oh my word... i have never been so stressed in my life!
planning a wedding is just horrific! when your mother in law decides to be a twonk (foul language is not aloud otherwise a better word would have been picked) !!
many girls dream of getting married in the uk... me no! i have never.
cut long story short..
found gorgeous hotel in jamaica.. adults only so me and oh decided we would stay here and all the guests would stay at the hotel next door that accepted children, fine all done.. getting excited!
ohhhhh nooooo the mil has decided that now she doesnt want that and we should all stay together!.. so she is withdrawing her budget for the wedding.. and just wont come!
so basically now... i have to move my wedding from jamaica to cyprus to accommodate her needs!! all the wedding packages we looked at in the caribean we mainly adult only.. or if the children were allowed in the hotels the trip adivsor reports we poor!.. plus would i want to be stuck for 14 days with the mil around us in a small resort! NO!
so today i have cried an cried and my mum and i have come to some sort of an agreement not to have the wedding in the caribrean but have it in cyprus instead, where the resort is bigger and that my partner and i can have our space away from his parents and my in laws!
CommentAuthorShazk
Oh big hugs to U hun not what U need x
totally understand why U would want ur own space and that natural how rude of her to say that etc I understand she funding it but still it what U and oh want x x x
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
Omg!!! Honey this is just absolutely awful! Wot on earth is she thinking??? I think u should tell ur H2B 2 speak 2 his mum about it! If not send ur mum round (mums can be blooming brilliant in these kinda situations)
We r getting married abroad and my OH parents dont want 2 come at all as its abroad and apparently "its 2 hot"
Put ur foot down hun, if she doesnt like it, TOUGH!!
Chin up my sweet, hope it all works out.
Marrying "the 1" on 4th Oct 2013
CommentAuthorTeganandRob
Ah sorry to hear that your MIL has caused you probs. sounds very unreasonable to me! Why couldn't they stay next door? To me it seems like she wants to be the centre of attention. You wouldn't invite her on your honeymoon if you got married in the uk so why would you just cos you got married abroad!
Good news is Cyprus is a fantastic location for a wedding. I'm getting married there next year and there's quite a few Cyprus brides on the forum who are all here to get excited with you. Do you have any ideas of resorts that you like in Cyprus?
CommentAuthorCamillaB
i havent been on this site long and i really cant believe how NICE everyone is!!!... ive had quite a few rants on here and soooo many people are have helped me already!
my h2b has had many words with his mother but she literally 1) doesnt listen 2) loves to be center of attention (his whole family are like this!!)
looking at thomson's wedding brochure cyprus does look gorgeous! and they resorts could be anywhere in the world!
teganandrob - i am looking at booking the altanica aeneas resort and spa in nissi beach, how about you?
Nisei Beach is gorgeous. My friend got married at the Olympic Lagoon on Nissi Beach this year and said it was amazing. We stayed at an Atlantica hotel in Limassol over Xmas and it was great. Haven't been to the one at Nissi but if it's anything like its sister hotel in Limmassol it will be amazing. We're getting married at the Elias Beach in Limmassol. My family live just outside of the city so it's perfect for us, plus the wedding is at the end of a pier looking out over the ocean. Perfect for a beach bum like me!
If you do a search for "official Cyprus thread" there's a whole thread for us Cyprus brides. Loads of great info in their and some great girlies too!
CommentAuthorCamillaB
ohhhh you know loads about cyprus!!!... awww great to hear some positive news about the sister hotel. your hotel sounds gorgeous!! very picuresque! :)
CommentAuthorSam
bumped the official cyprus thread for you
CommentAuthornatalie2614
What a plonker your MIL is?! And how selfish of her. However Cyprus is beautiful and you'll get a lovely wedding pulled together out there xx
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CommentAuthorTeganandRob
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I only know so much because my family live there and we visit every year. But even then theres still loads of hidden gems i dont know about. It really is my most favourite place on earth. If you have any questions I'll try my best to answer them!
CommentAuthorLulu1388
Ah im sorry to hear you're having a hard time with your MIL2B, however you are not alone, and are not the first bride to rant away on here!
Got to say though, as much as you shouldnt have to change your plans to suit other people, Cyprus is definitely a good choice! we were originally going to get married abroad but have decided on UK now, same for my SIL2B and we were both going to do it in Cyprus. It is a beautiful choice and the packages are really reasonably priced. It will still allow you and your hubby 2 be to have the time out you want to relax and spend quality time together as well as hopefully keeping the peace amongst other family members!
If you are going to go for Cyprus, somehow sit down with your MIL2B explain the new situation and that you've changed it once, your not going to change it again, and make a stand and get her to listen! If she dont like it, she can lump it!!
Good luck :) Cyprus is gorgeous!! Wish i was still marrying there tbh! xx
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CommentAuthorDonda
Oh hun I'm so sorry your having problems with the MIL...I had a horrific time planning my first wedding 25 years ago because of the MIL so I know how upsetting they can be. In the end it's your wedding, not theirs, I think your H2B should let his mum know what a huge sacrifice you are making for her and remind her that its your wedding and if she keeps upsetting you then she won't be invited, never mind using the old I won't come trick to get her own way. It worked for us after a lot of battling and me crying coz of her, his dad offered to give us the money to elope...LOL...Don't be letting her rail road you into things you don't want. Good luck planning and remember this is your wedding try not to give in to her demands too much, you have what you want. Cyprus is a gorgeous place and I know you'll have a wonderful wedding xx
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CommentAuthorNicholaP44
Just tell her, u know she loves 2 b centre of attention, but this is the day ur the centre of attention, and her son is only interested in u now. Grrrr I get very angry at selfish people. lol
Marrying "the 1" on 4th Oct 2013
CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
What a c0w! It's your wedding! To say she isn't coming is a bit much and very selfish x x
CommentAuthorCamillaB
well girls CHANGE OF PLAN AGAIN!!... lol my h2b and i went to view a venue in this country to see all options and have now fallen in love with it!.. and as for getting married abroad anywhere, it is stopping the hassle of people moaning about the price etc!
i feel by going abroad that i am trying to please everyone, where as in this country because now my h2b and i will pay for most of it, we are not trying to please everyone and their budgets etc!!
i actually feel quite calm about planning a wedding in this country funny enough lol!!
CommentAuthorVanessaS42
Gosh talk about a whirlwind for you camilla! I'm glad you have the whole thing sorted, planning things is hard enough without all the things you have had to deal with!
I personally want to get married in Spain as I grew up there, but I won't even mention it to the OH as I know he wouldn't go for it at all as he wants his grandparents there and they are both now far to old to travel. I've compromised with having my hen night there!
CommentAuthorCamillaB
yea vanessas42 it has been one hell of a whirlwind! lol.. suprised im not grey yet! i do feel calmer now planning the wedding over here and i actually want to enjoy it all not be a bridezilla!
ohhhhh spain is so pretty! glad you can comprise on going there for your hen... you could always spend your first wedding anniversary out in spain together :)
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Aww, its such ashame that mtoehr in laws can be soo demanding!! You shouldnt have to change YOUR wedding and its just such ashame that you have no choice since she selfishly withdrew her pennies. x
CommentAuthorTeganandRob
Glad you found somewhere you're happy with. Hopefully no more drama for you!
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
well done! Glad ur finally happy, remember tho, dont compromise with any1 apart from ur H2B x x
Omg!!! Honey this is just absolutely awful! Wot on earth is she thinking??? I think u should tell ur H2B 2 speak 2 his mum about it! If not send ur mum round (mums can be blooming brilliant in these kinda situations)
