well ladies, the wedding ive been SO excited about an plannin for the last few months is no longer going to go ahead. we wer saving as much money as we could every month an i calculated the amount of money we would of had by the time it came to the wedding which was £11440, but with our duaghters second birthday, christmas and these governments budget/benefit/whatever else cuts we are just not going to b able to afford to save. then in janruary iv got 4 birthdays alone an so on an so forth, just wont b able to save for it. gutted
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
Didn't wanna read and run ... ((( hugs ))) Can you not downsize your wedding hun ? xx
CommentAuthorSharyorks
can you not have your wedding at a different venue x
CommentAuthoremmaleighta
the venue is quite cheap really, i dont think theres anythin i could downsize xx
CommentAuthorminniesjocky
(((((hugs hun)))))..... Is there no way you can downsize or cut costs else where.... Have a look at differend savings accounts and there rates... Sorry hun thats all i can suggest. xxx
People have great weddings for a few grand or less... Could you post you budget so we can help you cut it down?
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CommentAuthorMrs Steer
sendin u hugs xx im sure us ladies can help you find a way xx
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CommentAuthorOneDayMrsSmith
I agree with Dove, I'm sure we could all help out in some way? Ooh I am sorry for you, even saving a £10 a week isn't bad! That's how we're going to do it! x
CommentAuthorfee21
really sad news hun hopefully you can find away round it hun soon xx
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
Hope u find a way to still have ur wedding. My mum and step-dad got married after being together for 16yrs. They kept putting it off due to finances and eventually thought if thy kept doing tht thy would never get married. Thy done it on a shoe string and only cost them a couple o grand. Y not go for a small wedding witha meal and then have a reception on another date tht might cut costs a bit xx
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
dnt want to sound mean or owt but why does it have to cost so much. My wedding is costing 3k and everything is perfect. I marry the love of my life and at night we party. You can defo find a cheaper option and dnt book things that arent mega important x
CommentAuthorVintageChic
I agree with Dove, have a look at pics so far on my profile we're having nice venue and church and we're doing it on a £5k budget
Dove's right post your budget we can help you see where else you can cut down xXx
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CommentAuthorMrs Rebecca Hossfeld
Yup we could try & help you make some savings here & there you'd be surprised how much you can save just by looking around & being savvy.
I know ours was a VERY small wedding & we have his mum to thank for our reception & stuff but we did our for waaaaaaaaaaay under £1000!
CommentAuthortoni400
You can still get married for much less. I think you should reconsider. We're getting married for 4000 which i think is still quite alot and im having everything i need and want xx
CommentAuthorRags
As above, wtf. many people get married for much less than 11k.
Oh well if spending all that money on 1 day is more important than the vows, sorry to hear its not happening.
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CommentAuthorZoe81
I'm 100% sure you can do it on waaaaaaaaaaaay less than £11k!!! Almost everyone I know is doing it for under £5, it's only the lucky ones who's parents are contributing or paying for it all that have a big budget!
Z x
CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
you can totally get married for like half of that, have a look around, what do you call cheap fothe venue etc?
CommentAuthormomari
RAGS i am think the same.we have wedding for less than 3k because i wanna get married not to get posh party
CommentAuthorltw979
Oh definately dont lose out on your day because yopu dont think you can afford it. These ladies are fab with money saving ideas! Hope you have the perfect day whenever that may be! x
CommentAuthorangelan1986
hi, if you cant cut down on the wedding how about cut down on everything else? do xmas on a budget, tell people you cant buy gifts as you are saving for your wedding and the same with birthdays xx
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
We had to cancel our wedding earlier this year due to money problems, and I was gutted too, but now we have decided to have our church wedding, just have 40 guests and do the wedding reception in our garden with marquee, bunting, vintage bone china tea sets and fairy lights. No it wasnt' what we originally wanted but we want to get married so much that spending just about £1000 on our wedding is fine, the outcome will be that we are married and happy. But I agree with angela on this one, cut down on other occassions, they will understand as the money is going towards something very special. We are doing the same for our Xmas, just getting gifts for the children but not buying for each other. I'm happy as long as I have wine anyway, lol. Hope it all works out for you. xx
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CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
could you not change the budget? and just tell ppl xmas is slashed this yr we have! i'm sure ppl will understand xx
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CommentAuthorloucubitt1987
i have a budget of 5k, and that includes a long weekend in paris for a honeymoon.. cut that out and it'd be around 4k.. im saving little and often, and i have a donation from my grandparents. you can have a fabulous wedding on a smaller budget! like suggested above, why dont you post your budget plan and we can all look to break it down for you.. im sure there will be plenty of people who can point out where you save some dough! we're all happy to help xx
CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
My budget is 3k. You could down size and try and go on ebay you can find fab deals.
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CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
i agree with the ladies, downsize. it isnt the amount of money spent thats the important thing, its the fact that you are geting married! maybe cute the guest list for the wedding and wedding breakfast down to an intimate group of close friends and or family and have a dj or something for everyone else in the eveining! you dont need 11k to have an amaizing wedding!! stick your budget up and we will help you scale things down and shop around for things!!!
CommentAuthorlinzi
we moved our wedding forward a year and as a result slashed our budget. We just slashed the guest list for the ceremony and meal which saved a fortune.
post your numbers and budget, and I bet we could help you get married a year earlier too!
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CommentAuthorBee
i agree with all the ladies, there are def ways of doing it on a budget. Even buying a few bits here and there, things all mount up. bx
CommentAuthorloubylou
i totally agree with everyone here, we are on such a tight budget, i would rather spend the money on my children and still have a fab wedding day, we are just happy to be getting married to one another and having the important people (approx 120) to celebrate our special day with us. we are having a late church wedding and and evening buffet and disco, cutting out the meal is so much cheaper. dress was bought from a bridal shop in the sale of discontinued dresses, its a maggie sottero dress and i love it! you can easily get married and have a lovely day for much cheaper. i wouldnt postpone it, i would sit and see what can be done to reduce the costs. good luck xx
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CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
Bee that's EXACTLY what I've been doing, a little bit here and there. At the end of the day all I want is my partner to be my husband, I'm doing the best I can on one wage. My motto : If we can afford it, we shall have it, If we DON'T have it, we aint gonna miss it! P.S I'm working to a VERY tight budget too, and also have 6 birthdays from September - December 26th, as well as Christmas , if I can do it on one wage ... YOU can do it too Emma !
CommentAuthorTattieSoup
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I think you have options, so don't give up. You can save over a longer period (eg delay the wedding rather than cancel it) and you can probably reduce the budget by sourcing things carefully and choosing slightly cheaper versions where nobody will notice. On the other hand, I think some of the comments above (eg Rags') are mean and unnecessary, you only get to get married once and if you want to wait until you can have your dream day that's fair enough.
Some of the things you said above that you are going to have to spend on don't seem that bad to me - eg your daughter's second birthday, two year olds don't really have that much idea what's going on so could you not just buy her one non-expensive toy to distract her, then pad it out with stuff she actually needs that you would have to buy anyway, like clothes? When my brothers and sisters were that age they seemed to enjoy the unwrapping much more than playing with the toys!!
As for other birthdays and Christmas, they really don't have to cost a fortune - choose thoughtful gifts like a good book that you can get for £5 and that will be appreciated, and don't buy for anyone except immediate family. Most people I know with kids only buy for each other, their kids and their parents, and when it comes to parents I bet if you spoke to them, they would rather you saved the money for the wedding anyway.
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I agree with what everyone has said, try to downsize and pay for things as you go. Reduce your budget etc.... We are getting married on a 4k budget in 17 months time, but have paid for a lot of things as we went along from bay of e etc so it doesnt feel like it has come out of our wedding budget as such. There are enough brides on here who could help you find ways to cut costs and still have a beautiful day.
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
Between us all, we will all have links of sellers who have been bargain prices, use those links, save yourself an absolute fortune!
CommentAuthorGoff
Mines come in at £3k give or take a couple of hundred :-)
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CommentAuthorEriksfjord
Ok - we got ours in at £6.5k - you will have more than enough - with a bit of clever planning and some hard work it can be done. Everyone thought we had spent at least twice what we did! You have plenty of time and there are loads of venues around your area - I know I am not far away and did look down your way! I agree with everyone else I bet between us we could get you married a year earlier and hit the budget! After all it is what we are all good at! xx
CommentAuthorlinzi
ok, going by your calculations, I reckon you were saving about £317 a month.
So if yo save £200 a month (not including December orJanuary this year or next) that will still give you £4k and you can get married end of 2012? or if you really wanted to keep going until 2013 like you had planned then you could have £6400.
that is MORE than do-able. And it means you dont have to save anything in December or January so you get to have Christmas too.
We all have to struggle through birthdays and christmas hun, but we manage. We have to or we just dont get married. And if you dont save, then you will never get married!
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CommentAuthorlelbel1
Get yourselves down the registry office and tie the knot, then have a big party for your 1st anniversary! x
CommentAuthorAttention seeker :)
11k is a huge budget im sure with a little help on here we could help you get it down mine comes in at about 4/5k
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CommentAuthorsbride
We have told people we are not doing xmas presents this year, we are only buying for our girls. U will just have to tell people that you are not doing xmas or birthdays till your wedding is all paid for. People will understand, they have with us. Im sure they would rather see u get married then have a xmas present of birthday present from u. Or if u do wanna do birthdays just but something small. I brought H2B's mum an orcid flower from sainsburys for £6.50. She was really chuffed with it. I think u should go ahead and carry on saving hun x
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CommentAuthorMonicaGeller
sweetheart there must be a way - have you considered doing it out of season, like a winter wedding. My bro is doing february and theirs is costing a fraction of the price.
xxx
CommentAuthorOuttahere
You can have the perfect wedding on a much smaller budget than 11k. It may not be exactly what you want but aren't the vows the most important part of the day? My budget was 5k it's now 4k and we're doing pretty well on that. Be brutal with the guest list too. I told my h2b to write his list a few weeks ago and he reeled off about 50 names and then had to stop and think of the rest... At that point I told him they weren't that important because he really had to think to remember them. Only invite people you talk to. Also; Look on the bay - I have bought LOADS of my things off there. £3 for a veil... I bought it as a 'joke' for the hen night but it is so gorgeous I'm now keeping it for the day! Use your imagination and you can save money in a million and one ways. Good Luck.
CommentAuthorbabycham79
a the girls said you can do it on a smaller budget i got most things from the bay too and also from a girl selling things on fb we spent just under £3k on ours and we had a fab day x
CommentAuthormrs jenkinson 2b
Ours in coming in way under 3k and thats thanks to internet lol so many good deals if u look and if u make you own cards then it saves at least £100 and they so easy didnt think i could do them but i had a go. Just try and think which things u could urself like favours sur u will be able to do it when u planned then xx good luck hun xxx
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CommentAuthorChrissy
Sorry to hear that babe....that's rubbish! We have explained to everyone that every penny we earn is being saved and that just for that time all they will be getting is a card! Everyone was so supportive and understanding even the grandchildren, who to be fair will get a present but a much smaller one than usual. All these people are invited and I told them I want the best day not just for us but for them too. We have even cancelled Christmas and I'm working over the holidays for extra pennies. Maybe you could try explaining to your people? Christmas and birthdays are every year, you will only have one wedding. Good luck hun xxxx
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
it can certainly be done on a budget and as most the people on here have said it can still be amazing, you have plenty of time to hunt out the bargains you want for your day x
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Same here i have h2b, dad and 2 uncles and Xmas all in è weeks and we're hat not doing It. We're spending 20 on each person (not uncles) and thats it - rest of Xmas fund will then go in the wedding fund
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CommentAuthorclaireyb101
Think the rest of the girls have given all the advice i can give, hope you can still have it. x
CommentAuthorChrissy~MrsFaulds2b
How about a small intimate ceremony later in the day with just your immediate family, followed by photos and then have a party in the evening when all your guests can go. M&S do some gorgeous cakes and you could always ask a good friend if they'll take your pictures. Like the girls say you can have a fabulous wedding on much less than £11k. Get your self on the bay of e, and gum-tree etc. There are so many bargains to be had.
CommentAuthorRags
Tattiesoup, I don't think I was that mean. 11k is a big budget. Other people had already pointed out ways to save money. If the post had read I need money saving tips or I'l not be able to do it I may have given better advice!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
you can easiely still give gifts at christmas but cut down ......my sister and i have done that since we both had children ....they children get no more than £10 each..... and i buy a joint present for sis and bil that has to be the funniest thing you can get for £10
