Evening ladies, this is gonna be a bit of a rant, sorry
So I was speaking to my dads wife last night, and we're very close, so she's gonna be one of my bms. She told me that she was dying her hair pink, and I said that it wouldn't be right for the wedding as the bms are wearing dark purple dresses. She said it would be fine as pink and purple go together. I thought no more of it until my dad posted a pic on the book of face this evening
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Now I don't want to come across as a bridezilla but I'm fuming, I know the wedding is 7 and a bit months away but it looks RIDICULOUS!!its a permanent colour, so it's not gonna wash out easily and if she decides she likes it my wedding pics are going to look like a joke!! I've been trying to get my hair back to a natural colour for the day but now it's feels all worthless!! What do I do? Do I tell her that if its not natural by April then she will be stepping down (mil2bs idea) or do I just leave it and hope she grows bored of it? It's usually a trashy blonde and she knew that I loved her hair on her wedding day (she actually let it go natural) and that I wanted her natural colour. When she doesn't dye it it looks so nourished as well, she's put that many dyes on it looks like straw
For those of you that are wondering why my dad wouldn't have said anything, he's the one that put this stupid colour on her head!!! Seriously, she looks like Stephanie from lazy town!!!
I just feel like crying
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CommentAuthorSam
I understand why you're upset but hopefully you will be able to see the funny side soon. It looks ridiculous. I think if you make comments now you'll only encourage her behavior or cause unnecessary upset. I'd leave it and see what happens closer to the time.
CommentAuthorNinaDawson
I said to fmil that I will probably wait until Xmas, and if its still the same then I will tell her to change it or forget being a bridesmaid. I really went all out to look nice on their day and I wasn't even in the wedding party, but then she goes and does something like this?!! It's like her and my dad don't care, he's also saying he's gonna wear his wig for the day (natural looking but he doesn't look like my dad if he wears it, does that make sense?) and I've asked him not too. I just feel like my wedding party is gonna look the the cast of the Addams bl00dy family!!!
N xx
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CommentAuthorSam
Family eh? I don't know much about dying hair but is there any way she could put a temp dye on it?
CommentAuthorbarbie86
It's her hair; she can do what she wants with it. I appreciate that probably isn't what you want to hear, and I agree it looks pretty cr*p (mainly because of how dry it is; the colour doesn't bother me), but honestly, life doesn't revolve around your wedding.
If my BMs decide to dye/cut their hair/get a tattoo/experiment with crazy make-up/whatever, I really couldn't care less. I'm having them as my BMs because they're my best friends; not because they'l look great in the photos.
Barbie, yeah she's a BM cause of how close she is to me, but I just don't want my wedding photos to look like a joke!! It will look ridiculous, and I don't see why I should pay out for her to have her hair done all nice if its still gonna look shocking pink!!!
N xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
I'm sorry but it's her hair.....my sister in law has bright red hair and I can't ask her to change her hair colour as clash with the guests as that's her choice. I personally don't like it that colour but it's her choice not mine. I wouldn't panic yet as got 7 months and can be died over but if someone told me to change my colour no matter what colour it was I wouldn't be impressed as you should have her your bridesmaid not matter how she looks.
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CommentAuthorMrs Hay!!!
Hi, have you thought about asking her to wear a wig? not ideal but would cover up the pink temporarily. If not you may just have to go with it, it's a tough one. x
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CommentAuthorNinaDawson
It's a new colour though, shes usually blonde. I don't think I'm quite getting my point across!!!
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
I'm sure she will get bored of it in 7 months it does look a bit crap but then she could've died it bright green so be glad shes not done that
CommentAuthorAmyP7
I would not like it, but you do have 7 months left so plenty of time yet. Give her a few months to get bored of it and if she does not just have a gentle word, say you want everyone's hair to be natural colour. She could wear a wig like nishelflack suggested or she could get the colour stripped back to her natural colour next year. Hope you get it sorted x x
CommentAuthorSazzell23
Pink fades incredibly fast and you need to constantly keep topping it up every few weeks to stay that bright. I think she'll get bored of it hun within a few months, the upkeep is such a pain. Dont worry just now and try and switch off from it if you can. I can see your point exactly x I remember a friend a work was showing me her wedding album a few years back and she had a bridesmaid with short spiky pink hair. On every photo my eyes were instantly drawn to her hair over everybody else, it just took over each shot that she was in. My advice is dont react yet but a couple of months before hand if she's still looking set to be pink for the wedding then you'll have to make a decision what to do xx
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
Wow I can understand why everyone is saying that its her hair. But I really can see it from your point of view my fsil asked me to be her bridesmaid and I was over the moon but I had bright red hair and it was really really short but she sat me down as asked me if it was possible for me to grow my hair and dye it back to my natural colour.
That didn't bother me and to be honest I'm glad I did as I love my hair now.
If your really that close why don't you go out for coffee (or tea) and tell her how you feel and also say that if she doesn't want to change her hair colour then she wouldn't be able to be your bridesmaid but you would want her to be part of your day.
I'm sure he doesn't bite and I'm see she doesn't realise how upset you are.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Hmm, I'm sorry but I think I'm in the 'it's her hair' camp on this one.
Maybe express your concerns, like has been said, pink is a pain in the areas to maintain and I'm sure the novelty will wear off before the wedding.
I can see why you are pee'd off though and I think its entirely your right to ask if she minds having it normal for the wedding, but I think it's a bit harsh to un-bridesmaid her, and the bad feeling this will probably create is likely to cause much more problems than a few dodgy wedding pics. Maybe you could have some photos done in black and white if she is adamant that pinks the way to go? Or have them photoshopped so it's the natural colour?
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Haha, she does look a bit like her off of lazy town though!
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CommentAuthorTatty
As Sazzell said pink fades ridiculously quick! I had pink hair for a while and within a week it had gone from bright pink to very light bubblegum pink so should be easy to cover, I bleached mine out and then put my natural brown color on top. I think she will have got bored of it by the time your wedding comes around as the up keep really isn't worth the color. x
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CommentAuthorJoanne
If she still hasn't changed the colour by the time it comes round to your wedding you could make her wear it up so it won't be so much 'in your face'. That way not much of it will be on show in your pics.
Again I agree with the other b2b's she will probably be bored of it by the time your wedding comes round :)
CommentAuthorTori
The thing is if she wanted to go natural for her own wedding so she should understand that you would want the same for yours. You say you are pretty close so could you sit down and speak to her about it. Maybe she will understand and agree to go a more natural colour in time for your big day x
CommentAuthorminnie11061990
I understand where your comng from but its her hair. She can do what she wants. I suggest you speak to her about it, put your concerns to her and if your as close as you say you are then she will hopefully go with what you would like. It does look a shocking pink but it will probabilly fade by that time. Good Luck
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CommentAuthorTasha_Q2B
im agreeing with the 'its her hair' people im afraid, im having the people who i love and care about most at my wedding and id love them with blue, purple,green or no hair etc. I think you just need to stand back and think well im gonna look amazing and with her hair all done nicely, make-up and a dress on she isnt gonna look asif shes just woke up if u get me!! xx
CommentAuthorRosyF77
I would be anoyed and wouldnt want her in the pics to be honest...hopefully she will change her hair colour before the wedding love x
