I sent a message to people on facebook saying that we needed their address so we could send wedding invite. At least 3 of these GUESTS have come back with their addresses and TOLD us who they are bringing with them. Sorry love that's not how it works. I invite you, you don't then invite people yourself. This isn't some kid of free for all. I am I wrong to get annoyed by this. I asked 1 bloke for his address and he replied 'don't forget they'll be 5 of us as girlfriend has 3 kids'. My reply wants to be - Hey!, don't forget it's MY wedding and your kids aren't invited. I've told OH that we will have to put on the invite either 'only people named on the invite welcome' or 'adults only, strictly no children' or some nicer way to put ' if your names not down you aren't coming in!' The cheek of it.
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CommentAuthorGem1102
how cheeky of them! how dare they just presume their kids are invited. get them told! i'd be annoyed by this too! xx
CommentAuthorMrsH2B
OMG how friggin rude. x
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CommentAuthornickers
no i would be to hun my i invited my cousin he text back 2 adults 1 child his gf has a daughter i txt back sorry no kids invited his lass must have kicked of so they not coming i aint happy he is my cousin its her thats being a witch x
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omg thats real bad, i would just tell them politely and say just having adult only and sorry if any incovenience was caused!!!!! hope they understand .
CommentAuthorJill
It's not badness just ignorance... although I'd never take it for granted that I'd be invited anywhere, never mind a plus 4, that's just ridiculous
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CommentAuthorDW82
some people just think they can invite anyone i had the same with my sister asking if she can bring her friend i said no and she kicked off with me i told her i dont know them im not having every tom dick and harry there if she dont like it then she wont be bridesmaide or invited herself lol, sometimes you have to be mean to be heard its not like its a street party its your wedding day and you decide whos coming and whos not
CommentAuthorxox-Zoeee
hahaha how cheeky!! think youl be needin some very strong wording on your invites xx
CommentAuthorPaula
If your having adults only hun you just need to explain this, am sure they was only trying to make you aware of their situation as they may have assumed that they would all be invited as a family, personally as I have children I would assume they was going to be invited unless I had been informed it was strictly no children. how can you expect people to know if you dont tell them, also if people are in a relationship they will assume that there partner will be invited, if I got invited somewhere and josh didnt I wouldnt go x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i wud just reply now to him get it out asap say sorry we aint havin children
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CommentAuthorClareS
how very cheeky of them! grrrr they shouldn't just assume. just put on the invites sorry no children. You invite who you want to invite hun x
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
o ive had some right checcki gits askin me for invites and can they fetch bill bob and ben lol x no not a chance if u name ant down they cant come ive told them staright we only have room for so many and were not inviting everyone and there neighbour and kids x
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CommentAuthorpurpleme
i would be very annoyed at that aswell some people are cheeky. when i get invited to weddings if my daughter aint on the invite then she doesnt go, one time though a cousin sent wedding invite and hadnt put h2b on the invite even though she knew i was with him so i rang her and asked if i was ok to bring him and she said only reason she didnt put him on was cos she couldnt remember his name but i asked first i didnt tell her i was bringing him think people just persume everyone is invited which is wrong. Hope u get it sorted x
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CommentAuthorFoxyroadie
Absolutely agree with purpleme! IMO the form is "if your name isn't on the invite, you're not invited"! And to say "don't forget there'll be five of us"..! Wait, what? I'd be fuming. And a couple of guests down :-D
CommentAuthorsuzky123
you are right to be annoyed so dont let them tell you otherwise as they are probably going to kick off. Do not back down. Its your day and I wouldnt want that many kids coming esp when i hasnt even invited one of them!
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CommentAuthorlisamac2266
I agree too, we have 4 kids between us and we never assume they are invited. I did ask once if they were invited as it was 2 of the kids friends mum & dad's wedding and they said no really sorry it's no kids apart from their own. I just said no that's absolutely fine I was only checking in case you were expecting them to come. I would just put in the wording something like 'sorry but due to number restrictions we are unable to include children' x
CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I can understand that they would assume the whole family is coming, but to say "oh, remember there's five of us" is just plain rude. Its not uncommon for weddings to be child free so they have no excuse for not writing "just wondering, are kids invited?" instead. Fools.
I'll tell you what really took to biscuit with me- I've invited a friend from school to the wedding, we're not that close any more but he's good friends with one of my bridesmaids and since I invited all of our other mates from school to the wedding, it felt rude to leave him out (also I completely forgot to invite him to the engagement party). Anyway, the moment his invite arrived in the post, he got one of my bridesmaids to ring me and ask me if he could have a plus one! I had to tell him to wait until we have the RSVPs back so we know if we have any gaps. And he bugged me constantly from the RSVP date. Eventually, I found he could have one, and then he starts hounding me about sitting with the aforementioned bridesmaid because he won't know anyone else! Despite him having gone to school with half my mates and met the ones who he didn't. AND he gets to bring someone I've never met. Well tough luck to him, he's not a bridesmaid or a spouse of one and so he will not be sitting with a bridesmaid.
CommentAuthorrebeccalou21
Maybe they just got the wrong end of the stick, I'd just ignore what they put and send the invites and if they question it then say something xx
CommentAuthorMrsV2b
i agree that they probably just assumed that you were inviting his family. That is sometimes the problem with the written word it can be read differently to how it is written and once sent cant be taken back. Just assume that they meant it nicely and be clear on the invite that it is only for that person. maybe if space allows invite the rest to the evening.
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CommentAuthorEnny
liking mrsV2b idea/advise if u dont want them for the day there might be place in the evening also apart from that finding that comment of ur friend quite rude... so yeah i understand ur point of view, try to explain nicely that it is a childfree wedding :) x
CommentAuthorMrsSnedden2B
I would be lol i have had people can i bring a couple of mates and i was shocked not only that i have a big family so there has to be space think i may have been at bit mean but lol x
CommentAuthorEnny
well its not right to bring mates I think... omg...
CommentAuthorloubylou
it is annoying when people just presume! we have said family children only (and thats 20) otherwise the children would out number the adults, 1 guy has pulled his face saying he wont be able to get a sitter, it will only be 1 (the boy is 11, and they have 2 other sons at 21 and 25, who dont live at home) saying the older 1s cant look after themselves never mind their bro, he was expected me to say oh just bring him but i stuck to my guns, if i say yes to him i have to say yes to everyone else! hes only a neighbour too, the cheek of some people! lol
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CommentAuthorkimmy
How rude, I cant believe the cheek!!!
CommentAuthorMel D
I think people don't seem to realise that weddings are different to regular parties. The only people we had wanting to invite other people were those who hadn't ever had a wedding. I don't think they realise it's £xx per head and not just one cost for the whol thing.
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CommentAuthorcharlottelee
Children at our venue are only being charged £7 a head but not the point really dont think i would want people inviting their own children. We have had to be really strict with adult invites and very few people are getting plus ones as just dont have the space. There arent that many children between our families think we have 15 including friends children and 4 of them will be babies so not catered for anyway.
We did get a phone call last week after sending out the save the dates cos only put 1 name on envelope for a couple purely cos there wasnt space on the tiny envelope didnt even cross my mind that she thought she wouldnt be invited.
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CommentAuthorshellay
thats dreadful, i think i have had it easy, no one has added anyone, so things have gone smoothly, but i would have been annoyed if they had said that to me, put your foot down, its your day :) x
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CommentAuthorKaz
Only having kids of them that have a long way to come (4), mine (3) and my nephew to the day! I don't mind them bringing them to the evening, it'll cost a fortune for someone to babysit all day, and I will be writing something on the invites because when attending a recent wedding no-one could use the dance floor as it was full of kids running all over the place!
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CommentAuthorjanetx71
oh dear god its madnes it drives me nuts h2bs mum died a few years ago and his dad has another woman who is a nice lady and h2b likes her as she is good to his dad but her kids are scroungers who have used all her savings etc so h2b cant stand any of them well when h2b told his dad the invites were going out he said oh right well mind we are bringing blah and blah with us h2b went nuts saying this was costing us a bleeding fortune and no way were they bringing anyone his entire family are very free minded like that they arent used to wedings having a sit down catered event just usually a buffet sort of thing down the pub so they cant get their heads round it i was just thinking the other day to write on the invites "if your names not on this sheet your bums not on the seat" sorry for the long rant it just does my head in xxxx
CommentAuthorPaula
How old are her kids???
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
The thing with weddings is everyone you know feels like they should be invited, like when we were doing our guest list just for average of numbers h2b was inviting the whole bloody village just because when he is in the pub he says hi to them!! They wouldnt have invited us so why should h2b expect me to invite them to ours! and its like people know they are invited to my wedding like one of my bm's i dont know her partner and she expected me to invite him to my wedding, i had to tell her i dont the bloke so i dont see why i would have to ask him to share the day with me. People think its about them! and only them! well they need to wake up and see that when they plan there wedding that guests can be a right pain in the backside and i hope you get an apology from them for how they acted towards you and your wedding
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CommentAuthorJenR101
I don't think it's right to presume everyone is invited. I would have thought that will realise its only the names on the invites and not that plus kids? there will only be 2 kids at our wedding with the youngest being 8. I have sortt of relied on this fact being trickled through the family which i will only find out has happened when i send my save the dates lol. I have even told my close friends that with there plus one if they are not in a steady realtionship by the time the invites go out then I will use the space for someone else and everyone seems fine with this which is good! xx
CommentAuthorSheWolf
"Parents please note it is our wish to have an adult only wedding. We hope that this advance notice means that you are still able to share the joy of our special day with us." ? Maybe put something like that in the invitation? x
CommentAuthorKayteeG
We had this sort of problem too - several people said things like can I have a plus one - some of these people have partners that we've never met, and some don't have partners - they just want to bring whoever they can get a date with along! It is very cheeky! Especially if they know you have limited numbers/budget!
CommentAuthorKayteeG
And we're only having 4 children - our daughter and my sister's 3 kids - that's only because they are coming to the ceremony/meal (we have limited numbers for the ceremony, but more for the evening) - we didn't invite any kids to the reception as it doesn't start till 7 and we doubted people would want to drag kids out that late - it's most kid's bedtimes! We've still had several people asking if they're kids can come - I know I wouldn't want to drag my daughter out that late - she'd be tired and grumpy and we'd have to leave early!
CommentAuthorPaula
I look at my list the other day and found that including me h2b and our four kids there is only 28 essential people the rest are just people we would like to have their but if they started being funny then I would tell them to do one x
CommentAuthorhjl2001uk
We've had a few people be funny about the no kids thing and refuse to come. When we got engaged and these people didn't have kids they completely understood now they've got kids they expect the rules to change for them. No way. I stuck to my guns and so they're not coming at all.
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CommentAuthorPaula
At the end of the day its your day and if you dont want kids its your choice, my friend gets married in a few weeks and she said I can bring my kids but I still arent taking them, weddings can be boring for kids x
CommentAuthorIgnition
That is so rude. I definately wouldn't put up with that. xx
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CommentAuthorCarrieanne
I'd reply asap and make it clear that it is only adults invited. Saves any worrying in the lead up to your big day and if they don't like it and refuse to come then that is their loss.
We've only had one issue with my best friend who was really unhappy that I'd not put her 16month old son on the invite and wanted to bring him instead of her mum who was named on the invite. Stuck to my guns and low and behold he now has managed to get a babysitter.
If anyone turns up on the day with children in tow that were not invited I will be asking them to leave as we have no space for them and are not prepared to pay £35+ for them to push their meal around their plates thank you very much.
When we sent out our save the dates last year and made it clear that we wouldn't be inviting children outside the direct family as the children would outnumber the adults and we were on a budget. Not a peep from anyone other than to say it was great that they'd be able to let their hair down.
Totally agree with the "if your names not on the sheet" lol.
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
If people don't want to come because their kids aren't coming than that's their choice the same as it's is our choice not to invite them. I've had a friend say that they have 3 babysitters lined up, just to make sure that they can come.
