Hi all
I was wondering if i could get some advice.
I am getting married in july next year and all my planning is pretty much done all we have left to do is to pay for everything. My family on the whole has been very supportive during the planning process, but my mom hasnt really been involved at all. I suspect that she believed that it would never happen and that i was just playing pretend. Now after nearly three years of being engaged my decides that she has to take over. She has tried telling me who i can have as bridesmaids, tried to get me to change my colour scheme etc. She has even gone so far as to book someone to do my hair and make up and deciding on the hairstyle i will have without even bothering to consult. The first i heard of it was when she was bragging to one of her friends how i have dumped all the wedding planning on her etc and she has booked this woman. The thing is i have already booked someone to do my hair (or at least have a trial with) Ive told mom that if my lady doesnt work out i will give hers a try but otherwise she can do the bridesmaids hair id they want but i would not be paying for it.
My sister has now decided to try and dictate what wedding car we will have. It has already been sorted and so far i have managed to put her off with "i will think about it" or "i will look into it" My sister is just excited as is my mom, but the way i see it why now? i have planned this all by myself for the past three years and no-one bothered with any help then, why have they decided that my planning isnt good enough now? How do i get my mom to back off a little or at least give me credit for planning my own wedding and not make out that i am some sort of useless lump that has dropped everything onto her shoulders? I know she means well and is trying to help in her own way but i have already said that the only things left to organise was the timings etc and that i would definatley need her help for sorting that out as i havent been to a wedding since i was 4 years old and have no idea on timings etc.

That sounds a bit rude of them to be honest; stick to your guns hun and keep everything how you and your h2b want it! :)

As said, just politely correct all those that say your mum has been dumped with it and as you're paying stick to your guns and cancel the stuff shes booked! When you get ready on the day, you can say you want to be alone so you can have your hair and makeup done as you like!