I was just wondering what everyone had found most difficult to decide on during there planning?
So far for us the Venue was a little stressful but once we saw the one we wanted it all was super easy. The thing i'm really struggling with is the cake!! I just think it's the thing i'm least interested in and so just can't seem to make a decission!
So, what have you found most difficult to decide on? (Excluding the guest list as everyone struggles with that)
x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorKaren22
Mine was my band, I really loved them at my friends wedding, but they are £1,000 and we didn't know whether we could justify spending that!!
I really wanted them though so in the end we got them, I had to compromise and said H2B could go on rugby tour next year though!!
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24th August 2013
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Our was our first dance song. We have such different tastes in music (except fro our shared love of Rock!) that we just couldn't agree. We got there in the end though :)
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CommentAuthorMrs Ross
Ours must of been our dvd because we really wanted one but didnt know if we could justify spending all that money on a dvd. Turns out that mum and dad are buying it for us anyway :D
CommentAuthorShazk
Mine is the venue, I cant find anything I like in our budget so Im getting to the point of giving up on it all lol
I can see where you are coming from on teh cake front I not even thought about it to be honest butt hat the least of my worries at moment xxx
I spent a lot of time researching venues, looking at hundreds briefly online, then about 4 dozen in more detail (going onto their websites, getting quotes, etc). But when it came to actually viewing them, our decision was easy; I viewed about 12, and ours was the third I viewed (very nearly didn't look at it as it wasn't 'traditional' (eg stately home with loads of outside space) and it looked VERY expensive, but my parents had been to a wedding there and persuaded me). It was literally love at first sight; I just walked in and went 'wow', and it just got better and better; it ticked all our boxes (complete exclusivity was really important; we also discovered we actually wanted something a bit different to the standard cream rooms with chair covers and sashes etc; and the space flowed really well (some we looked at the space just didn't work eg the smoking area was down two flights of stairs, or the bar was separate to the reception room, etc). My OH came with me when I went for a second viewing (at this point I still had half a dozen appointments) and was like 'this is it, I'm not interested in seeing any others but if you want to and find anything better, let me know'. I didn't find anything better, so we booked it lol.
For us I think the photographer has been the biggest headache. I've lost count of how many I've looked at but it's got to be around the 100 mark. I didn't really realise that style and quality can vary so much. We're also going to be spending over double what we originally budgeted to get what we want, so that hasn't helped with the stress levels lol.
Other than that, things have been easy; found a really good make-up artist and cake maker at an open day at our venue, and will be booking them; I knew what shoes I was having from before we got engaged, and they were my first purchase; I bought my dress at a sample sale for 60% off, and it was my first trying-on experience; I'm not really fussed about the flowers; and our venue is really beautifully decorated so I don't need to worry about decorations. Our guest list has also been easy; we've invited our 'nearest and dearest' to the day and have been firm about not inviting people we aren't close to to the day, compromising and giving the evening invites instead.
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Oh dear Mrs Bram! Don't give up! I had a moment where I thought we'd never find somewhere we liked that we could afford but then my mom persuaded me to go and see a place i'd originally said no to after looking at their website - thankfully she has already been there and just kept saying "honestly that is not how it looks in real life" so eventually out of desparation i agreed to go with her and i loved it so much we booked it the next day!! Some wedding places really need to photograph every bit of the place - this one has missed off what I think is the most beautiful bit of it! A really lovely big conservatory that looks out over a beautiful garden and then on to a goreous canal! On the website they just had the big "hotel" style room pictured which i hated!
Don't ignore any venues! Go to them all even if you think you won't like them! I certainly am glad i did in the end!!
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorShazk
Oh lizzy Im glad I not the only one, i am trying to be not so picky (h2B says i being a snob about the venue but I jsut know what I like and dont, nothing to old fashioned but not to modern lol)
I am starting to look at places that I had dismissed but its not the venues that are actually putting me off most of teh time its the price lol x
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CommentAuthorDonda
Like you little kettle, ours was our first dance. We have different tastes in music, but in the end we sat down googled love songs and played them on u tube. We found the perfect song that we both loved xx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
Centrepieces! I've been planning the wedding for about a year now and have only just found a centrepiece that I like. I've been changing my mind on centrepieces about once a month, I just couldn't make a decision and it's not even anything very important lol xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
It was the venue for us and for three months I was ready for having a breakdown over the sheer expense of venues alone then one day I had a brainwave and asked the manager of a stately home if I could simply just hire their ballrooms for the day and surprisingly he said yes. I never felt such relief in all my life.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
So far we've not really found anything hard to decide on, it's all been fairly easy. I reckon though we will find it difficult to decide on hymns, readings and first dance song when we have to get round to deciding in the new year. xx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
Barbie I know what you mean about photographers! They are all so different. We've been very lucky in that a friend of one of the ushers who my h2b knows (really just to say hello to and not much more) is a photographer and has offered to do it at a really reduced rate for us.
It seems so far that the venue gets the highest vote for stress levels! I think once that's done other things start to fall in to place.
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I think I was fortunate in that I did not have anything like this happen to me.
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
You must be incredibly calm Glitter!! Tell us your secret!!> x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I just knew what I wanted and went for it, even my dress was easy to pick. I was very calm throughout the planning, however I think this messed me up on the day as then I got nervous so quickly it made me feel nauseous,
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
^^I don't know, I kind of think wedding planning is as stressful as you make it in a lot of ways. Like us with the photographer, if we weren't being so fussy, it would have saved a lot of stress; it's only because we want something so specific that it's been difficult to find (we like artier photography, and not many I've looked at do it well). Similarly with the venue, we were probably fussier than most; a lot of people for example probably wouldn't stress over the space not flowing perfectly (we wanted everything eg bar, dancefloor, seating, smoking area, toilets in one continuous space so it didn't become fragmented; a lot of venues we looked at didn't offer this), or there not being any beer on draught, or the ceremony taking place in the same room as the reception, etc. I'll admit we've been very particular about these two things which is probably why we've found them toughest lol.
Whereas with the cake we were like 'we want a cake that tastes great, if the designs are great that's a bonus'; with the flowers, I'll give the florist a colour and budget and rough idea of style (eg I don't want country/vinatge) and ask them to come up with 3 different options, then just pick one; I can't be faffed stressing. I also don't care if the BM dresses match, or if the flowers match the detailing on the invites, etc. With family/guest list politics our stance is simply 'we will not compromise on the guest list and will invite who we want to invite', and have no issues being really blunt with people. I do think sometimes you can get caught up in the details and lose sight of the bigger picture, and create more stress for yourself.
CommentAuthorlizzylou
I think you're right about the venue barbie - for us the most important thing was making sure the guests are well catered for! We figured they will enjoy nice food and drink more than they will looking at a particular type of bow on a chair! lol. I'm very much like you, don't mind if the bridesmaids dresses don't match , not fussed about shoes or hairs etc, we're not bothering with favours either, but for some weird reason i seem to have reached a total stop when it comes to the flip flopping cake!!! No idea what is up with me, i don't think i'd really have one if left to decide but its the one thing my mom keeps saying "people expect a cake" about so ..... fingers crossed i'll think of something!! x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I think the evening venue was hardest - we didn't want it at a hotel as the drinks were like six quid each and we wanted a more relaxed affair with a band etc xx
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CommentAuthorJillianL47
It was the first dance for us. We spent ages listening to the radio trying to find a song we liked with the right lyrics. It's amazing how many songs there are about breaking up. Then We had to find a song we both agreed on and a version we both liked, which took at least 2-3 months in all. But we've now chosen and we both love it!
CommentAuthorlizzylou
First Dance!! How could I forget! Not decided on that yet! x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorsuzky123
our hardest thing was actually the seating plan as this had to be changed so many times and chosing a menu as we were only allowed to give one option and a veggie option.
After the big day our hardest choice has been going from 794 photies to 80. We settled in the end on I think 85.
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CommentAuthorButton-Bell
mine is favours we finding that really difficult and the cake as he want to make it himself n im a little worried hell mess it up :/
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Practice! Just make sure he does a practice one!! x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
The guest list!! xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
it'll probably be the food for us. everything else has been really easy, as every madcap idea we have had has been from our personalities and interests, which lucky for us are very similar, I cant imagine other b2bs suggesting a tv/film theme involving giant dalek cutouts and acttion figures hahaha.
Ihad a look at the menu for the venue and theres stuff on there ive never heard off, and if im honest, although i love our venue, we cant get outside caterers in and im really not keen on the majority of the stuff on there.
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
mmmmmmmmmmmmm favours! he didn't want me to do the favours i did i did 5 little items in each favour and he said just a chocolate heart would have done. i nearly slapped him and just did what i wanted to whether he liked it or not
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CommentAuthorShazk
lol OMM this had made me giggle x
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i do try my best mrs bram, he said on the day that i had the best idea and i was right so that just proved that i knew best
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CommentAuthorElliekitty
I think it was the photographer for us! We saw so many with so many different prices we felt lost! xx
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
photographer, florist & cakemaker!
havent even begun favours or table decs yet, but am sure that will become the hardest!
and... finding shoes for my BM's is actually harder than we thought! x
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CommentAuthorReginaldD
mine is the favours ive got my wtb dads sorted but nobody elses can anyone shed any light on it or give me some ideas plz
thanks in advance
CommentAuthorJennyY
To start with it was the church, h2b wasn't sure but I had my heart set on it but he gave in. Then it was probably the flowers, they took the longest to sort out but I think that when it comes down to finally doing it it will be the seating plan which will be the hardest thing to decide what with recently divorced friends both of whom are coming, one of which wants to bring their new partner, feuding family members and stubborn guests who will refuse to sit next to other guests.
CommentAuthorJoannaS
ours was the music for the ceremony we couldn't agree on something to walk out to and something to walk into. In the end I chose walking in one and him the walking out one we were nearly divorced before we had got married lol
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Goodness it sounds like a tricky business this wedding planning!! We don't have get ourselves in a flap don't we! xx
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorMrs-Mouse-2-be
Our first dance song was decided upon accidentally lol long before he popped the question. When we heard it being sung on his favourite comedy show we just laughed and and looked at each other and we both said at the same time this song is being played at our wedding as our first dance if we ever tie the knot :-)
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
first dance trying to pick a song x
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CommentAuthorMrs Jones
I found choosing the wedding date the hardest! Choosing which season, working around school holidays (i work in a school) and needed a date that wasnt to expensive or to busy. I THINK ive decided on my date but will have to see! I keep changing my mind and its driving me mad!!
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CommentAuthorZeeMee83
My dress!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! i've been searching for it for over 18 months, I get married in 6 and I still haven't found it! I've had arguments, tantrums and tears over this and now im seriously considering a black bag as it's alot less hassle :-( x
CommentAuthorfairy-cakes
the song on the way out after the ceremony.. minor in theory but just cant make up our minds and causing stress :0(
CommentAuthorCat
Well my dress was not a hard decision when I saw it I wanted it, the prob was the place has stopped selling it so I had to hunt down the designer to make me my own (a lot cheaper than you imagine and it is not a trad dress) which took almost a year and I was getting no where finding an alternative.
My biggest nightmare is the rings, his to be precise. We are having a budget wedding but were willing to fork out a bit more for the rings (we want palladium as its cheaper than platinium but more durable than white gold), but can not find the style he wants (and I love) at any where near a decent price! If worse happens we may just choice the jewelers that can do it cheapest and pay the amount we have saved for the rings and see if they will let us pay off the rest in bits after the wedding - though I will try and do what I usually do at work all day and get them to lower the price : ) My feller says its scary when I do that, lol
CommentAuthornatalie2614
I was fussy over the photographer, because im a photographer myself. I only wanted the best! In the end I found someone that wasnt pushy and I felt completely comfortable in front of. I asked myself 'would I care if this guy was watching as I got my dress on?' there was a couple that I said a definite no to on that question!
The cake caused a few headaches, I ummed and ahhhed over whether to get it done by a shop but then nans have come to the rescue and decided theyre making it.
Music will be a hard one for me as Im also a musician! Music is really important to me so my choices will be well thought out. H2b gets to pick the first dance though xx
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
well im struggling on cake, photographer and wedding singer at the moment. I do have someone in mind for singer but im not sure if they are worth £700 :/
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CommentAuthormillz090
Bridesmaid and ushers.... didnt want to offend anyone but equally wanted who we wanted and not to feel obliged. We didnt pick his sisters so knew we would upset some people but tough, cant have everyone !!
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CommentAuthornatalie2614
That was one of the easier choices for us millz as we've kept everything small for the day time. Id hate to be stuck on that decision and worry about offending people
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CommentAuthormillz090
We are having family only for wedding and still at 80 haha !! H2B is one of 4 and i am too so we knew we couldnt have everyone involved so stuck to my best friends instead but his sisters were disapointed. My other friend got drunk recently and blurted how she was disappointed i didn't pick her but i have so many friends it was tough so went with my heart and stuck to it !! xxx
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CommentAuthorPenguinJ
well my best friend is MOH and his twin sisters as my BMs, he has 3 close mates so BM and 2 ushers haha. only 1 difficulty was the person who was supposed to be my CBM but didnt bother in the end. xxx
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CommentAuthorTatty
Mine was the photographer, we had such a hard time finding one we like and one could afford. Thank god my mum saved the day in the end offering to pay the extra for a guy we both loved, if she hadn't I doubt we would have one still x
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I couldn't believe how expensive photographers could be when we first started looking. We're really lucky to now have a friend doing it for us. We're yet to decide on the music so perhaps that will be the hardest thing in the end. x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorSparklez
The budget!! Its driving me crazy...
I would like the works on my wedding day really, nice big floral arrangements, sparkles everywhere ;) and a lovely venue for photographs but its kills me seeing the price of everything.. Even the price of a church or registrar wedding is mad ( in my opinion anyway).
As we decided to save a lot more especially as we want to get a house first I know I will have time to work out the details!
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You marry the person you cannot live without..
i do try my best mrs bram, he said on the day that i had the best idea and i was right so that just proved that i knew best
