Hi everyone. Don't even know where to start! We're getting married on Saturday! Stress has gone through the roof in our house. We had cars booked deposit of £100 paid. But had a falling out with family member who was supposed to be paying the other £240 & for our cake. now we're left with no cars no cake. Money's tight enough as it is as still have stuff we need to buy and pay for. My H2b is going nuts about having no cars and no cake and we're stressing about the stuff we still need to buy. & feels like we're arguing about everything. Has anyone else ever been through this. I'm up to my eyeballs in stress and no where to turn. Sorry for the rant just needed to vent! :-(
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Firstly just breath your marrying your loved one of Saturday and just focus on that. But with all the rubbish stuff that's happening. I would write a list of what's the priority first then work down. If your not fussed about cars get family or friends to put some ribbon on their car and drive you. Cake you can get one at m&s or even @sda if ur happy with a small one and can decorate yourself or are u able to borrow money from bank or family to pay for the cake n cars if u really want them. What else have u got to sort? U could also speak to cake and cars and ask if you could pay it afterwards due to what's happened and get a payment plan in place x
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
We have had it all, don't even talk to me about fall outs.
I agree with what's been said above though, the important thing is you are marrying the man you love on Saturday. Try not to argue about it all, easier said than done I know but don't let problems caused by other people come between you.
CommentAuthorLorraineL45
Thanks for the advice ladies. H2b is freaking out because he hates the ceremony room & reception rooms as they were changed at last minute due to a football match (getting married in our local football stadium) so his bubbles went pop as he had this big vision in his head of how the day would look and now he feels like slowly but surely things keep going wrong. Cars & cake, neices dress doesn't fit & only 3days to find a new one. Parts of his outfit. He Told me last night "he won't be happy on the day" I see where he's coming from but.... The only thing that matters to me really is marrying him(which is happily do in the local registry office). He doesn't want to postpone the wedding & neither do I but I'm unsure if we have the time or the money to fix this. X
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Stay positive Hun, pop into town and hunt around all shops for a new dress debenh@ms have sale on ATM. Has the cake been ordered just not paid? Cars aren't a huge deal as long as u get there lol x
Tell him that those little things don't matter, I things don't matter. I have been very similar to him in a way, I keep getting stressed and even said about the wedding being cursed the other day.
All those things that are happening although they're not his vision of how things should be, in the grand scheme of things aren't that bad. People get a lot worse, I have a bridesmaid who is being very elusive about when she's going to be around before the wedding and has even given me the impression she may not be there on the morning of the wedding for me and my in laws are not coming and want nothing to do with us now... it's hard... but I keep trying to remind myself why we wanted to do this in the first place.
CommentAuthorVelcro
could you use a credit card to make up the shortfall? not ideal i know, but it shouldnt take long to pay £240 off tbh. as for cars, well, id just do with out. we didnt bother with cars, i just walked lol. he ended up coming in a limo, which actually ruined his plans. it was a ''surprise'' apparently, but it was his parents wanting to make an entrance, he planned on meeting his friends an hour or two before the wedding, but that went right out of the window...but thats a whole other rant lol
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