I am starting to feel that as long as we get our venue and food right for the day nothing else really matters, like the colour theme, the flowers even the dress as long as we've got family and good friends round us when we get married and everyone is having a good time
Is this just me

Don't get me wrong I want all the other bits, but if some one said it's the dress you want or your venue it would be bye-bye dress and I'd marry him in a pair of jeans.

I think you are right, I think we tend to forget sometimes that a wedding is really about joining together and that our families and friends have come to be with us on our day. It's all about family too for me and I want to look back on my wedding and think that everyone had a great time.

I totally agree, al the pretty things that are required for a wedding are starting to do my head in, all I want is to make a lifelong commitment to the man who has rocked my world. I'm fed up with worrying about chair covers and flowers, things I would never normally give a hoot about. I think we are all the same deep down.

For me, the church, venue and flowers were most important. Everything else is a bonus.

Would have to be the church then the venue with good food and then dress,
I don't care if the colours don't all match, or flowers don't all look the same it's nice to have all the small thing, but as long as all my friends and family are there to see the service and have a fun evening then I be happy.

No one will remember the tiny little details. Everyone remembers where it was, what the bridal party were wearing, the fun that was had and what the weather was like and the food. Little touches that brides spend a load of money on are often forgotten. I've been to a few weddings, do I remember what favours they had or what colour their flowers were? Nope. I would have to dig my photos out to remind myself.

As for big expensive weddings, some of the weddings that impress me the most are the low budget ones. I would put imagination over money everytime

I agree with all you the most important thing is I'm marrying my amazing man! :)

I think it's about prioritising what you want, especially for me cause we've got quite a tight budget, but our parents are all helping us out quite a bit and I'm not wasting money on things like chair covers, who actually notices them once they are sitting down? I'd rather have lots of things for my table tops and top table :)

Indreamland I would be the same about stuff like that. I think some brides lose all sense of reality when some little detail isn't right and cracking up at someone because the colour is a shade too light or a little darker than expected isn't the way to go. I was to attend a wedding once where the reception venue informed the bride that one of the tables had got broken and they had replaced it with a table of the same size but a different shape as her wedding was the very next day so they had no time to replace it with an exact match. She screamed blue murder down the phone and her mother had to calm her down. It was stupid really as they had managed to find a square table cloth and that table was placed at the back of the room. I have to say whilst sitting in her house listening to her crack up over that I myself felt ashamed to even be there. Had it been me I would have just said oh I don't care as long as its covered just like the rest of the tables. She even slammed the phone down and ran into the kitchen in tears.

Having said all that I did notice that on the day no one even mentioned the differently shaped table, nor did she even go to the back of the room and she looked like she had forgotten all about the phonecall the night before. Someone was just doing his job and she gave him hell which was uncalled for.

As long as I marry the man I love and people enjoy themselves it will be perfect for me! xx