I thought now that we're into 2013 my H2B would be interested in doing/talking about doing some planning!!!
He has been poorly this week but he just doesn't seem bothered!! I've just said I'll organise everything and he just turn up on the day.
Is anyone else's like this and will be ever be wanting to do things??
Mrs Gill
24th August 2013
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I do think men vary quite a bit in their interest to weddings.
My h2b was very good from day one in terms of discussing what he'd like but as for actual research and practical things, I think I've done the bulk of it. He does say that he's not fussed about color schemes, wedding stationery etc as all he wants to do is marry me. That said, he has been very involved in sorting the evening reception.
I guess we've only been in 2013 for one day...he might take more of an interest as it gets closer.
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Don't worry he will be intrested but proberly not until THE ACTUAL DAY of the wedding lol he is after all a man! ;-)
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CommentAuthorRosyF77
Awww thats sad. Maybe just sit down and talk to him when hes not ill and say you wouod like abit more input from him :-) Im sure it will work out as the time gets nearer xxx
CommentAuthorKaren22
Yeah you're all probably right, I just want things doing straight away!! Thank you. I've given him a little list of things that needs to be done in January he was happy with that... I'll just do it for every month we have left.. Xx
I wouldn't worry about it, I think that men just genuinely don't get that excited about weddings and all the planning that comes with them,it's not because they don't love us or because they don't care it's just they don't see why it would be interesting. I guess in the same way that us girls don't get excited abut certain things they really like. I for example have no idea why football is so interesting or why any one would want to put so much time and energy into sorting out their "fantasy football team". I just don't and won't ever see why he likes it! I know it's a bit different with the wedding but if you try and apply the same logic it becomes a bit easier. I gt really upset when we first started planning because couldn't understand why he didn't care about decor or chair colours etc, but then I realised that at no other point in our life's would I expect him to be interested in chair covers and so realised I was being a bit silly.
Why not give your man a specific job he'll enjoy, mine is currently in charge or choosing the meal, the suits ( not the colour etc lol,must the shopping part) and he is also organising the music for the ceremony and the meal as his interest is in music. He's doing it slowly bit by bit and I know he's taking such a long time because he's enjoying rummaging about through CDs and downloading tacks. That bit he is interested in part of it so when he says he doesn't care about styles of icing it doesn't feel like he's not interested at all. Xx
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CommentAuthorKaren22
Good idea Lizzy. I'll see if there's anything he wants to do, he could make a play list for our dj. X
Mrs Gill
24th August 2013
CommentAuthorAmyK
Yeah, Lizzys idea is much better than mine, which was to tell him you've booked/planned something you know he'd hate, just to get him to pay attention and say that if he doesn't help, he can't complain about the choices for the day ;-)
CommentAuthorKaren22
Haha Amy that's another good idea, especially as he likes to keep an eye on what we're paying for. Xxx
Mrs Gill
24th August 2013
CommentAuthormillz090
It's not because he's a man so bit sad some people are saying that. my oh is very interested in our plans but we don't talk about them or wedding stuff constantly. We have one wedding planning weekend per month where we have been to appointments and sort stuff out but other than that we try and live our life's normally so both interested and he doesn't get bored of the wedding subject. Maybe try e same, talk to him and tell him how you feel but maybe stick to limited wedding talk so not boring him xxx
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I wouldn't worry, my h2b hasn't been interested really. I have to drag him into a conversation about the wedding, he's a man after all. Let the year properly start and give him chance x x
CommentAuthormym72
My husband was interested in the planning from day one. We discussed everything that needed booking etc, and tbh he was probably worse than me for researching online and reading reviews of things (he does this for everything lol). I don't think it's just because 'they're men' that some are not that into wedding planning - it's a question of personality as well, as a lot of men enjoy planning their day as well.
CommentAuthorOWB
I wouldn't marry my h2b if he didn't pull his weight and help with the planning! I want an equal relationship, and that means equal planning.
Having said that, he does need a boot up the backside every now and again. Yesterday I asked what his stag do plans were, he said he hadn't really thought about it as there were more pressing things on is list - I'm not sure how logging on to a computer and ordering the ties is more pressing than organising a weekend get-together involving 10 other people that have to travel to a different part of the country?!?! Organisation is not h2b's strong point.
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CommentAuthorRachaelC80
Why don't you ask him to book and plan the honeymoon??? My H2B booked the flights etc and was so excited :-) He even told me I have to change my passport into my new married name!!
I think I'm lucky that H2B has taken a huge interest in things and will talk about the wedding to friends :-)
CommentAuthormym72
In our case, OWB, the ordering of the ties was more important than organising a stag do - because we didn't bother with stag/hen nights lol. When we go out, we tend to drinnk with mutual friends so it seemed pointless to waste money on a stag/hen night - money that went towards to honeymoon spending money instead.
As for the honeymoon - we discussed that together as well. We wanted somewhere where neither of us had been before (hubby has travelled a lot, I hadn't). Luckily we both settled on Malta and it was new to both of us lol.
CommentAuthortorianixon
I am very lucky, my h2b is super interested, sometimes I have to tell him off hehe, I feel very fortunate!! I know last time around it was the opposite!!
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CommentAuthorMrs Richardson 2B x
I guess I'm lucky as mine has become a groomzilla lol. Don't get me wrong, we talk about everything together but where I'm just relaxed and getting on with it he's running around like a headless chicken fussing over every little thing lol xx
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CommentAuthorMrsLJDeaton
I done a post kinda like this one but I'm not getting married until 2016 so I have a long time to wait and plan and nearer to the time you'll H2B will get interested like the lovely ladies have said to me before 2He will come round" It's just been 2 days into 2013 so let him get well and better and watch he will change and get more interested =D its just the waiting game =D <3 X
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CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
Mine wasn't interested at first but he does get interested more now but not when it comes to making decisions he would rather me do all decision making and him just turn up on the day he has helped with odd bits of wedding shopping (carrying the bags) xxx
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CommentAuthorEm01
I have given my oh little bits to be in charge of, (well he thinks he is in charge of them but i have implanted the ideas i like in his mind already haha). The jobs he has are suit style (not colour and i have showed him only tails so really its more which shop he hires from), the playlist for the wedding breakfast and the cake as i am wheat intolerant so cant eat it anyway. I think he likes having the little jobs as he feels involved but doesnt have to deal with the major parts. xx
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Mine is like a groomzilla and we have arguments over the wedding over decisions instead of being interested, it's bad either way of the spectrum I think x
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CommentAuthorSaraA20
Haha Kel, mine is the same. He has an opinion about everything, but doesn't actually want to take any of the responsibility of planning anything! :) x
