I have quite a few friends im going to invite to the day that have children. I have no problem personally in children being at the wedding, its just going to be very expensive to feed them all!! I figure its rude to invite my friends and not their children, being a parent myself i understand sitters are a rarity for some and i dont want them to not come if their children cant. Ideas please?!!
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
to be honest i dont know on this. I have 2 children and it can go 2 ways. its nice to have a break from them but also if i couldnt get a babysitter i couldnt come. Are you having a sit down meal? x
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i've invited children to the day coz there all immediate family and evening has been at our decision on who we will allow children for coz other wise the kids would out number the adults. its defo a personal choice xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthormcquire81
Yes we are, thats the problem. If it was a buffet then no problem, but we are having a traditional wedding breakfast during the day and then a buffet/hog roast in the evening. The venue is an hours drive from where we live so its not like they could have their children over for just the evening either. My h2b doesnt want to compromise on having a traditional wedding breakfast, and i have to say i dont really want to give it up either so we are going to have to find a way round it somehow.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
can you not get something different for the kids? like burger and chips, fish and chips, etc x
my venue is giving us either half portions of the breakfast at half price or kids menu at £9.50. so i would ask what they have to offer
CommentAuthorMrsC2B
The little ones coming to our wedding will be treated to a starter, roast chicken main course and pudding. It's working out to be £20 per head for them compared to the £100 per head for the adults. It's a challenge though for when you come to seat them all. Do you keep the kids with their parents or have a separate table even though some of the children don't know each other? xx
CommentAuthormcquire81
Yes, think your right i will have to speak to the venue and see what they can do. Have a feeling it will still be expensive but what isnt with weddings i suppose!!
CommentAuthorKatya
you put each name on the invitation, every 'child' over 16 gets thwir own invite. however u could look into porter nannies. they can be quite reasonable prices, will bring things for the kids to do ie toys, drawing. look them up. but if you do decide to go for such a company u must inform all paremts and ask if they would be happy with this you must also and this is the MOST important bit, you want photocopies of thier crb checks for each person attending on your day with this company and you want a copy of their certs too, DONOT sign a contract without them i cant stress this enougj.
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Ill look in to that Katya thank you xx
CommentAuthormcquire81
Im not sure Whykeshopper, i have seen weddings where the children had their own little table but i think some of the parents would prefer to be seated with them. Will have to check with them too xx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'm getting a good deal as my package includes 40 adult meals so i have asked the children whether they would like an adult meal or childrens meal and my extra 8 ppl's places will be charge at childrens meal £7.95 each xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorUnknown
we are only have 5 children and a baby..mine and h2b neices and nephews! they wil be sitting with their parents.
on all the invites info card we have put adult only ceremony/reception so people know not to bring children. xx
CommentAuthorsam73
We are not having children at our wedding, there a few reasons, we are both teachers and constantly around kids- this is one day we don't want to be and secondly we can't afford to feed them, the venue doesn't do discounts for kids food so it will cost alot! Not many people in my family have kids, most o them understand. There are some who don't and have moaned at us about it, but I have decided no kids and sticking to it, if they don't like it thy don't have to come!
CommentAuthorKatya
having just called my venue for advice as this is a good question i have found that under 5's are free and are not included in te package price or numbers, so my sit down meal for 40 people could be 40 people plus under 5's if i was to have kids 5- 15 years this would be £8 extra per head, or 16 to 18 years would be £15 extra per head. but this also allows us to have 40 adults as well.
its best to check with your venue if the total numbers is for safety regs or if its plus kids when it comes to price.
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CommentAuthorUnknown
thats good katya. our venue includes children in the total numbers and we have to pay the same amount of money for them even if they just have a childrens meal or half an adults! £28.73!! x
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
blimey thats steep mrs barker 2 b x
CommentAuthorUnknown
i know...i did a post last week moaning about the venue. you have no idea how much i want to get married somewhere else!! x
CommentAuthorKatya
then get married elsewhere, why did you choose that venue?
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CommentAuthorsam73
We had major problems with our venue too mrs baker2be so completely understand, what is bad though is that its your big day, i cant understand why they make it so stressful and difficult for you, its one day and your paying alot of money, they think its all about them!
CommentAuthorTinsel
We are only having one child at the wedding; H2B's neice who is also the flowergirl. She'll be 2 and a half and kids under 5 are free at our venue.
I don't want any other kids there.
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CommentAuthortweedwedding
We're not inviting children to our wedding - thankfully not many of our friends have children - or I know they will be able to get a sitter, so it's not really a problem for us. Think it's a bit of a minefield though! x
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i am only having 3 chrildren there .....mr lala 2nieces and his nephew .....everyone has been told that this is an adult only affair
i have 21 at the ceremony and maybe more at the reception. I have 2 children and my neices and nephews. My bridesmaids and best man has children so i ended up with quite a few. Plus my cousins are kids as im the eldest of the lot. Eeek :o
CommentAuthormcquire81
Wow, seems like im not the only one to have issues surrounding childrens invites! Will definitely speak to my intended venue about the costs and to the parents and see what they think. I may find that some of them would prefer to leave the children with a sitter for the day, although i doubt it! Will certainly look in to this though, thanks ladies for your input xx
CommentAuthorKatya
like i say look into porter nannies, creches etc.
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Most of my friends children are not coming to the ceremony purely because of numbers, however there are very close friends and family whose children are like family to me and i want them there. My own children will be there anyway. For the evening i am saying that children are welcome to come along, or welcome to stay behind it is parents discretion, there will be foodie bit available as we are having a buffet and og roast anyway so i dont need to worry so much about seating and meals.
CommentAuthornickers
we are only having family children to our day as to many other kids if all came most people are happy to have a day on there own lol xx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
when we looked at it it was so nice and all the staff were lovely. 2 of my cousins also work there in the gym and it is a very good hotel (well meant to be) but since we paid out deposit it seems that they dont want to know. if i send emails i get short sharp replies and feel like they dont want to know.
Too late to pay for somwhere else now as we have paid for the venue and paid for the wine so stuck with it xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
With my venue under 5 eat free but they are still counted in the head counts so although they don't cost us anything we still have to count them along with everyone else which is fair enough. If you find that it is too expensive to feed all the kids then could you invite the adults then personally tell them that the kids are welcome to come but as you are on a tight budget you can't afford to feed everyone so they have the choice of leaving them at home or paying for them to eat?
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
If you don't want to invite children then don't hun, I'm not as I found to every couple there's 2-4 kids and it works out expensive and takes up too many places. If I invited kids I couldn't have half the guests that I would want. We've mentioned it to people that we aren't having kids and word gets around but in the invitation's we have put for example..
Mr and Mrs.S Gigglepants request the pleasure of Iggle Piggle and Upsy Daisy
It's pretty obvious kids aren't invited as you would put "and family" or have all there names.. But we've also wrote in the guest information bit "children are more than welcome to attend the evening reception"
As for getting babysitters, you've got LOTS of time to pre warn guests with kids that they will need to arrange babysitters
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