and for the day-time about 12 weeks before. This allows us time to chase people without getting too stressed, and also, if we get declines, to invite people that we haven't been able to due to number constraints.
CommentAuthorLauraK7
My mum suggested I do day invites in jan 2015 and I marry in July 2015, think is likely because most if my dad's family won't come and allows me time to invite others instead
CommentAuthorBeckyU98
i would have a shorter RSVP time Roxanne. 5 months is a long time and people will probably take agggggeeeess to RSVP and it will probably drive you insane! they may lose your invite in that space of time too. the shorter time you give them the less time they will take. i wouldnt leave any more than 2 months RSVP time so i would leave a little later till sending them out. or if you really want to send them out in march ask for them back in like may time xx
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
iv gotta make mine yet i plan to get them out in jan fingers crossed x
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CommentAuthorSJJ
I think if you send invites too early people will forget to RSVP as they will keep thinking they have loads of time. Have you sent save the dates? I would send those now if you haven't, so people have the date in their diaries. I would send invites 6 months before at the most, evening invites 4 months before. You could get away with sending them 3 months before though if you send save the dates xx
