hi all i have been with m partner for 4 and half years and we have been engaged for 2 and half, i have a daughter who will be 5 in February, shes severely disabled and we have just been told that her health is deteriorating. she had a collapsed ling in September and since then her health has been getting worse. im scared of losing her and so badly want her at my wedding but we don't know how much time shes got left and me and my partner cannot afford to pay for a wedding so soon. Does anyone know how we can make it happen its been very emotional and stressful to learn that she might not be with us by next year and really want her at my wedding :( thanks any suggestions would be grateful x
CommentAuthorAlexN29
Hi, I am so sorry to hear about your little girl. We had the idea to just get married then have a BBQ in a families back garden. It wasn't going to be a typical wedding but it was going to be so much cheaper. I don't know if this could work for you, as we had a small guest list and a reasonably sized back garden. Wishing you the best of luck xx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Is there any help from your parents? It's an awful situation. You can do a lot for very little. If you have a church wedding see if you can use their hall for the reception. Get your dress on the bay or from a charity bridal shop. See if any bridesmaids would be willing to get their own dresses. Ask all your guests to bring a dish or bottle. Decorate the venue with flowers from people's gardens, and use garden flowers for centrepieces too. Don't bother with favours, you don't need them. If you've got birthdays coming up see if you can have money for the wedding instead of presents. Ask around to see if you've got a friend with a nice car who will drive you. Groom, best man and ushers can wear their own suits. Do you know anyone who's good with a needle and thread who can make waistcoats? You possibly won't want a honeymoon with your daughter unwell, but if anyone can care for her for a weekend you could have a couple of nights in a B&B.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Lots of love to your little girl.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorVictoriaB
I knew a couple who had lots of money but didn't want the fuss they caught the bus to the registry office and sat on the park bench and ate fish and chips together then went home on the bus a happily married couple! You don't need to be rich to enjoy getting married, how about ask round local rooms/halls if they could let you use for free? Or pubs with free function rooms they might let you because your guests will be buying drinks etc? You could buy a China dress and rent a suit, cheap flower girl dresses ,I only paid £40 each for mine age 8+9 so younger age would probably be even cheaper! Ask family if they can all chip in helping to make a buffet as you want your little girl to have this ever so special day with you. I'm so sorry for your situation hun,if you do decide to go ahead with it I make artifical bridal bouquets and would be more than happy to donate you a bouquet for your wedding. Xx
im so sorry to hear about your little girl, could you just have a registry office wedding mid week is cheaper, then just go to a restaurant and ask people to pay for there own food and drinks I wouldn't have an issue with this, if you wanted a dress speak to your local shop and see if you could put a deposit down on one of there samples borrow and clean it and get the deposit back just explain your situation. Then later you could have a blessing in a church with a party after with a portrate of your little girl. Really hope the worst doesnt happen thinking of you and your family
CommentAuthorDawnK21
I love the idea of a 'bring your own dish' to a wedding party. Would be lovely to get your friends and family involved. And they will know your circumstances and want to help.
Just book a simple ceremony, both civil and church will only cost you around £400 to £500. Then call in every family and friend favour. You might be surprised to see how they will all love to help.
Best wishes and thoughts to your gorgeous daughter.
CommentAuthorCoral
My auntie just had a registry office wedding and we just all made food for a buffet at my grans house and someone they knew made the cake but lots of places do free hire and make money on the bar You don't need a lot and a weddings not about the dress, or the rings or the cake its about who you choose to share it with xxx
CommentAuthorGemmaB596
So, so sorry to hear about your daughter :( I really hope she will pull through. I was just wondering where you live? My aunt arranges a lot of parties and functions for her local community so has a lot of good contacts who I am sure would be happy to provide help at reduced prices, but that would be local to SE London and the surrounding areas, unfortunately, so I am not sure if you live nearby? Really liking the ideas suggested above about a church/registry office wedding, buffet and a dress from the internet. If you are creative then perhaps you could think about whether you would like to 'DIY' extras, and think about holding the wedding mid-week to keep costs down, and using a free function room at a restaurant or pub.
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
So sorry to hear about your daughter. I'd say look into doing what everyone else suggested. Maybe you could get married at a registry office for her sake and then if you wanted to have a bigger 'renewal of your vows' when you could afford it.
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CommentAuthorElinor Claire
If you explain your circumstances you'd be amazed how many people will want to help, even if they're complete strangers.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Just looked at your profile, and Llanelli isn't so far away from me in Cardiff. I'm a flautist and would be happy to help with music.
30th August 2014 was the best birthday ever.
It was the day that I became Mrs. Dixon.
CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Im so sorry about your daughter, keep strong. When I was at a wedding fair the other week there was this foundations called the Wedding wishing well foundation, they help organise and fund weddings for people who are terminally ill, I know its your daughter not you or your partner, but maybe they can help in some way, and If you say to people your circumstances Im sure lots of people would be willing to do things at a reduced rate, at cost or free to help you have your day with your daughter. x
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August 2011 Got our own place, 2011 Had our Baby Girl,
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