What is your wedding about? Why do you want to get married? What is the most important thing about the day for you?
Relationships are so complicated and individual, I think most people must have different answers to these questions and I just wondered what everybody's reasons for getting married are? I thought it would make an interesting discussion.
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I wanted to show the world that we loved each other and spend the rest of our lives together.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorsouthern
Our wedding is about Christian and me showing each other that we are committed to ourrelationship for the rest of our lives.
Then add in our families and that's where it turns into a circus lol
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
its like our first birthday together celebrating the rest of our lives as one. but for me its all about the future
Dyslexic
its spelt wrong
I No! I Now! I Know!!!!!
I am NOW MRS LONSDALE!!
CommentAuthorraychey
The wedding day is important to us because its the ONE day we'll be able to have all of our loved ones and friends together celebrating us being happy together. Its so special to us, not for religious reasons, but for the fact that we can share our love with the people we care about and they can be present when our 'journey' really begins... so exciting!
There are many reasons, but the main one is to be a real family all with the same surname. The day will be about the girls as much as it is about us!
"Who, being loved, is poor?" -Oscar Wilde
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CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
Its about us getting to show everyone our love for each other and commiting to each other for the rest of our lives. It is about the start of the beginning xx
CommentAuthorRoxy_Blade
I don't care about the wedding as such, its just a necessity. We're getting married because we love each other and cant wait to spend the rest of our lives together. We would have not got married and just spent the rest of our lives as GF and BF but you don't get the same rights and Ben wants to be a husband apparently. Lol
CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
i want to be his wife. we have been to hell and back since getting together and he asked me to be his wife even after everything.
i swore i would never marry again but he mealted my heart and i cant wait. Its not the wedding as much for me but the day i can tell people thats my husband and i love him. Its also going to help unite the kids and make them feel safer and grounded
im not seeking attetion i just like everyone looking at me
im married
im now Mrs Dove
no more wedding planning LOL yer right
CommentAuthorlinzi
For me its about us becoming a team. Us against the world. And proving we want it that way forever. its about making that committment to each other, that we have chosen each other to be our life partner.
I cant wait!
I don’t repeat gossip so listen very carefully!!
Started Slimming World - 23/03/2011 - 2 Stone to lose!
Total Loss = 1 stone 7 lbs.
As at 23/11 - 3 days before the wedding.
CommentAuthorloola_hoop
for me, its because it is a true commitment and declaration of love, he is the one person i truely want to spend the rest of my life with, and it will also make us all a proper family, we will all have the same surname :o) i am so excited and i cant wait! the actual wedding isnt that important, as long as the people we care about and the people who care about us are there to celebrate with us :D xXx
CommentAuthorTattieSoup
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I already feel commited to David so I don't feel like that is a major part of the wedding - its more about sharing the commitment we already have with our family and friends. I believe that if you want to make a marriage work you should have a community behind you to help you over the rough patches, and for me it's about asking our family and friends for that support in the future, and thanking them in advance for it at the reception. Asking our friends and family to support us to uphold the promises that we make is going to be a part of our marriage service and I think it's very important. I see the day as mainly about our friends and family and less about us to be honest.
But I know that some people choose weddings with minimal witnesses so they must have a different reason and feel there is a different focus for their day, and I know that for some people it is about God and so on. Just wondered how broad the range of reasons is!
I love the idea of getting married so that you can all be a family together, and the person who said that they wanted to have a "birthday" for their relationship! For those of you that said that it was about making a commitment, do you feel then that your relationship will be different after the wedding?
CommentAuthorloola_hoop
i dont think that our relationship will be different after the wedding, its that getting married is a promise to stay with each other - truely for better or for worse, and even though that has been the case already i feel that being married to each other will make our relationship complete. i love the idea you have tattiesoup of your wedding being about having your family and friends there to promise to support your relationship in the future, but our families have never been that close to us tbh, so i do reallt feel that it is all about Me, Tom, and our 3 children :D xXx
CommentAuthorChrissy
Ours is probably for very different reasons. We have been together 24 years and to us we don't need the ceremony to be committed to one another. We are already devoted still after all these years but after I became very ill last year and almost died it got me thinking. 1: I don't want to go to my grave with my ex husbands name plus, if I had of died it would have been difficult for my oh legally. 2: What memories have we really left our children? So, we are having the day where all our children and grandchildren are best man, bridesmaids and ushers and the whole day will be captured on dvd and given to each of them so they have a lasting memory, even when we're gone, of a day where we were all together and blissfully happy and they can remember just how much we loved each other. Kinda daft I suppose but I so wanted them to have that memory. Weird how you look at things when you've almost lost everything xxx
JD is taken so I'll settle for being Mrs Marge :o)
CommentAuthorMrs Hinch2B
aaawwww emsy what a lovely way of putting it! for me and steve its about showing the world the commitment we have made to each other x
Bridezilla.... Me?? I have no idea what your talking about!!
We met 30/01/2005 (H2B's Bday)
Got Engaged 23/07/2010 (My Bday)
Getting Married 08/06/2012 (can't wait to be Mrs Hinch)
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Rich isnt a huge one for showing emotion in front of people and this is his way of showing all our family and friends how much he loves me - and its the same for me really. I think for me as well as much as I understand when all is said and done it is just a piece of paper I will feel that me and Rich are together for life and more stable (although with a house, bills and a sofa to pay for how stable can you get lol)
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthormrs jenkinson 2b
We are involing all family to its a family day to express the love u have for each other and more sercurity xx
can't wait for 20/08/2011
CommentAuthorsbride
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Im marrying H2B as I love him and know i dont want to be with anyone else. I wanna be able to say his my husband and for him to say Im his wife. I also want to be married for our children aswell so we are all the same name.
The most important part to me will be the actual church service when we say our vows. I know it will be very emotional.
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthormrsbeal2be
mines about not having to spend another day of my life without him in it! i love him millions and itll bring our family even closer (we have 2 boys-oldest isnt his!).
its about showing everybody that we are for real and not a joke as some people first thought, as long as were both there with our boys nothing else will really matter-its just a bonus to have a nice wedding.xx
CommentAuthorsouthern
I don't think our relationship is going to change. I've never been with anyone I wanted to marry. In fact, I have never wanted to get married. After I met C, that changed. Apart from the lifetime commitment, I don't know why I want to marry him - a piece of paper, an expensive party, a big frock and a lot of stress? Tis a mystery to me :)
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
mines showing the world we love each other and will always be there for each other xxx
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
It's quite hard putting into words why I want to marry my h2b... it's always just been right for us to do. He asked, I said yes, we're planning and eventually I'll meet him wearing a white dress and we'll say some stuff and sign a piece of paper then we'll walk out of a building somewhere wearing rings to prove and with a certificate that says that I get to keep the man I love forever and always, and that's just what we want... forever and always. I want to literally belong to him, and for him to belong to me.
Our wedding is about our closest friends and family coming together to see us make the start of our lives together, for them to see the beginnings of our family and to support us in our decision and for us to show everyone how much we mean to each other. It's a celebration of love and commitment.
Got married 27th June and blessed on July 5th 2012
Finally Mrs M :3
Love, love... Here we are.
CommentAuthorsalamander
we've been through a lot of ups and downs (not between us but with life) and still managed to stay strong together and love each other through thick and thin and we would like to cement that so we remember that nothing will tear us apart after being through stuff that would split most couples up (that we know anyway). I'd been married before and for all the wrong reasons and it had put me off doing it again, but it just feels right to do it now
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
my wedding means that alan and are will show everyone that we are one soul we are like that now and have been through so much since we got together i wouldnt want to be without him ever! xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorrainykins
Our wedding is about celebrating our love with all our friends and family. The piece if paper is just confirmation of that. I can't wait for jay and myself to get old together, am totally looking forward to having zimmer races with him (ofcourse i'm going to win hehe)
CommentAuthorMrsB
I want to show everyone how much I love him and although I am already committed because I made that promise when he asked me to marry him, I want to be his wife and properly commit but I feel to me that its only right in a church, the wedding party etc however is really for my grandma and grandad as they are like my parents and I will probably be the only one they see marry and they wanted me to have the best and show me off not that i'm complaining as long as we marry in a church.
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
We love each other more than anything in the world and want to prove that by the commitment, we also are doing it as we want to start a family as well
CommentAuthortwirler
i want to marry lee as i am proud to stand by him everyday it will show our commitment to the future and our journey we have already taken he is my soul mate and i want to be with him forever xx
Officially Mrs Joseph
back on the diet re set my target
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Our wedding doesn't really make any difference to our relationship as we are already committed to each other for the rest of our lives. I guess for us it is a day in which we can share our love with friends and family and make some great memories. We are traditional and want to get married before we have children but I guess in both our eyes we are already married to each other so this is just making what we already have formal to the world.
The reasons why I am so committed to him is because of the way he supports me. He is my rock when the world caves in on me. He does things that most men wouldn't even dream of doing because I can't always do them for myself. He is patient with me when I get angry and frustrated and makes me laugh even when I want to cry. I've never known anyone with such a heart of gold. He's so caring kind and considerate of not only my feelings but them of others. He's my best friend and I can't wait to be his wife. I'm so proud of him.
CommentAuthoreebeegeebee
Our main reason for getting married is that we feel it's the right thing to do...we love each other, we've been living together for three years and we're both done with full time education now, so it seemed the logical next step. We both believe in marriage and even though others told us marriage doesn't work and is pointless we wanted to take a stand and prove to the world that it does. Also we just want to assert our love for each other surrounded by our friends and family!
