Ok so I have only been married 2 weeks and yes it was amazing and I had a great day but 1. it wasn't the catholic church wedding I always wanted and 2. I couldn't have all the things I wanted because of the budget - I don't mean that to sound shallow as I know its about me and my husband but some areas of the day I didn't feel the wow factor didn't completely feel like a princess and I am really unhappy about certain elements now I look back on things ESPECIALLY the photographs so really want to do it all again but not sure when is best as really it isn't a renewal so don't have to wait like 20 years but I don't want to do it next year as want the time to save and have the amazing church wedding and OTT party I've always wanted which will take some saving........so when would you suggest doing a blessing?? Anyone else considering one too x x
I really don't think you need to wait that long for a renewal. I think if you want to do a renewal/blessing, do it whenever you can afford the day you want. I've read stories where people renew their vows every year. I think anything goes when it comes to things like this.
CommentAuthorCrawf
It is completely up to you! I, personally, wouldn't think of renewing until a big anniversary - 10, 25, 50 years etc. But as I said, it is a personal preference!
I am worried about the same thing as you have mentioned, that the big day will not live up to all of the planning!!
CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
There are just bits I am disappointed in looking back and I would love to get married every year I am wedding obsessed thinking maybe 10 years would be a good idea as I'd have plenty of time to save x
I think you could have a blessing quite soon after the wedding. Personally I wouldn't have a vow renewal for quite a few years - maybe 10, 20 or 25 etc as they are significant anniversaries.
I think you need to wonder if it's just the party etc you're after, or if it's a genuine renewal of vows - would your guests all come to a re-enactment of your wedding if you actually got married 5, 10 years earlier? The expense of a fancy wedding adds up too but you need the guests there to fuel the atmosphere - and personally I think in 5-10 years time we'll have other priorities to spend the best part of £20k on seeing as by then I assume we'll have a mortgage on a house, children, and will be saving up towards retiring, university fees etc.
If it's photos you're after, why not contact your photographer for a post wedding shoot - we're doing that in October, as we were so rushed on the day we didn't get many portrait type shots of just the two of us - so for a 4 hour session, including hair and makeup etc, editing and inclusion in our wedding album and disc etc it's only 300 - plus we get to wear our wedding outfits again! And we're off on honeymoon in 5 weeks too so have arranged wedding dress photos on the beach too for 150 - our wedding day had it's own disasters too (we had several issues, have got compensation refunds from 2 suppliers, and are currently taking our caterers through small claims as they totally messed up on the day) - but we know we can't recreate our wedding day. So the money we're getting back we're putting half towards the house fund, and are putting the other half towards a holiday next year so we can have some fantastic memories out of the experience instead - it was so distressing in the weeks after the wedding but now it's been 2-3 months, we realise we had a great party despite all the hiccups - plus we got married to each other, which was the main point of the day!
CommentAuthorplantolana
I'm exactly the same, I hate all my photos and didn't think the day was as wow as it looked in my head lol. Xx
CommentAuthorLegoWife
Bridalmiss.
I know it sucks if you didn't have the day you wanted but regardless of renewals and blessings you're never going to be able to get married again. You can't really replicate the feelings and excitement of your actual wedding, you can't just simply do it again because it wasn't good enough. Even if you get it right the second time your guests probably aren't going to care as much as the first time and it won't have the same atmosphere.
I think Bridalmiss has the right idea with doing a post wedding shoot. Get dressed up again and get some amazing portraits done.
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CommentAuthorSian''OCD''Holkham
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Its not about having more pictures I wanted to have a church wedding that means a lot to me and my feeling is why not just combine that with a massive party to celebrate we already have a son not in a rush for any more kids thinking I could save slowly and I would still do it on a low budget just not as low as what mine was 20k is a stupid amount to spend on a wedding I would never waste money like that!
Me & my husband were going to have a uk church blessing for our 1st wedding anniversary due to similar reasons (family couldnt attend, well only 3 people lol.. wasnt a church etc) but we just cant afford it now, absoloutly gutted
Mrs Lunn
08/05/12 was the best day of my life
& I love my husband with all my heart xxxx
CommentAuthormym72
Tbh I really don't think a vow renewal is something you do on such a grand scale as actually getting married. The wedding is the most important thing - a renewal/blessing is a smaller event.
CommentAuthorKirstyM3690
you can choose to do it at any time and i think we all feel like weve planned so much it may not live up to what we want!! when me and my h2b we started out with the big dream church amazing venue loads of family as we kept talkin the main thing we wanted was to show are love to eachother..i had my church booked for may 2014 and i cancelled it weve now gone to get married in cyprus with 30 guests and i love everything about it..so far! all i wanted is too show how much i love this man id go in any dress! if youre pictures arent great why not plan around that look at some places that u like..have a party to celebrate ur love and have amazing pics or why not just go to the church and do the same! :-) I hope whatever u choose will be the best day for you xxxx
Bridalmiss.
