My H2B recently told his mum that we would be getting married in a few years which is fair enough but she doesn't like me and now she's saying that I'm just trying to tie him down and that I don't love him !!!
And now every time I talk about the wedding he tries to change the subject.... Before his mum knew he wanted to get married in 2013 now she knows he keeps saying " I don't want to get married for at least 6 years" so as nothing is set yet and I'm only thinking of ideas and trying to budget I tried to compromise and said " well what about if we get married early 2015", he then said "just stop, your crazy" ....
But when my parents bring up the subject of marriage he's fine ... What's happening ???
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
maybe he feels pressured by his family not to rush into things. how long have you been with him and how old are you both? mums can be funny with the sons getting married. x
CommentAuthorMrsSanders2Be
We've been together over 2 years, we have a 6 month old baby ... He''ll be 25 and I'll be 21 by the time of the original marriage year x
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
hmmmm perhaps you should sit down and talk. Did he propose to you? x
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
Sorry hun but I think I would want to get a pair of scissors to cut those apron strings! She sounds like it's not you it could be anyone that would dare try and take her son away! Just smile sweetly hun, thats all you can do with people like that. xx
can i ask how old you both are now? do you live together or does he still live at home? how long have you been enagaged because to me you get engaged to get married and plan the wedding but he sounds as if he doesnt want to. i think you need a long honest talk with each other! xx
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
doesnt he realise that u have a baby that will tie u together forever no matter what a wedding and a piece of paper is not as concrete as a baby is tell his mum poiltly u love her son and he loves u and to keep her nose out!!!!!!!!!! as for him tell him why is he happy enought o talk to your parents about it but when u mention it he is nasty tell him u want an answer as to weather he wants to get married or not and u want to set a date so u can start saving x
p,s strangle him with his mummys apron strings next time he is mean :@ x
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CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
lol stressed! is his mum and dad still together? I take it yours are? x
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
my h2b proposed to me but told me it would be along engagment, hence i didnt plan on waiting 15 yrs but we had 3 kids in that time and now all that part of our life is done were gettin married next yr x
i agree talk to him it might be a case of he wants to marry u but not straight away, but tell him u want to know so u not wastin time and gettin upset if he doesnt wanna marry u for another 5 yrs x
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CommentAuthorMrsSanders2Be
Mrs Barker- I'm 18 he is 23 we don't live together but are looking for a place just haven't found the right one yet... We've been engaged over a year. Xx
Stressed to max- his mum barely talks to me if I do talk to her she gets that look on her face like shes not even listening... When she found out I was pregnant with her granddaughter she said I didn't decide to have a termination because I wanted to tie h2b down and take him away from her because apparently I hate her :/ ... I don't think a polite chat is an option with her I think she's one of those people that needs to be shouted at . Xx
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Na Mrs Walker his parents are separated x
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Stressed to max- he's been going on about getting married since we got engaged and now he keeps changing his mind :/ x
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i think that is part of the problem then hun...he still lives with his mum so she thinks she has a say over his life!
you are very young to be getting married...so make sure it is what you want and you are emotionally ready. maybe that is what his mum is worried about.
it really does sound like his mum wants to control his life. if you lived together i think it would help. as long as he is under her roof the situation isnt going to get any better.
i still think you and h2b need a chat though as to why he wants to wait at least 6 years. xx
CommentAuthorMrsSanders2Be
We both decided on 2013 because we thought by then we wouldn't be too young xx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
that is only 2 years away though and by what you have said he wants to wait another 6 years? xx
CommentAuthormrssidders2b
I agree with mrs barker hun, please don't get offended cos there are young people who gets married early and they're fine but with the majority specially if the h2b is now hesitant, that should serve as warning bells to you so try not to rush into things or pressure him. I know it's not fair as you now have a baby together but for me, it's better not to get married than get a divorce. I've got 5 friends in total who got married before they were 20 or just in their very early 20's because they got pregnant and in the philippines, parents pressure their kids to marry when that happens to save the family's face or something and although they loved each other before and they've been going out for a year or two before they got married, none of them is happy and all of them wants to get out of the marriage cos their hubbies just cheat on them. I'm not saying that's what's going to happen to you too hun I'm just saying that what these guys had in commith your h2b by the sounds of it at the moment, is that they really aren't ready and still hesitating. Age is not the issue here, the issue is it sounds like it's still very easy to influence his way of thinking and that's not a good sign of maturity. You don't want to enter into this binding commitment while it's still very easy for your mil2b to influence your h2b.
As already suggested by the other girls, I think a long serious talk to determine what you both want at this stage in your relationship is very important. Best of luck xx
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CommentAuthormrssidders2b
I meant *what the guys have in common with your h2b by the sounds of it at the moment
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
when i said a polite word i was been sarcastic and meant get in her face and shout
as for the wedding i think u need to be livin together before u even decide to get married u never know anyone enough no matter how long u have been together untill u live with each other and see what there habits are, i suggest concentrate on the gettin a home together for the next 2/3 years then if everythings well and your still happy then talk about marriage, im not sayin u dont love each other but what i am sayin is u dont know each other well enough xx
good luck i hope u work things out xx
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CommentAuthormelvis
my h2b's mum was a bit sceptical at first... she said 'why are you meeting the vicar..? where will u live etc...' but since weve booked the church (its june 2013) and told frends and family shes came round. Lik ur man, mine's parents are seperared and the only reason he lives with his mum is to help her pay bills mortgage etc... I think if you say to your h2b that you feel like hes messing you round a bit... proposing then going cold... he may decide that its not worth upsetting the mother of his child and future wife and that his mum needs to accept it. If you agree between yourselves on a year and date that you can work towards she may finally see that this is actualy happening and learn to put up or shut up. Like my mil2b she may be a bit worried about her financal situaion, once my h2b moves out she will have to sell the house and wont have the same lifestyle. However cest la vie, xx
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CommentAuthorpanther_87k
Me and h2b were together for about 2 years before he proposed, but we decided that it would be a long engagement for a couple of reasons, one being money. We weren't living together at the time but have since moved in together and now have a 2 yr old son. Hes brought us closer together even though some family members thought h2b would leave me, they didnt know him like i did/do. We've now decided we're in a position to afford a wedding and also in a place that everything else is pretty much sorted and we're settled, so the stress of wedding planning won't be so bad. We,ve been together 6 years in total, and have gone through ALOT of stuff together since just before i moved in with him, so from those experiences i and he can see that we're strong enough to get through whatever life can chuck at us. Without those experiences i think doubts may have crept in. I agree with stressed, you dont know someone until you live with them, thats when you'll be able to decide whether or not hes the type you can imagine spending your life with or not. Have a good talk with him set rough goals (dont set exact dates to get things done by or you'll get stressed and upset if you cant manage them) plan to move in together within 6 months for example, then live with one another for a year or two, if all goes well then think about marriage and weddings.
CommentAuthorMrsSanders2Be
Thanks for all the advise ladies very much appreciated xxxx
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CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
ok the only way you will manage to get her to loosen up those apron strings is if you two live together. Tbh that is when you really start to get to know someone, that way she can see you are both serious. Some people from "broken" homes are more cautious as well because they know marriage isn't always forever which is why I asked you. It certainly doesn't help with his mother being so unkind about it all. Basically he needs to grow a back bone and deal with her so that eventually she will accept you. xx
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CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
either that or just kill her off lol x make her a nice cup of arsenic tea
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CommentAuthorsuzky123
Sounds like a mummies boy no offence so this will b difficult. U will have to be tactful and patient
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