found out today that h2b's nan wont be attending the wedding as she's is unwell and vascular dementia and becomes aggressive around strangers so her daughters/sons thought it would be better for her and she also does not remember who people are too very sad but i can understand there reasons
what i'm asking is what kind of gift would you think would be appropriate to give? i want her to feel she is missed etc... without making her feel pushed out?
we are still sending an invitation to ensure she feels like we would love to have her at the wedding
If you're thinking of flowers, then fresias are really lovely and smell amazing too! They're also not very expensive Hx
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CommentAuthorKylee27
Maybe you could make her some sort of special photo album from your wedding pictures? Flowers are a lovely idea too. :0) xx
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CommentAuthorspooney24
What about making her up a wee box of things that will be used or featured at your wedding, for eg some confetti, a favour box/bag with contents, a flower pressed or a silk one, pic of bridesmaid dresses, copy of menu, etc so it would be a wee momenta/memories box for her. You could even have a picture on the front of the box of you and h2b.
Or wait til the wedding is over and make up a wee photo album for her. x
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8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
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i also had a nose and thought maybe a embroided hankie? with the date and our names on etc..? xx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
are you having the wedding filmed? if not perhaps even just ask a family member to film it (remember to ask venue in advance about permissions for filming as some may ask for an extra fee or may not even permit it - though judging by the reason why i cant see why they would say no) then both of you can visit her with the video so she can still have "been there"
or perhaps you have a tiny teeny weeny minute on your way from church/registry office to the reception and you can swing by to see her in all your wedding finery so she's still included?
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
she lives miles from the wedding unfortunately, and were not having it filmed but i might ask someone to film the ceremony out of our families... thanks for the idea xx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
awww pity she lives so far but I'd say filming it would certainly have more sentimental value, especially seeing as you mentioned the reason is vascular dementia, she may not remember a lot of things but this would be something that she can sit down with to enjoy those moments and who knows if shes having a bad day watching it may jog her memory slightly
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CommentAuthorderangedbride
is there internet access where she lives and ur venue if there is u could try a webcam.
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
not really hun :( xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorderangedbride
oh well it was a thought stemmed from modmummy's idea
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
thanks hun xx
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CommentAuthorderangedbride
your welcome
CommentAuthorspooney24
What about visiting her another day after your wedding day wearing your dress, tiara,etc and then get someone to take a pic of you and hubby with her so she has that to keep and would feel a bit more like she didn't miss out. Take a big piece of cake along with you too and have a wee tea party. xx
26th December 2007 - the day I met my special man
8th August 2008 - the day he was mad enough to propose to me
24th July 2010 - the day I felt beautiful inside and out and
became Mrs Dickie for life. xx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
thats a gr8 idea thanks spooney xx
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CommentAuthorBrissy_Bride
A video of your wedding with a special extra message from you and h2b saying 'sorry you couldn't be there, we all missed you and are very special to us' or something like that. Then she can watch it and show it to *everyone* who visits (if she's anything like my grandma lol) xx
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We've never been apart since meeting almost 7years ago
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CommentAuthorBrissy_Bride
OR. spooneys idea, take photos, then give her a personalised wedding album :D
We had to travel across the earth to find each other
We've never been apart since meeting almost 7years ago
And never will be!
I can't wait until he is my husband :D
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
Boots do great photo books there realy nice and as other suggestion you can get great programme for the pc to make lovely dvds which enclude vidio and pics.
so sorry to hear about your H2B nans conditions, i am in a simalar position my h2b gran cant fly due to heart problems and we are getting married in florida im going to make her a dvd.
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i will thinking a electronic photo frame too which she can have pics of everyone changing on it :) thanks for the ideas girls keep them coming xx
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CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
i think the hankie idea is very good and a photo frame full of pics from the wedding xxx
oh well it was a thought stemmed from modmummy's idea
